My high spirited DS's meltdowns have increased and become more intense recently. I'm trying to figure out why, and he does seem to be having more problems with daycare recently so I'm focusing on that here. this is an in-home daycare he has been going to since about 6 months old. He was full time there until last June, then dropped down to 3 days a week there and 2 days a week at my Mom's.
He is high-spirited. Daycare I think has a pretty regular daily schedule. I think the TV is on a lot. 8 kids per day on average, maybe 9.
He just got over a 2+ week nasty cold/teething/ear infection but those are mostly gone now.
daycare issues:
-we've had on/off issues of him hitting/pushing/sitting on little kids. Most of it seemed to stop and lately he has been hitting again (he hits at home too).
-last week or so, not wanting to participate in activities and clean-up time.
-getting increasingly upset about going to daycare. This morning he screamed bloody horror and I had a heck of a time getting him in carseat (which is not unusual). He cried on the way there, kept repeating he wanted daddy, and then when we got there he did not want to leave the carseat. I do believe he has also not wanted to go to Grandmas a few times, but nothing continuing like this. This week when I told him he was going to
Grandma's he seemed relieved.
-earlier this week when DH picked him up, DS was on the floor crying for we don't know how long. Daycare was ignoring him and talking to another mom. DH indicated he has seen that happen to other kids. Mom said maybe she tried to help him and ran out of ideas.
-We EC and I suspect she rarely changes his disposable dipes/pullups, and suspect that kids walk around for who knows how long with poop in dipes. Yuck.
-we suspect the kids get wild and rile each other up. One mom did pull her son out last year and she told us it was getting too wild and her son was repeating the wild behaviors.
Despite the issues, we really do love the daycare and she is sweet and laid-back. A Primrose school is opening very close to our home this summer and we are seriously considering it even though I honestly do not know how we can afford it as it will cost over twice as much per week. He would only be there 3 full days a week.
I asked daycare this morning to give us ideas on why she thinks DS might be having so much trouble there recently. I asked her to call DH if he is upset for more than a few minutes.
So how can I figure out what is going on and what to do? If we do Primrose, he's still going to be at his current daycare for 3.5 more months. I don't want him to suffer that long if there is truly something going on with him there.
thanks for suggestions and ideas!
He is high-spirited. Daycare I think has a pretty regular daily schedule. I think the TV is on a lot. 8 kids per day on average, maybe 9.
He just got over a 2+ week nasty cold/teething/ear infection but those are mostly gone now.
daycare issues:
-we've had on/off issues of him hitting/pushing/sitting on little kids. Most of it seemed to stop and lately he has been hitting again (he hits at home too).
-last week or so, not wanting to participate in activities and clean-up time.
-getting increasingly upset about going to daycare. This morning he screamed bloody horror and I had a heck of a time getting him in carseat (which is not unusual). He cried on the way there, kept repeating he wanted daddy, and then when we got there he did not want to leave the carseat. I do believe he has also not wanted to go to Grandmas a few times, but nothing continuing like this. This week when I told him he was going to
Grandma's he seemed relieved.
-earlier this week when DH picked him up, DS was on the floor crying for we don't know how long. Daycare was ignoring him and talking to another mom. DH indicated he has seen that happen to other kids. Mom said maybe she tried to help him and ran out of ideas.
-We EC and I suspect she rarely changes his disposable dipes/pullups, and suspect that kids walk around for who knows how long with poop in dipes. Yuck.
-we suspect the kids get wild and rile each other up. One mom did pull her son out last year and she told us it was getting too wild and her son was repeating the wild behaviors.
Despite the issues, we really do love the daycare and she is sweet and laid-back. A Primrose school is opening very close to our home this summer and we are seriously considering it even though I honestly do not know how we can afford it as it will cost over twice as much per week. He would only be there 3 full days a week.
I asked daycare this morning to give us ideas on why she thinks DS might be having so much trouble there recently. I asked her to call DH if he is upset for more than a few minutes.
So how can I figure out what is going on and what to do? If we do Primrose, he's still going to be at his current daycare for 3.5 more months. I don't want him to suffer that long if there is truly something going on with him there.
thanks for suggestions and ideas!
mama. I don't really have any useful thoughts, but my DS is almost the same age and I can imagine how tough it would be to deal with like that. (As it is, our conversations about daycare are very uninformative.) I didn't want to read and not respond ... I hope you can figure this out!
