Originally Posted by claddaghmom
This post and the one before it are so interesting! I wonder if it's broader than a "vulnerable mentality." I wonder if there are actual physical characteristics. For example, I recall in my teens years, my sister was never picked on. There was just a certain...reaction by guys about her. She hated it b/c she felt a little ignored by them. But I always resented her b/c guys would hit on me and be pretty inappropriate, forcing me to take action and protect myself, KWIM? (Not talking about really bad things here, but everyday things).
Anyways, I've always thought that the difference between the two of us was physical. She takes after my dad and is almost 6 ft tall, very muscular and has an awesome voice. Just talking at normal range for her is considered loud by most people. Her nickname growing up was Xena Warrior Princess lol.
Meanwhile, I am under 5' 5" and during highschool barely tipped the scales at a 100lbs. I also have a weak voice (terrible singer too). To this day, I still have to deal with "being understood." Only my immediate family and my hubby can tell when I am hopping mad. Most people will mistake my anger and/or determination as shyness. I tend to get quiet.
That's what I always wrote it off as...
Dunno. FWIW, I was always blonde, extreme
hourglass figure even when I was underweight, and I have a wiggle in my walk I cannot control. Believe me, I've tried. I've had male friends insist
it looks like I'm coming on to every man who sees me walk, as if I am somehow saying with my walk it's OK
to grope me, grab me, accost me, assault me...
: A female friend always said I just had a come f**k with me look
about me so I had to take on a don't f**k with me attitude.
Even a few years ago I had a guy I worked with corner me in the break room and try to kiss me, just out of the blue.
: It never stops. And then guys wonder why they get punched in the nose when they touch me without asking? Seriously?
The funniest thing, though, it has happened less since I dyed my hair red. I have a theory that some
men still stereotypically think blondes are docile and dumb, but they think redheads are a bit crazy and possibly violent. I am not about to burst that bubble.
threadjack over, I'm intrigued by where this is going and something else I read yesterday so I'm going to start a thread.