I have no problem with flyers sent home for the Boy Scouts in the Friday Folder that every child brings home from our local elementaries. We also get flyers for other kids organizations like the Y, town rec dept, Karate schools, etc. I just throw 'em all the in the recycling. I do have a problem with what the OP described as a letter recruiting boys on district letterhead. That's over the line to me. Certainly the other poster's description boys being pulled out of class to be recruited sounds over the line, too.
I also have no problem with little boys selling Boy Scout popcorn (except I think it's gross popcorn) as long as it's not a school sponsored event.
My dad was a Scoutmaster for many years before there was an official policy banning gay scouts and gay and lesbian leaders and he helped a whole lot of boys over the years. Probably among the large number of scouts he worked with there were a few who were gay. He was very accepting of kids who were different, helping developmentally disabled kids, black kids, white kids — he even took a few stray boys into our home (not my fave thing when I was a teen) and I'm sure he would have been accepting of an out gay scout. It's such a shame that the national organization is so close-minded and intolerant on this issue because I think there are great leaders and great troops who can do a lot for kids, but this pointedly intolerant position needs to change. I'm so glad I never had to disappoint my dad by not allowing a child of mine to join the scouts. It was a non-issue for our family because we have two girls, and he has since passed on.
I'm heartened by people like Zach Wahls (eagle scout with two moms) who are agitating for change w/in the organization: http://www.advocate.com/business/2012/09/20/zach-wahls-asks-intel-stop-funding-discriminatory-boy-scouts .
Edited by beanma - 9/29/12 at 6:45pm