I feel like I've been given a "do over"

[daisymommy]

My first son was circumcised. I was very much a part of the mainstream, that believed doctors were like all knowing Gods, who only wanted the very best for us I had never heard of Mothering magazine, or read anything about natural birth, childcare, or parenting. I just didn't know any better at the time. I didn't know there was "another side" to these things.

I don't want to go into our whole circ' story here, I'll do it in the "Circumcision Regret" post instead.

But what I will say is that we just found out yesterday we are having another BOY!!! And one of the very first things that came into my mind when I saw his little penis on the ultrasound screen was "This time his parts are being left alone! No one is going to touch them!" I felt fiercely protective all of a sudden.

I have been thinking for years now that if I ever had another son, I would make things right, I would do better this time around if I was given the chance. I feel like God & the universe is giving me a do-over. I know it doesn't take back the choice I made with my first son, but in some small way, I feel like it is giving me some closure on the issue.

I'm going to order the Circ' article pack from the Mothering store to share with any "curious" family members

Thanks for listening!

[Fellow Traveler]

Great Job there Mom : What a lucky boy. That is what it's all about, when you know better you do better. Stick around we're always happy to have new posters. Again congrats! :

[Nandi]

Congrats! Thanks for sharing!:

[A&A]

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[perspective]

Too bad your first son can't get a "do over" as well.


The tiny silver lining to this is if you ever have the chance to talk someone out of a circ, you can tell the parent "look I have seen it both ways with my boys, and I am telling you there no good reason to circ."

That carries a lot more weight then the person who says "look I circed all my boys and did it because everyone else did, and you should too."

[Quirky]

It takes a lot of courage to make a different, better decision.....good for you!

[Canadian Momma]

Good for you. My sister never wanted a circ with her son and should I ever be blessed with a boy, I'm planning to go the same way. A friend of mine had it done with her boy and (maybe its unrelated) but he seems to have gotten a fair few infections in that area, as opposed to my nephew who's never had problems in that area. Each boy is close in age, with maybe a 4 or 5 month gap in between them.

[amandaleigh37]

Congrats!!! :

I just found out yesterday that I'm having another boy too, and feel the same way you do. I know it won't take back what I did to my first son, but it will stop the cycle in our family and I believe that is huge.

[Quirky]

It is huge. It proves that we don't have to follow "family tradition," no matter how harmful that tradition may be, and that boys don't suffer psychological scars from not being circed like their dads and brothers. It's a great tradition to leave behind in the dustheap of history! :::