Ugh... Mother-In-Law is spending the night already!

[filiadeluna]

*See the newest rant a few posts down*

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Well, I am 40 weeks 6 days today, and the ultrasound when great! Baby is now not only head-down, but also face down! : Woohoo! She was turned slightly to my right before. She is definitely cramped in there, but the placenta and everything looked good. The Tech estimated her weight at around 9lbs 7oz. Wow! I know the estimates are rarely accurate, but I wouldn't be all that surprised as I was 9lbs 1oz and I was only born 3 days late.

DH called MIL to tell her, and she had the nerve to insist that my Midwife "won't let her get any bigger, and will induce her early". What a crock of B.S! My Midwife will not induce due to the supposed "too big baby" scenario. Besides, it was her (the MW) who told me that ultrasounds can be off by as much as 20% either way.

MIL also commented that "induction is a lot more painful". No crap! I've done my research. I'm not planning on an induction at this point! : Lastly, she said we should call my Midwife with "any concerns". Um... everything looked great! What's to be concerned about? MIL is a great lady overall, but some of the things she says... sheesh!

She is probably freaking out because she is a tiny lady - 5'0" and 110lbs, and she couldn't imagine having a baby that size. To be fair, though, plenty of smaller women have had bigger babies than that. Anyhow, she needs to realize that I am 5'8" and I have nice wide hips (runs in the family), I'm young, and I'm stronger than she may think.

*sigh*

[SaraC]

Sorry your MIL is acting silly. With my first DD I had a u/s at 41 weeks and her weight was estimated at around 10 lbs. She was born at 42 weeks exactly weighing in at 8 lbs. 8 ozs. so they can be way off. Sounds like everything is great and you are just waiting on baby. Good luck

[carseatqueen]

Yeah, even a nice MIL can be annoying. Mine is great, but has her flaws!

We haven't found fit to mention to MIL (who lives out of state and hours away) that we are planning a homebirth. We had DS at the freestanding birth center, which really isn't any different, but I think since she's never been there she envisions something a little closer to a hospital. I don't think she would say anything, but she's always uptight about "medical" stuff and had 4 c/s herself, so I'm afraid she might be paranoid about it. I'd just rather not go there. She might figure it out by the pics, and she might not, but at that point I don't really care. :-) Sometimes it's nice that family is far away!

[NaturalMindedMomma]

DDC crashing....

This is why they call them Mother in LAW, they think by adding law in there you will remember it's illegal to KILL them..

[filiadeluna]

Thanks for the comments, ladies!

Well, MIL flew out from California a day before my due date (March 6th), and was staying with her parents about an hour from our house. We told her to come hang out Saturday if she wanted to, but I assumed she was just going to stay a few hours & then go back to her parents' house.

Well, she ended up spending the night without even asking. : She is still here, and apparently is going to spend tonight, too, because she mentioned that when we go for my NST appointment tomorrow morning, she'll go visit with her parents. It sounds to me like she plans on coming back after that, though, based on her casually saying something about her parents getting boring and "I don't have to go back there".

Now, we knew she and DH's dad would both be spending the night at some point AFTER the baby is born, and we were fine with that. I REALLY REALLY REALLY do not want her here when I'm going into labor, though, and I think that she's hoping to be around just so she can be the first to tell everyone else in the family that something is finally happening.

Forgive me if it seems selfish, but DH and I do not have much time left alone together before we become parents. Besides that, DH is working all week again starting tomorrow, and I wouldn't mind some time to myself also since I worked 40 hours a week up until a few days ago. I have been cleaning my butt off lately, and I really want to just veg out and not have to deal with having a guest over.

Most importantly, I feel that I will really need to just focus inward during labor, and I won't feel comfortable laboring around MIL (moaning, wincing in pain, etc), even in the early stages. If she insists upon staying here while I am in labor, I will go hide in the bedroom. She is definitely NOT going to be in the hospital room with us. No way. I will stand up to at least that much. I only want DH in the hospital room with me, and I have made that clear to him several times.

Unfortunately, neither DH nor I feel like we can say anything to her, because she really doesn't have any bad intentions. She also bought us a lot of expensive groceries this weekend, took us out to eat twice, etc. I like her a lot, but I just do not want her here 24/7 until the baby comes. I just can't say it. I am hoping she just gets bored here and decides to go back to her parents' house for awhile.

