~Weekly Chat~March 9-15~

[minsca]

Decided to start the new weekly chat as I'm bored and trying not to avoid cleaning the breakfast dishes.

I actually have a relatively exciting week this week. On thursday I'm taking our oldest and we are going to go see "Annie", with my mom, dad, sisters, brother, sisinlaw, and neice and nephew. DH is going to stay home and look after DD2 and my other nephew. I'm hoping that DD1 will like the play. It might be a bit long for her, but she loves singing and dancing so I think she will be ok.

This is DH's second last week for his teaching practicum. I can not wait till he is done. Well I can and I can't. I'm excited for him to be done as he has been working long hours preparing for each days lesson. And in April he can start subbing which will finally bring some $ in! However when he's done we are going to be moving in with my inlaws. As we don't get possession of our house until the end of July. As much as I actually do like my inlaws, I am not looking forward to living with them for the next few months. I think, they think I'm a bit crazy with my parenting style. But as DH says they haven't said anything yet, so they probably won't start now.

[MrsReady2bMama]

I was just thinking we needed a new thread! Thanks Pam Where are you going to see Annie? That sounds like a lot of fun! And I can totally relate to living with parents - we were with mine for six months last year while we renovated our home! It's wonderfully generous on their part, but definitely a relief to be back in our own space. Think of the money you will save and the extra hands with the kids though!

Nothing too exciting for me this week. Counting the days until next Monday's dr. appt. I think we are going to tell my parents and his after the appt. I actually already made DD a onesie that says "Big Sister" on the front and "November 2009" on the back, so we're ready!

My belly does seem to be puffing out more than usual this week. Bummer - not sure how I'm going to hide it seven more weeks!!

[ShwarmaQueen]

Pam, have fun taking your DD1 to Annie! I can't wait to take mine to theatre, I just haven't had the right opportunity yet, but maybe we'll take her to the Nutcracker this year.

Nothing here for me really. I got my 2nd HCG beta drawn this morning, will know results by tomorrow afternoon. Of course I'm so anxious since my first was so high. I still need to decide if I want to go ahead with the u/s on Friday- my understanding is that they can't really see much of anything (except hb) at 6 wks...so I'm considering just waiting until my 11wk if tomorrow's beta comes back normal.

[Daisie125]

Pam - I hope you all have a great time at Annie! I hope the living with the inlaws goes by quick for you. I adore mine, but can't imagine living with them!

Gina - The onsie sounds so cute! We did something similar with DS... he wore a big brother shirt to his first birthday party. I'm poofing out too... I know it's fat and not uterus, but it certaintly is trying to look like a pregnant belly!

ShwarmaQueen - I personally would wait as long as you can for the u/s if it comes back normal. I know several people who didn't see anything on an ultrasound until WAY past the 'normal' range and it just causes all sorts of stress. (Not that I took my own advise until my last pregnancy)

As for me, I made my first midwife appt... I'll be going in on Apr 18th - I'll be 9w6d... We are wanting to hear the h/b but I'm not going to get my hopes up since two out of my three pregnancies we couldn't find it until past 14 weeks.

My DS has been pulling up my shirt and rubbing my belly and talking to it saying things like "mama! I'm in your belly!" we haven't told him yet (he's not even 3 yet) so we thought that was kind of neat

[roomformore]

Annie sounds wonderful! I've always loved that play.

We've always had trouble finding hb early on as well. When I was pregnant with our twins they never found more than one until after 20 weeks- good thing we didn't know we were having twins until that point!

I'm right there with everyone else and the pants not fitting. I didn't think it'd happen this fast! I have two more weeks before I see my sister to get maternity pants and I hope I can last that long. I keep thinking how lucky it is that spring is coming and I can wear nice loose skirts. I'd like to keep this pregnancy a secret at work for a while, but work-out pants do not hide the baby belly well, so I'm not sure if I can do that.

I have a message out to the midwife, but no response yet. She books fast so I want to meet with her right away. There aren't many homebirth midwives in this area, and I really like this woman, so cross your fingers for me!

I can't stop sleeping. I was up from 5-7:30 this morning and then I went back to bed until noon! I'm hoping it gets a little better as dh won't be home during the day anymore in a few weeks.

