Her follow up:http://www.slate.com/blogs/blogs/xxf...ya-dawson.aspx
my rushed response:
I was just forwarded a link to your blog post about me flaming you, and figured I should explain how I feel a little more.
I couldn't even make it to the end of your podcast, it angered me so much. What you are doing is sad, twisted, and wrong.
You are basing and spreading your message on the experiences of women from a very specific bracket of women who are competitive in their child rearing. This is a horrible way for mothers to treat each other, and women should always support each other and their decisions. That said, I believe with all my heart that breast milk is, by a long shot, superior to formula and we should all try to lovingly support each other in doing what is best for our babies. I agree with you that I would rather a woman lovingly formula feed than breast feed if breast feeding is going to be so traumatic that it creates a violent or resentful relationship with her and her child. But to bash La Leche League, and the incredible work they do, is similar to bashing an organization like Planned Parenthood. Someone might have a bad experience with their local branch of LLL because not every group is perfect. Mostly though they are about supporting mothers and supporting babies. Why would you smear their name? When I watch you and your friends talking it makes me feel sick. You are laughing and joking as you work through your own issues by trying to recreate reality. The fact is- the majority of women ARE NOT feeling the social pressure to breast feed. Maybe this is some new standard of cool yuppie mommy status, but it is not at all the norm. Your message is going to make mother's feel- "hey why even try?" This is giving power back to these big corporations trying to convince women that this corn syrup/ chemical / artificial formula is superior to what we create with our bodies for our babies. You are possibly unraveling years of the feminist struggle, years of breast feeding advocacy work. I think you might not realize how harmful your words truly are. It seems like a casual conversation between friends, based on your opinions, based on your very specific experiences and observations, has been rewritten as an article and published as fact. This makes me unbelievably sad. To think of all the women who might read your words and watch the podcast and stop before they start. You help solidify the opinion that people who encourage and promote breastfeeding are wackos and extremists. You make LLL seem like a bad thing. Yeah, SOME women have experiences where they end up bitter, but sooooo many work it out and develop a successful nursing relationship with their baby that is really special. You got to have that relationship, and I can't believe you are speaking out in favor of women giving up on themselves and their babies, as if that is best and it's just no big deal. I feel like you THINK you are empowering women by trying to justify the choice to formula feed. But formula feeding doesn't need advocacy, even if a couple of moms on the playground are being bitchy about who's better than who. Do you SERIOUSLY care about woman and babies as much as you care about the social bullshit and playing games? You are insulting the mommy war and trying to be the queen bee at the same time. Disgusting.
Your work is harmful.