Help me make a poster

[sunnymw]

I want to make a poster for my wall to help me be a better parents. I want small phrases that I can read as the day goes by. Please give me more ideas.

A few I have:


"His point of view"
"No hypocrisy" (as in, don't grab a toy while telling him not to grab a toy)
"Respect teaches respect"
"Work WITH, don't DO TO"


Jeez, I had about 4-5 really good ones but I'm brain-dead :

[ktmama]

Two that I repeat to myself often are:

My child is a person
My child is my teacher/mirror

I also try to remember to take a beat and breathe before responding/reacting. Doing this also helps me to turn a "no" into a "yes" very often.

I'd love to see the end result of your poster!

[butterfly_mommy]

Great idea I may have to borrow it.

How about

"Teach kindness with kindness"
"It's ok to say I'm sorry"

[eirual]

I wish I could find the exact quote now, but I've always wanted to x-stitch a little saying with the quote that goes something like this (if you know where I can find the original, please let me know!)

"You can tell a lot about a society by the way they treat their most vulnerable"
*insert picture of child and elderly*
...here that is with empathy and respect.

(what hardcore CIO'er/old-school parenter can argue that they're looking forward to being subjected to the same cold manner in which they raised their children when they're elderly and dependent on others?...EVERYONE deserves respect)

and of course there's the golden rule "treat others how you would like to be treated"

maybe "through their eyes" or "remember" so you can remember a similar situation from when you were little- letting things go, or erring on the side of being gentle won't ever do any harm to the spirit of a child.

[Super Glue Mommy]

I love "connect before you correct"

[eirual]

"Set up for success" (e.g. are you asking too much in a given situation? have you given your child everything they truly need in order to contribute positively to a situation? are all of their needs truly met? if one hasn't set their child up for success, it's easier to see that the situation is resulting in poor behaviour, not that it's your child's true intent)

"He'll be 17 one day...."

"from within" / "from him" (i.e. is a solution coming from him? does he have a say?)

"I need a minute to think about that" (I don't say this nearly enough...it beats saying no all the time)

[eirual]

Originally Posted by Super Glue Mommy

I love "connect before you correct"

Ooo, I like that one!

[sunnymw]

Oh, one of my faves is "Why NOT?" when I don't want DS to do something--usually because it's inconvenient for me and I'm lazy

[Mizelenius]

More:
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...295&highlight=

[karissal]

I love this one - "The way you speak to your child becomes their inner voice."

I really need to do something like this too. Great idea!

[principii]

subbing

[dantesmama]

Originally Posted by sunnymw

Oh, one of my faves is "Why NOT?" when I don't want DS to do something--usually because it's inconvenient for me and I'm lazy

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And, "how do I want him to remember me?"

[walking burp cloth]

Did you make your poster? Anyothers?

[BetsyNY]

"Put the relationship first"

"Say YES when you can"

[ChinaDoll]

Wow, now I need to make a poster!