***The One Thread** March 8-15 - Page 3

[BelovedK]

mommabeehilly, I am so sorry, I know what it is like to have your hopes dashed

[sleepingbeauty]

mommabee--so sorry. i hope you had a good birthday anyway

Lauren--I'm getting my teeth out too soon.. I'm terrified! I want to get knocked out for it but when I had knee surgery at 16, my heart rate plummeted so that might not be possible for me. I'm waaaaay too sensitive to go without pain killers so that's obviously out. That leaves gas.....and I'm afraid that i'll freak out on it like the last time I ever smoked pot. :

[mariacm]

Originally Posted by mommabeehilly

so sorry for high hopes....for us all. my temp is way down this morning and my fmu test was negative. so i think i might have been pregnant for a moment. because there is clearly a difference between the test yesterday and today.

the full moon is on wednesday, which will probably bring the beginning of my new cycle and new possibilities.

thanks for all of the birthday wishes. hoping the good vibes will turn into BIRTH-day wishes soon.

peace and patience to us all. lovingly sending out baby

Oh, so sorry to hear that.
: for you for next cycle

[mompy]

mommabeehilly--sorry that happened. It's so disappointing. This is like the month of chemical pregnancies for a bunch of us!

AFM--I think I finally have linked my chart in my signature. This may very possibly be the craziest cycle I've ever had--CD 21 and no O in sight. (Although I see that I am listed in waiting to know I should probably be changed to wtf is going on? My CM seems to have dried up today. I guess I'll see what happens in a week or two--it may just be an anovulatory cycle. I'm feeling a little intermittently panicky about it, because of my age. Also feeling really upset and like I need to be very serious about losing some weight asap.

[Safariguri]

Help... Need Advice!

Ok... so I didn't put this on my chart until today, because I honestly wasn't sure. DH and I weren't really trying yet, but we also weren't avoiding it really either. The silly guy said he was 'throwing me a bone' by having unsafe sex, which was funny at the time, but now...

So I noticed my temps were up, and I saw a couple people here on the forum noticed it too, so I took a test, and well, it was positive. I went to the store to get brand new ones, two more positive. That was Saturday.
I had really bad cramps later that day, and pain in my lower right side. I saw a spot Sunday morning, and got nervous... I hadn't planned on a pregnancy yet, but if I was, I all of a sudden really really didn't want to lose it. So I took two more tests. Both positive. Then Sunday night... bleeding. (tmi alert) It was red... it hadn't hit my underwear yet, just when I was wiping. I got real upset. But just tried to relax, and I thought.. well, that's that. I noticed it again later that evening, one more time. So I used a small tampon last night, and when I went to check this morning.. nothing. And now, this afternoon still nothing. I'm having cramping like AF is going to come.. but I don't know what to think.
I tried to schedule a doctors appt for this week... scared of just that fact that I have no idea what is going on... and I can't get an appt for like two weeks. Then the free clinic I can use because I am a teacher WON'T see me because it's a possible pregnancy issue.

I don't know what to do, or what to think really. I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to fall. Anyone have any advice? I guess I just have to wait it out, but this is so hard. I've wanted a baby for so long, and DH is actually on board now... I know if I'm really pregnant and then miscarry that I can try again, and that's okay... it's just hard right now what to think or do. Work is hard to concentrate on, I keep wanting to go to the bathroom to 'check and see'.

Not sure what to think.

[Lauren31]

Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty

Lauren--I'm getting my teeth out too soon.. I'm terrified! I want to get knocked out for it but when I had knee surgery at 16, my heart rate plummeted so that might not be possible for me. I'm waaaaay too sensitive to go without pain killers so that's obviously out. That leaves gas.....and I'm afraid that i'll freak out on it like the last time I ever smoked pot. :

I am glad I am not the only one who has fears like this! at the pot...

[Lauren31]

Safariguri

I don't have any experience with that but I have heard that some pregnant women do end up spotting (even red) and think it is almost a period... I think the best thing to do would be to wait it out and if you can't then I guess go to the ER if that is an option? I am unsure about how they could help you if you are miscarrying though... I just want to say that I am thinking of you and

[momtothebean]

Safariguri: This might not be helpful at all, but the same thing happened to me with my dd. She was a complete surprise - we weren't TTC and in fact were "attempting" to use the w/d method (which we both thought was working splendidly). In the week or so leading up to my missed period, I had a couple of days were I bled. I honestly thought it was a very light, and very early period. It seemed exactly the same to me. Its only in hindsight that I think it might have been implantation, er, or, something else I'm not aware of. The upshot is that I dd was carried to term and everything was fine. Hang in there.

[pacificbliss]

safariguri I had red spotting with two pregnancies. One I carried to term (he is now 2) and the other I lost at 9 weeks. Sorry, that probably isn't so helpful. In both cases the + pregnancy test, pain and spotting meant a trip to the Dr immediately. The first time (miscarriage) the doctor's office was closing and I was sent to urgent care. The second time I used midwives and they got me in the same day. In both cases they did an ultrasound to see if they could spot anything and monitored betaHCG levels over several days. Ultrasound didn't show anything either time. HCG levels were doubling in one case but not the other. If you are still in pain you should go in. Urgent care or emergency if you have to. It's just to check for an ectopic pregnancy. If you're not in pain you can wait and see. I hope it's just a little early 1st trimester spotting.

