Lets see...daily stress. As weird as it sounds, when I'm busy, I feel less stressed. I get more worked up when I have time to think. Right now I'm in my last semester of nursing school, so my life is just basically jumping from one thing to the next. I barely sit down to rest and then I just collapse in bed and fall into unconsciousness..lol. I think routines help, like doing the same every night before bed or in the morning when I get up. I journal occassionally and use a lot of distraction techniques. So getting into a good book helps and watching funny movies. Exercise helps when I have time. I like cardio stuff, where I can zone out and burn off energy at the same time.
The finger labyrinths I have just googled them and found some free printables. When I'm in a crisis, I like to trace the lines with a marker. It gives my hands something to do while my mind can chill out.
I'm not on any benzo's right now. I do pretty well with an SSRI or even St. Johns Wort goes a long way with me. I find that maintenance management really minimizes my acute anxiety. I think that benzo's are helpful to have around for acute anxiety attacks, but they can be very addictive, which is why a lot of prescribers shy away I think. Something that has helped take the edge off when I had no insurance was Kava root. I got a tincture and just but a dropper full under my toungue. Tastes terrible, but it can help me catch a breath sometimes.
I hope that helps a little. I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time. Maybe sit down and make a list of things you enjoy. Or think about some affirmations. I have made positive message bracelets and written things on my mirror, like "gratitude" to help me remeber the positives in my life. Try to find something that gives you happiness and focus on that as much as you can. Find a positive outlet for your energy and emotions. Sometimes a different perspective on life can go a long way. This Jan, I made a vision board with a lot of messages that lean towards letting anger go and allowing peace into my life. I put it by my bed and look at it every day.