I'm feeling rather sad for my DS, who is in first grade. For most of his life he has been best buddies with a little boy down the street who attends the same school. The buddy ("B") has recently become very enthusiastic about Star Wars, which DS has no interest in. During school recess, B plays Star Wars games (chasing, pretend fighting games) with a bunch of classmates. DS isn't really interested in playing Star Wars, but really wants to play with B. But B refuses. One day DS asked B if he could join in the recess game, and B said no, that they already had enough people. B has also done some other less than kind things toward DS.
It seems obvious to me that B no longer wants to have anything to do with DS. Yes, this is just part of life, and the ups and downs of friendships. But DS is having trouble letting go. We have talked a lot about how to cultivate better relationships with his other friends, and how to join in other groups playing during recess. But DS longs to play with B. He continues to want to knock on B's door and ask him to come out and play, and to invite B to come to the park or zoo or anywhere with us.
I'm not sure what I can do to help DS. Should I just let things take their course? Should I discourage DS from hanging on to the relationship? Should I talk to B's mother (whom I am fairly good friends with) and ask that she talk with B about not excluding DS from the recess play? Perhaps this is all more painful for me than it is for DS. I really just want DS to move on. To make matters worse, B's mother has a childcare crisis one day next week and just asked me to watch B for a couple hours next week.
Any suggestions about how to handle all this?
Cyclemama
It seems obvious to me that B no longer wants to have anything to do with DS. Yes, this is just part of life, and the ups and downs of friendships. But DS is having trouble letting go. We have talked a lot about how to cultivate better relationships with his other friends, and how to join in other groups playing during recess. But DS longs to play with B. He continues to want to knock on B's door and ask him to come out and play, and to invite B to come to the park or zoo or anywhere with us.
I'm not sure what I can do to help DS. Should I just let things take their course? Should I discourage DS from hanging on to the relationship? Should I talk to B's mother (whom I am fairly good friends with) and ask that she talk with B about not excluding DS from the recess play? Perhaps this is all more painful for me than it is for DS. I really just want DS to move on. To make matters worse, B's mother has a childcare crisis one day next week and just asked me to watch B for a couple hours next week.
Any suggestions about how to handle all this?
Cyclemama