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by witchypants

Actually I was more just about having dial up! Anywhoo, I has the lames! Something's gone terribly wrong and I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Lol......witchypants, you're almost there. Go back to your sig edit page, highlight the code for the chart, it's something like "" Then go up and click on the little globe, with the chart code still highlighted, then type in the website address. YOu'll get it! Ladies, am I describing this right?

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by Cellist

Tear, thanks for the hugs. Just went to the SIL's baby shower this weekend and it was even kind of hard to go to that, but hopefully things will work out and I will be in the same position in several months. Also, I was wondering...do you want to be on the "we remember these folks" list in the Oct DDC?

Cellist, you are so thoughtful!!! Thank you, that would be special.

[Tear78]

Originally Posted by mommabeehilly

so sorry for high hopes....for us all. my temp is way down this morning and my fmu test was negative. so i think i might have been pregnant for a moment. because there is clearly a difference between the test yesterday and today.

the full moon is on wednesday, which will probably bring the beginning of my new cycle and new possibilities.

thanks for all of the birthday wishes. hoping the good vibes will turn into BIRTH-day wishes soon.

peace and patience to us all. lovingly sending out baby

I'm so sorry, momma. Take care of yourself!

[mommabeehilly]

Originally Posted by mompy

mommabeehilly--sorry that happened. It's so disappointing. This is like the month of chemical pregnancies for a bunch of us!

i know. it's a little unnerving. that very notion has lead me to believe i will not early test again. i think that will help me emotionally (and financially, ).

and yes mompy...i had a wonderful birthday!

[Tear78]

Ok, sorry!!!! Fourth post is a charm, right? I'm short on time, and I really want to post to all of these and this is the quickest way.

Safariguri - I'm so sorry you're going through this! How stressful! It's possible to have bleeding and carry to term. I think you're wise making an appointment to find out more. In the meantime, if you start bleeding through more than a pad per hour I would go to the ER. I didn't catch if you mentioned how heavy the bleeding was. I'll be thinking about you! Didn't I so totally say earlier that your chart was a pregnant one? I'm getting good. I will think sticky sticky thoughts for you!!!!

AFM - MY TEMP WENT DOWN TODAY, WHEEEEEE!!!!!::: I know, it's the opposite of what I usually want, but YAYYY!

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by tear78

afm - my temp went down today, wheeeeee!!!!!::: I know, it's the opposite of what i usually want, but yayyy!

yaaaaaayyyyyyyyy!!!!!

(has the bleeding stopped too? I hope so. LOVE YOU!)

[mommabeehilly]

safari--you could be fine. i will think thoughts for you! in the mean time take a walk or do something that will help clear your mind.

oh here is one of my recent favorite quotes....
Nature is the one place where miracles not only happen, but happen all the time. ~ Thomas Wolfe
it is something that really speaks to me on this adventure of TTC...which i think is included in the term "nature".

tear--that's great! the body is an amazing thing! : for an O in the near future!

[Lauren31]

You guys really have helped to cheer me up... thanks.

[BeauGeek]

I can be taken off the list, thanks.

[mompy]

safariguri--It's not unusual to have some spotting or bleeding around the time you would expect to have a period when you're pregnant. It's actually more common than you'd think. It's also not uncommon to have cramps like your period is about to start any second, when in fact you are actually pregnant. It sounds like you're not having a lot of bleeding, just a bit of fresh spotting, which also sounds like it's clearing up. It also sounds like you have a pretty strong and early positive, and your temps are still up. My personal guess here is that you're just pregnant and everything is going to be fine!

That said--the only real dangerous situation here would be ectopic pregnancy. Which is really hard to diagnose unless it gets big enough that it starts to rupture your tube. So if you start bleeding more, experience shoulder or neck pain, serious sharp or stabbing abdominal pain either on one side or in the middle, dizziness or lightheadedness, you should go to the ER immediately, as those can be signs of ectopic pregnancy that is rupturing. However--that doesn't often happen this early (usually closer to 5-6 weeks I think). When you called the doctor's office did you tell them specifically that you just found out that you are pregnant and that you are having spotting/cramping/pain on one side? Unfortunately it's sort of a wait and see type of situation--even a physical exam or ultrasound isn't going to show much at this stage, a beta HCG could tell you if your HCG levels are low for this stage of pregnancy which sometimes happens with ectopic pregnancies (which it doesn't sound like as you are getting a clear positive test at 12 dpo) but that still doesn't tell you that much.

Now that I've given you all the drastic doom and gloom scenario--I had a lot of cramping like I was about to start AF for days before I got my BFP with my daughter, and then I had heavy, serious bleeding at 6 weeks pregnant--so heavy that I woke up one morning wondering why my pajamas and the bed were all wet and realized that it was bright red blood soaking everything. An ultrasound showed a sac and a fetal pole but no heartbeat, and my midwife though it looked like I was miscarrying. Three days later I wasn't bleeding anymore and hadn't passed any clots or tissue, and lo and behold my "miscarriage" is now three years old and tearing up the house! So hang in there--this might be your moment!!! Take a prenatal vitamin, drink lots of water, and remember to breathe!! Keep us updated--we're rooting for you!

[mompy]

Oh, just a little funny to share with you all from my day:

A little while ago DH came home and I was in the bathroom (with the door open because that's how we roll around here.) I checked internally and lo and behold, EWCM again. ?????? I am so over this cycle now and tired of getting all worked up over thinking that I'm going to O any minute that I said, "I'm ignoring you!!!!" DH popped up and was like, "What? Did you say that you're ignoring me?" "No, honey, I'm not ignoring you--I was talking to my fertile mucus." Only while TTC!