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Playdates and natural moms when working

post #1 of 10
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Hi mamas. How do you socialize with other mamas and make playdates when working? Most of the activities, like the Little Gym, mommy and me classes, church moms day out, are all during the work day. I enjoy more of the alternative styles of parenting, and I would like to meet more natural mamas in St Louis.

My holistic moms network in my area only has four people, and their meeting is during work hours too. It is so frustrating. My husband stays home with our dd, so she attends activities, I just don't get to join in.
post #2 of 10
I'm in the same boat as you and I haven't found a solution. I try to do outdoors activities or do museum/library trips with natural-minded friends on the weekends.
post #3 of 10
Yeah, I haven't quite figured it out yet either. I'm lucky--my HMN chapter offers an evening meeting. Sometimes I take time off work to attend the daytime stuff. But playdates and less formal get togethers, I never get to participate. I would love to be able to, I read all day about all the stuff friends are doing online and it's so frustrating to be trapped at work all day. So that means I do the bulk of my socializing online.

My HMN group sponsors playdates and I'm going to volunteer (as soon as I get my house cleaned up!) to host one on a Saturday morning for the working mamas. But IME it seems that many of the SAHMs that I know reserve the weekends for family time and don't do a lot outside of the family.

So I am right there with you. It's one of my few regrets about being a WOHM.
post #4 of 10
I was SO THERE! I can't tell you how frustrated I am that virtually ALL mommy/baby mommy/toddler etc. activities are smack dab in the middle of the work day. My favorite one is the mommy/child stroller ride and coffee hour in the residential/shopping area center in which I work, which I cannot attend ever due to the fact that, yeah, I'm working. All the LLL meetings here are during the work day even, except one which still takes place well before I could actually get home, get DD, and get there. There's a babywearing group around here I'd love to go to, but they only had one weekend meeting and they cancelled it due to lack of interest (???) before I found out about it

It turns out, though, that other working mommies were frustrated with the situation too, and one of them started a working moms and toddlers playgroup that now gets together about twice per month, on the weekends. It's not necessarily NFL/AP inspired, and although there are some mommies there who had natural births, breastfed for several months at least, and attempted babywearing, I'm definitely the only one in the group nursing a non-newborn right now (my DD is 17 months old, and the littlest child in the group is 13 months old), babywearing a toddler, CDing at alll, or co-sleeping. But, that aside, none of us are at all judgmental of each other--no one has ever said an unkind word to me about any of my parenting choices, and I have not done so about anyone else's either--and I actually find we have a TON in common just because we're all working mamas! So, maybe sometime you could try starting a group like this, it's been such a joy and comfort to me, and I've really made some wonderful friends through it--as has DD! :

The lady who started ours did it via meetup.com. It's been very successful at attracting new mommies and toddlers, as it is literally (and sadly) the only playgroup that meets on the weekends around here.
post #5 of 10
I don't. I almost never socialize with other moms except the ones I work with. My AP/NFL friends are all SAHMs so on weekends they're busy doing family stuff with their husbands.

I did have a "working mom" group for awhile, but the other women in it were really not AP/NFL at all. Not even close. They really thought I was a freak for nursing past a year (none of them made it to 9 months; we weaned at 28mo) and OMG when we didn't have DD vaccinated for chicken pox.

I guess it's good that my parents are local and pretty AP-oriented. We do see them a lot on weekends. I guess that's maybe a little sad but there it is.
post #6 of 10
I don't know what your area is like, but some places have guided nature walks that are geared towards kids, and they're usually on weekend mornings -- that might be a good place to meet natural-minded families. You could even start your own hiking playgroup!
post #7 of 10
Weekends are really our only time! I like the activities that our local parenting newspaper offers(do you have one?)too. Are you involved with your "tribal area" here on MDC? Maybe that group is different then the one you mentioned?
post #8 of 10
I don't know, but, I feel you for sure! It's pretty lonely...I do try to go to mom night outs with my local mommy groups (but, not too often because I end up feeling guilty for leaving DS), but, we don't get to play dates very often and I really miss that from when I used to mostly SAH.
post #9 of 10
I'm in the same boat. There are several things in my area like art classes for little ones and yoga. I have met a few moms through the LLL which fortunately is in the evenings.
post #10 of 10
I have been wondering this too. It seems everything here is also during the workday. I love the idea about setting up a playgroup for working moms.
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