, you JUST had a baby, do give it some time. We always knew that we would have two kids and if we wanted more we would adopt. Mark had the snip when dexter was... I don't know how old he was, but he was 13 lbs, because the doctor said don't lift anything over 10 lbs, so I would have to lay him on mark during the recovery days... but anyway, VERY soon after he was born, at any rate. we were very DONE at that point, and didn't decide to adopt until the kids were 4 and 6...
I don't regret the vasectomy for one second. we would probably have several kids by now, and would not likely have gotten around to adopting. Even if we never do adopt, I'm glad to have had this experience, as heartwrenching as it has been at times.
At the same time, in Canada, it's not that easy to adopt a healthy baby girl. It certainly can happen, and does happen, and happens quite easily for some people, but there are a lot of people waiting, and waiting, and waiting, and a lot of people who will never get chosen by a birthmother -- and you won't likely know the gender ahead of time anyway if you go that route.
Adopting from foster care is also possible, but has the potential for serious heartbreak. It's very difficult to say "I want to adopt a baby girl" through the foster care system, but certainly not impossible... you could become a foster parent through the aboriginal family services agency in vancouver (VACFAS) and see how it goes -- they always need foster parents, and you might even be able to say you only want to take baby girls with a strong liklihood of availability for adoption....
adopting from the US is another possibility -- there is a need for families for AA infants, and you can find mothers wanting to place their children on your own, to save money. In that case, you'd likely be looking at some degree of openness with the birthfamily in your adoption, which is a good thing, as odd as it sounds right off the bat. Just make sure you do your research with this, as there are scams and every state has different laws about what costs you'd have to cover for the mom -- and then there is also the chance that she'll change her mind after the birth, which you have to be 100% fine and supportive with. I think that's easier when you have children already, as opposed to couples waiting for their first child -- they also might not "get" how hard it would be to place your child, or not as much as a mom would get it, yk?
Any international adoption will cost you 10-20K (or a lot more if you go with certain countries, but I wouldn't...), and the only reason we are thinking of moving towards that at this point is because we are able to adopt as americans and will receive pretty much all of our money back in tax refunds in the US if we move there after NZ, which we are planning to do (though we don't know for sure yet). So, unfortunately, adopting has become more than a little difficult, though it is the only surefire way to get that daughter you've always dreamed of!
I don't want to dissuade you, because it is an amazing journey, and for people who don't have debt and can save up a few thousand dollars, it's actually really not hard at all to adopt from Ethiopia, it just costs money for everyone to do their job in making sure everything is on the up and up -- if you're at all interested in that, you can go to adoption seminars or talk with an agency to see how you feel about it.
feel free to pm me if you want to talk adoption at all, but I would try to get Tyson to wait on that snip (or you can have sperm saved -- I would recommend doing that if you're even a little unsure...) until things calm down a little -- they really shouldn't be considered reversible, unless Dr. Pollack is using his "removable plug" now. I do have to say though, there is no birth control that rivals the snip!!