Anyway, thanks for reading! Anyone else going through something like this?

[Xiaguan]

s to you! My MIL was here when I went into labor but she was here to help with the other kids~ I was very worried about how she would handle labor but she did a great job of not stressing me out LOL! Which is huge for her! I have no idea how you could ask her to stay away but I hope that she gets the hint~ I know I would have a hard time with waiting for my 1st grandbaby.

I hope the NST goes well tomorrow~ I have to go to Vandy as well for my oldest a Dr appt & I have to drop off some GS cookies at the office~

Hope all goes well!

s again! I feel for ya!

Melissa

[Lizzie9984]

Originally Posted by filiadeluna

Thanks for the comments, ladies!

Well, MIL flew out from California a day before my due date (March 6th), and was staying with her parents about an hour from our house. We told her to come hang out Saturday if she wanted to, but I assumed she was just going to stay a few hours & then go back to her parents' house.

Well, she ended up spending the night without even asking. : She is still here, and apparently is going to spend tonight, too, because she mentioned that when we go for my NST appointment tomorrow morning, she'll go visit with her parents. It sounds to me like she plans on coming back after that, though, based on her casually saying something about her parents getting boring and "I don't have to go back there".

Now, we knew she and DH's dad would both be spending the night at some point AFTER the baby is born, and we were fine with that. I REALLY REALLY REALLY do not want her here when I'm going into labor, though, and I think that she's hoping to be around just so she can be the first to tell everyone else in the family that something is finally happening.

Forgive me if it seems selfish, but DH and I do not have much time left alone together before we become parents. Besides that, DH is working all week again starting tomorrow, and I wouldn't mind some time to myself also since I worked 40 hours a week up until a few days ago. I have been cleaning my butt off lately, and I really want to just veg out and not have to deal with having a guest over.

Most importantly, I feel that I will really need to just focus inward during labor, and I won't feel comfortable laboring around MIL (moaning, wincing in pain, etc), even in the early stages. If she insists upon staying here while I am in labor, I will go hide in the bedroom. She is definitely NOT going to be in the hospital room with us. No way. I will stand up to at least that much. I only want DH in the hospital room with me, and I have made that clear to him several times.

Unfortunately, neither DH nor I feel like we can say anything to her, because she really doesn't have any bad intentions. She also bought us a lot of expensive groceries this weekend, took us out to eat twice, etc. I like her a lot, but I just do not want her here 24/7 until the baby comes. I just can't say it. I am hoping she just gets bored here and decides to go back to her parents' house for awhile.

Anyway, thanks for reading! Anyone else going through something like this?

Ok, the uninvited overnight stays woud be it for me, no way in hell would I put up with it. So. Rude. And totally intrusive, ugh. Ugh, ugh, ugh, your MIL reminds me of my grandma, except my grandma thinks she's competing with HER aunt for family matriarch status (give.me.a.break) regardless of nosey intentions being harmless or not. My grandma has gotten into this massively annoying habit for showing up at the door at 10am every Sunday, without invite. Heck, if the door's unlocked, she'l let herself in. Um, STOP IT!! We live with my mom, and she's even gotten to the point where she's yelled at her for the past 3 days not to come over (my grandma uses grocery shopping trips as an excuse) Well, this time, no grandma, and it felt pretty good to know no one was going to be at the door at 10am.

Luna, I'm tellin' ya, as someone who's put up with one of those "I'm just going to do what I want with your lives" people, you've gotta put your foot down now before your MIL ends up like my grandma in a few years. Her intentions might seem harmless, but you've got to let her know she can't barge into your life like this and park it, it's just not fair for you in the final weeks here. Or at any point in your life, really. There has got to be clear boundries or there's GOING to be trouble in some form sooner or later.

[Goniopal]

Wishing you the best here . ..
Could you try "love having you near, and thank you for all your help and support, but I really need to mentally and emotionally prepare for this birth, and spend a little alone time with my DH . . . you will be our first call when we are in labor!"

I know how hard it can be . . . my dad is so "worried" about our planned homebirth- I would have been happy to talk about it with him months ago, but at this point, I just have to focus on myself and ignore him as I try to focus on being confident and visualizing positive energy.

Family! hmmph! and here we are just making more of it