Fathers and circumcision decisions

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

It is as simple as refusing to do it. My dh wanted it done but I wasnt about to sacrifice a body part that didnt even belong to me to make dh happy.

As for the giving birth analogy that is just silly really everyone has to be born one way or another or they die keeping a foreskin has never killed anyone but having one cut off sure has. Every year at least one boy in the USA dies from circ complications. Either bleedng to death or infection.

If a boy is born without a foresin it is marked on his birth record that he has a deformity.

There are no valid medical reasons for RIC but there are hundreds for keeping the foreskin including how the intact penis affects the sex lives of both the man and the woman. While a circed penis still does what it is supposed to it dosnt do it the way it is supposed to.

[becca_howell]

My DH, dad and brother are circ'd. When we found out we were pregnant, I had already done some research on circ and was very wary, first and foremost for performing a COSMETIC surgery on a newborn. I approached DH with it, and he asked what the AAP said and "all my research" led me to believe. When I told him what I had found out, he said, "Okay, I'm cool with not circ'ing him." He also didn't want "too much" foreskin taken off, because that happened to him.

I would ask him if he's changed his mind. If not, be persistent in a loving way. Open up to him about how you feel about the procedure. Be honest and give him some of the great resources on here to read. Be firm (again, with love) and ask him to give you a good MEDICAL reason to have a MEDICAL procedure done. If he can't, then he shouldn't insist on the surgery.

[Lisa1970]

Fathers and circumcision decisions

After recently receiving some emails from someone on this board (thanks someone!) I changed my mind about circumcision and have decided that I do not want to do it. So I went to dh to tell him. I tried to show him the video of the circumcision, but then he tells me he doesn't want to see someone give birth either, doesn't mean it should not happen. Ok..I get his point. I never viewed the video myself, I just saw the begining and shut it off not able to watch the rest.

Then my dh brings up that he thinks it is weird to not circ and that our child will be the only non circ boy out there. Then I told him the truth....our oldest is 14 yrs old and I am the only person I have ever known to circumcize boys. Everyone that I know whether their children are circ or not..their sons are not circ. I started listing off the names of people we know who did not circ. He was shocked.

I have not had an answer since from him. How do you handle it when all the boys in the family in the family are circumcised and the baby is not? What if dh still wants the baby circumcised?

[Graceoc]

It wasn't a big deal for my DH or my older son (both circed) There is only a 4 year age gap, so they boys have obviously seen each others parts. My intact son is very much a nature boy, so we see it alot When he was two and first could retract my older son mentioned something about how it was different then his, but we didn't make a big deal out of it. Just basically said, yeah, you are different...and that was that. I mean the boys look nothing alike in other regards, so why would their parts need to look the same? KWIM? That 'argument' just never made sense to me....

[Yulia_R]

Great news, mama :!

Flip it around. It's not you who need to give your dh a reason to leave your son intact (intact IS a norm in 85% of the world and now in almost 50% of the US and is declining every year). It's HIM who needs to find good reasons to inflict this pain and trauma on a perfectly healthy baby. So, turn the whole argument around and let him do the work. Since there really is not a single good reason to circ, he will never be able to win this one .

[Yulia_R]

This new 20 min long video is VERY educational on the subject. You can definitely ask him to watch it together. It is VERY well done and educates in a gentle way. It shows doctors talking about the issue as well as a victim of female genital mutilation compares the two. I HIGHLY recommend this video.

Circumcision Decision
http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...30319025&hl=en