[MrsReady2bMama]

Overwhelming thirst has started for me! Can't get enough of the good stuff - water Actually had to put a humidifier in my bedroom last night because I feel like this babe is sucking all the water out of me!!

So funny about your DS Daisie! My DD pointed at my belly and said "baby" yesterday. She did this once before we found out we were preggers too. I think they are so intuitive!!

Shwarma I'm on pins & needles awaiting your beta!!

roomformore - I agree about it being nice to be preggers in spring/summer. I think those maternity clothes are SO cute. (and it's working out nice for me since my last pregnancy was almost identical in timing!)

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by MrsReady2bMama

Shwarma I'm on pins & needles awaiting your beta!!

Grrr...I just called them and they said it wasn't back yet and it might not be until tomorrow morning. :

[MrsReady2bMama]

Grrrr!!!!

[Daisie125]

That stinks! They need to get a move on!!

Well, I had my first bout of pregnancy hormone induced crying today. (Long story short) someone was pretty mean to me, but nothing I would have gotten too upset about pre-pregnancy... and I BAWLED for like two hours. Heck, I'm still tearing up thinking about it. *sigh*

[minsca]

Dawn I don't like it when somebody is mean to me, pregnant or not pregnant.

I was talking to Sofie (dd1) last night about the new baby, and she told me very matter of factly. "It is a girl baby named Reese." So then I was telling DH about what Sofie said and both he and I were like... you know I kind of like the name Reese. And the more I'm thinking about it, the more I like it.

Shwarma - Hopefully they come in soon!

[jaclyn7]

Hi Everyone!

I made my midwife appointment/consultation for March 30 and we're so excited. Last time I was very apprehensive (looking back it was my intuition telling me something wasn't right) and I stayed with my GP through to my miscarriage, but this time I called right away :

My Mom used to be pretty good friends with the midwife (was even going to have her in the room with my little brother) and I knew her daughter in kindergarden, so I think it will be a good fit because I trust her, her training, etc. completely.

[Cellist]

Daisie, I feel like I have become more emotional at times, too...sorry that happened. It's annoying when you know it's mostly related to hormones and it's not as big a deal as it would appear you feel it is. Ack.

I am feeling so worried this morning. Seems like my breast tenderness is less. Still there a bit. Maybe I'm just getting used to the hormones. A little bit of fatigue, a little tiny bit of queasiness every now and then, a little crampyness sometimes, but really not that many symptoms to speak of.

The nurse at the midwife's office did not seem concerned and said I may experience more later.

I can't help but think things have just stopped progressing and I'm carrying around nothing but a gestational sac. Uck. Everyone around me I have told is much more hopeful and positive than I am. I think I do this negative stuff to protect myself if the worst does indeed happen...and then I can be happy if the "normal" thing does happen.

Gah! ANyone else have this annoying kind of thinking?

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by Daisie125

Well, I had my first bout of pregnancy hormone induced crying today.

I'm sorry hun. Not cool that someone was mean to you!

Originally Posted by minsca

I was talking to Sofie (dd1) last night about the new baby, and she told me very matter of factly. "It is a girl baby named Reese."

That's adorable! I asked my DD about the names I'd picked and she like Zainab. That's one of my favs too! Isn't 4 such a fun age?!!

Originally Posted by jaclyn7

I made my midwife appointment/consultation for March 30 and we're so excited.

Awesome you have a MW lined up, are you planning a HB?

Originally Posted by Cellist

I can't help but think things have just stopped progressing and I'm carrying around nothing but a gestational sac. Uck.

I have this kind of paranoid thinking, but lo and behold, my hormones were through the roof! Sometimes our bodies adapt quickly, but if you're really paranoid, I'd keep asking for bloodwork until you get it.

AFM: The 6 wk mark welcomed me this morning with midnight puking. How appropriate.

[MrsReady2bMama]

Shwarma, congrats on your six week mark and the associated puking - you are certainly preggers!! How're those betas?? I do hope that your m/s is not so bad this time around - I know we all wish for symptoms but puking is never any fun!!

Cellist I do the same thing. I think it is why I haven't told anyone yet. I'm afraid I'll "jinx" it. I really hope my dr. gives me an u/s next week!!

