Planned hospital birther's thread - Page 6

[heatherweh]

I think my nurse (and all the nurses) was amazing, my doctor was good but surprised me by being VERY different than she was in the office. I labored to 5 cm at home, then to seven cm in the tub, then was begging for the epidural by 8 cm. So, not as I had planned things, but I'm still pretty much at peace with how things went. Its easy to forgive other people for things but I'm kind of having trouble forgiving myself for getting the epidural, but at the time I was pretty freakin happy about my decision. Somehow I ended up with about 12 people in my room, nurses and student nurses and who knows who else was in there, as I was pushing, everyone coaching me- it was surreal. The mirror totally helped me focus and get baby out once I could see his sweet little head, unfortunately it also distracted and somewhat upset me when I pooped on the table. Overall despite all the stuff that did not go as planned, it was a healing experience and each choice was my own, not someone else's, so I got back some of my power.

[HotJabanero]

Originally Posted by MI_Dawn

I'm so sorry, mama. It's a loss, to be sure, of the birth you planned and wanted. HUGS to you.

And I keep meaning to thank you for remembering William and Soren in your signature line. It means so much, and it makes my heart swell every time I see it. :

Thank you for your support it means alot. William and Soren really hit home for me and I think of you all daily. My sis lost her 14 yo daughter last year and while it was not my own it is still very painful and watching my sister and her dh is both heartning (they have deep and unconditional faith and love they will see her again) and deeply sad. There is nothing harder than losing a sweet child.

Originally Posted by Lindsay1234

I also had a perfect first birth, at home and in the water. This one will definitely take some time getting over. DH and I always joked that this pregnancy was the exact opposite of dd1, so the birth will be too. Boy were we right!!!)

I haven't been on here much since the babe was born so I had to search out your story. Sounds like it was a bit crazy. I was at a birth of my sisters who had a 11.6 baby and had shoulder dystocia not a bit fun and with heart issues to boot I should not be complaining.

[QUOTE=FischK;13787619]As I mentioned in the other thread, my birth did not go as planned and ended in a c-section. I am not very happy with the OB on call, to say the least, but then the baby was almost two weeks overdue which conflicts with their policy.QUOTE]

I'm sorry it did not go well and c-section recovery sucks!

Originally Posted by SallyN

mine was amazing. my midwife had sent my birth plan to the hospital in advance, which was good, as the weren't wild about some things. but she put her foot down and no one gave me grief. i almost got the same nurse whom i had for DD1, but requested NOT to have her.

pretty much the only differences between my hospital birth and a home birth were that I HAD to have a hep lock (otherwise my midwife wouldn't have been able to deliver me and I'd have to go with the on-call OB) and when DD needed oxygen, we had to cut the cord earlier than planned in order to bring her to the oxygen, as opposed to bringing the oxygen to us. (my midwife actually delivered her youngest child at home, so she's VERY natural/unfettered supportive)

Originally Posted by heatherweh

I think my nurse (and all the nurses) was amazing, my doctor was good but surprised me by being VERY different than she was in the office. I labored to 5 cm at home, then to seven cm in the tub, then was begging for the epidural by 8 cm. So, not as I had planned things, but I'm still pretty much at peace with how things went. Its easy to forgive other people for things but I'm kind of having trouble forgiving myself for getting the epidural, but at the time I was pretty freakin happy about my decision. Somehow I ended up with about 12 people in my room, nurses and student nurses and who knows who else was in there, as I was pushing, everyone coaching me- it was surreal. The mirror totally helped me focus and get baby out once I could see his sweet little head, unfortunately it also distracted and somewhat upset me when I pooped on the table. Overall despite all the stuff that did not go as planned, it was a healing experience and each choice was my own, not someone else's, so I got back some of my power.

I'm so glad to hear things went well it seems for most!!!
Please don't beat yourself up for the epidural. I agree though it is easier to give others the allowance to be human than it is to give ourselves some slack.