help me stop torturing my DD - Hair - Page 2

[*Erin*]

why not just cut it? a little friend of my dd's had her hair cut winona ryder short,and all the other little girls are begging to have short hair now too. your dd could start a trend plus, no more pain and torment!
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just read your post, op, i see. cutting not an option. ditto the boar bristle brush suggestion-i have long, tangle-prone hair and i use a sturdy bristled boar brush. it's the only kind that doesnt snatch me bald

[rzberrymom]

Personally, I would rather cut my DD's hair than put a bunch of chemicals on it to get knots out.

[Cutie Patootie]

Originally Posted by rzberrymom

Personally, I would rather cut my DD's hair than put a bunch of chemicals on it to get knots out.

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pretty much run screaming from the l'oreal detangler(scores a 7-high hazard on the skin deep database)

[leximom]

oh my, can I commiserate. I honestly look at my 3 year olds hair in the morning before we go anywhere and decide if I can get away without brushing it and just sticking a headband in. Fortunately, I guess my dd's hair is thin enough that most of the tangles get worked out by them self after a while.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I use Aussie damage control spray on dd's hair and mine and it works wonders on tangles. It smells really nice as well.

[KimberlyD0]

Some things that worked for our DD

Avoid putting her to bed with wet hair
they have conditioners for kids with detangler in them
detangeler spay
and brush her hair before she goes to bed.

[meemee]

if her hair is anything like my dd's and mine, superfine straight hair then cutting it does no good. instead of a lot of rat's nest you get a little rats' nest. but you still get them.

for me i discovered detanglers were a waste of money. a spray bottle with my conditioner was much better. did equally a good job, plus i prefered teh ingredients.

the key is also a good hair brush. can be plastic but it should have teeth like this
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the last one is really harst on superfine hair.

my dd has very sensitive scalp and has had issues since a baby. but the way how about a satin sheet or at least a yard length of satin that you only tuck in where the head goes. so like it covers 1/3 of the bed. though the satin pillow case did not make that much of a difference either.
the moment my dd got old enough to brush her own hair i stopped doing it.

a wide tooth comb did not work for us either.

[prettypixels]

Originally Posted by snoopy5386

So every single morning my almost 3 year old wakes up with a huge rats nest. When I comb it out there is much screaming, crying and shaking. It is terribly painful for her. How do I make this easier? She won't use a pillow so satin pillowcases are out. So is braiding - she won't let me do anything or put anything (a clip, rubberband, etc) in her hair. What detangling products really work? Please help, it is the worst time of our day, I feel horrible every day!

Switch bathtime to mornings, if you are able, and then only brush it out while it is wet and has JUST been conditioned. I do this with my daughter who has super curly, crazy tangly hair, and it works like a charm. Short of that, I highly recommend the conditioner and "shine and define" products from Oyin Handmade, their conditioner is a detangling superstar!!!! http://www.oyinhandmade.com

For WET hair. I think kids just roll around so much in bed that they all wake up with tangles.

[~PurityLake~]

I rarely ever shampoo their hair anymore and always put in conditioner. I also found that bathing and wetting the hair in the morning is better than before bedtime. The water and then conditioner seems to loosen things up better that way and they're in a better mood in the morning (being well-rested and all) and more willing to let me brush their hair than they are at night.

[ernalala]

Wen I brush my sons' hair (my 3y old's hair is longer than your daughters and my 5y old's about the same lenght I think), I hold it firmly (without pulling of course) betweenthe fingers of my one hand, close to the root and then comb with the other. I use a Spanish style comb (I thought that's what it's called, the kind with two rows of 'teeth' and some space inbetween), never a brush or a regular comb. With the one hand I prevent the hair from pulling the skull/skin AT ALL. And it can more easily be combed. This may occasionally cause some pain still (by just one or two hairs), but it reduces severe pulling by almost zero.
I've used coconut oil on their hair too, without shampooing afterwards, only rinsing. It may look a bit greasy the first day, but it definitely helps cfr. combing. After that, the hair looks full, healthy, great.
Don't brush. Combing, with this type of comb, is way better for the hair. I have fine hair, ds2 too, and ds1 is thicker with curls. It works for all of us.
Also creamy shampoo works better than the other kind.

[floss&ferd]

I gave up on kid's products and use regular hair products.

Very small amts of shampoo, lot's of conditioner and a leave-in conditioner.

Right now, we have Biolage spray leave-in conditioner. I use it on wet hair and if it is super tangled, on dry hair in the morning.

I tried to grow my oldest daughter's hair long--gave up when she was 4 and cut it to a short bob. Best decision ever.

[tuppence]

nak

what worked for us:

jandj curly hair shampoo and detangling conditioner 2in1
" leave in detangler
" spray detangler pn brush and hair liberally
boar bristle paddle brush

[onlyzombiecat]

I have fine tangly hair and dd inherited it.
She has a very sensitive head so any tangle is a nightmare.

I use a product called FX Special Effects Silk Drops Sheer Liquid Silk Smoothing & Polishing Hair Serum. A little goes a long way.
We use a soft baby brush because she won't let me use anything else.

I have cut dd's hair short and that helps too.

If there is a tangle I would put conditioner on it before you try to comb or brush.

[pinksprklybarefoot]

We cut DSD's hair to a bob when she was 3. It was short for a while, but now it is grown out. But at this point I can explain to her that in order to have long hair, it must be washed, brushed, etc, and if that poses a problem, then we need to take another look at how long of hair she really wants.

Your DD is so young, though, that I would just cut it. It wouldn't be worth the fights for me.