Jacklyn how exciting to have your first appt set!! March 30th is soon

Pam - I love the name Reese!! That is really cute of your DD. I really do think kids are so intuitive! I'm hoping by the end of this pregnancy my DD will let me know if it's a girl or boy in there

Daisie - mean people suck! We love you

Not much here - just counting the days 'til Monday and trying to find out fits that camouflage the bel...

~ Gina

[jaclyn7]

Originally Posted by ShwarmaQueen

Awesome you have a MW lined up, are you planning a HB?

Most likely, the only thing holding us back is our current rental but by November we'll either have a lease on an apartment for a year or a new home depending on what we find, so I think that issue will resolve itself soon enough. My midwife will do both (and everything is covered equally in BC!), so we're good either way!

[jaclyn7]

S.Q. big hugs on the sickies - I'm waiting on them to hit, I just have the slightest hint...

Gina - thanks so much, I know it's just over two weeks away. We're so excited, my wonderful hubby is so cute. He called for me because I didn't want anyone to overhear at work and today he wants to drive by so he knows exactly where it is. Aww - I love him!

[Shell_Ell]

Cellist, that was how my first pregnancy went. It was torture. I was on pins and needles until I heard that heartbeat. And then had preterm contractions and just wanted to make it to term. My second pregnancy I went in with a completely different attitude. Even though I *was* scared I did a lot of self talk, connecting with the babe, etc. I'm trying for the same this time, it really helped with the fear. I think it's hard, especially when on the internet. You read so many stories and are exposed to so many things you would otherwise be blissfully unaware of (unless you were reading the WTE books. )

As for me, I felt a bit of nausea this morning. I think because I didn't get enough sleep last night, I did not eat enough before bed (I got up at 4 am and ate, though, because I was starting to feel sick) and I also did not get any form of exercise yesterday. I'm feeling fine now that I have food in me and snoozed on the couch while the kids watched PBS.

I will NOT puke this time. I will NOT puke this time.

[Cellist]

ShellEll, thank you so much for that...I am going to try to stress less. There is NOTHING I can do about it now, right? And the Internet certainly IS scary. Sheesh.

Schwarma...I did get bloodwork done yesterday, but decided not to ask about it until my midwife appointment next week because I don't want to obsess about all the numbers the whole time. Instead, I am keeping a day to day pregnancy "journal" where I record things I felt, saw, etc. That seems good.

A midwife friend of mine told me that our bodies are made to carry and birth our babies and we just need to trust in them to do just that. I am trying! Thank you all for your awesome positivity. The heartbeat will be the icing on the cake!

[Rhiannon09]

I hope people don't mind my jumping in here, but I've had a terrible couple days and need to vent what's been going on. We haven't told anyone I'm pregnant yet, so I don't have anyone to talk to about this.

Starting a couple days ago, at 5w5d, my tempterature plunged three days in in a row, and I started having bad cramping. I was completely terrified I was losing the pregnancy after my first (harrowing) miscarriage in May.

My OB called me in for an ultrasound this afternoon...and we could see the heart fluttering. I'm still pregnant. :gasp of relief: Also, my temperature went back up again this morning, before the u/s. I don't know what's going on, but the pregnancy is still a go as of now.

I'm still so freaked out I'm going to lose this one, probably unreasonably so.

People who have had a miscarriage before...any advice on how to handle post-miscarriage pregnancy anxiety?

[ShwarmaQueen]

Originally Posted by Rhiannon09

I'm still so freaked out I'm going to lose this one, probably unreasonably so.

People who have had a miscarriage before...any advice on how to handle post-miscarriage pregnancy anxiety?

I haven't had a m/c, but then again I have yet to have an easy pregnancy. I was told I was going to m/c DD, and it was devastating, and then a while later they confirmed it was healthy. I was sick the first 6 months, but it was worth it. So, I prayed that my next pregnancy would be easier. It hasn't been. I started spotting at 5 wks and even though I've learned it doesn't always mean m/c is imminent, it's still heartbreaking to wonder if one day the spotting will increase to full-blown bleeding and then m/c. I definitely feel your anxiety!

Pregnancy is not easy momma, but it's worth the end result.