sleeping dry all night long . . .

[spu]

At what age would you bring this up with the pedi? My twin girls, age 6.5, are completely opposite in every sense of the word, including potty training... DD1 started going dry 100% on her third bithday. DD2 still wears pull-ups at night, and I'd say 5-6 nights a week she's completely soaked by morning. I don't want to withhold water after 6 because if she's thirsty, she's thirsty. I also don't want to put her on meds because that seems not right either. I think she's just such a sound sleeper, that it just happens. But i don't want the word to get out at school that she still wears pull-ups, esp. since so many kids are talking about sleep overs...

wwyd? anything? nothing?
tia!
susan

[JElaineB]

My son is just a couple months younger and still needs Goodnites at night and wets them fairly often. I am not going to worry about it until he is closer to 8 or so. Our ped asked if he was nighttime potty trained at his 6 year visit and he didn't blink an eye when I told her he wasn't.

[kerikadi]

I was about to post something similar.

My DD is 5.5. The odd thing is we knew she was ready to potty learn because at 20 months she would wake up dry. She started asking to go on the potty at a very young age and was my youngest to use the potty with no accidents.
However, when I was pregnant with #5 she started wetting her bed. We use bumkins trainers and call them 'fluffy pants' so she doesn't feel like she is wearing diapers.

The difficult thing for us is that she has gone days/weeks when she is dry. Actually, one of the most stressful times in our lives last fall when we were living somewhere else because our house was hit hard by hurricane Ike she went almost two weeks with dry pants. Now six months later she is wet almost every single night. She only drinks water and we make sure she goes to the bathroom at least twice between dinner and bedtime but it doesn't seem to make a difference.

DH and I have discussed the idea of a reward but we don't know if she has control over this and certainly don't want her to feel bad in any way or to shame her but we wonder if incentive would help.

[ece602]

I wouldn't worry about it for maybe another year or so. I'm sure your LO will work it out.

[mommahhh]

Originally Posted by kerikadi

DH and I have discussed the idea of a reward but we don't know if she has control over this and certainly don't want her to feel bad in any way or to shame her but we wonder if incentive would help.

I would say definitely not. I can't imagine she has control over her bladder while she's sleeping. Some people just have weaker bladders. My sibling wet the bed until at least 13 (and at that point, I'm not sure if it stopped or they just got better at hiding it).

[EVC]

Originally Posted by mommahhh

I would say definitely not. I can't imagine she has control over her bladder while she's sleeping. Some people just have weaker bladders. My sibling wet the bed until at least 13 (and at that point, I'm not sure if it stopped or they just got better at hiding it).

ITA. I was a bedwetter, at least through first grade or so and believe me, I felt horrible and embarrassed enough as it was and if there had been ANY WAY for me not to do it, I would have, reward or not. But I couldn't control it. I just didn't wake up when I needed to go. And it was SOOOO stressful for me when kids started having sleepovers. Gosh, I still remember the shame I felt over it But I did grow out of it eventually, no meds or anything else. I can't remember when exactly, but eventually it happened. It just took me a long time. Please don't add to the stress by going on a reward system. If she can't help it (and likely she can't), it will add to the pain she may already feel about it.

[tanyalynn]

If you're up for it, explore food intolerances. It seems to be a fairly common experience on the Allergies board for parents to eliminate a food (usually dairy, for us it was gluten though) and then suddenly, within a week, our kids stop wetting at night. It does take all traces, though, reading labels and everything, but I've found the trial-and-error to be worthwhile.

[hottmama]

My son is 6 and his ped. said 10% of boys his age still wet the bed (at his 6 yr. checkup). He potty trained at 21 mos. but wets almost every night.

[SAHDS]

My son is 8 and is the same as your DD. We're not going to put him on any hormones so I guess we'll just ride it out. The best is to take him potty at 12:30 but even then he sometimes wakes up wet (or soaked) in the morning. Sleepovers just aren't an option, but that's okay with us.

He has had bowel problems (which is a common cause since it can push on the bladder, making it retain less urine) but even since then has had the problems with urine.

My ped's (AMAZING) son wet until 13 and so she completely understands. It's nice to have someone who is in my corner and she is completely against putting him on anything.

[emmasmommy]

My dd is almost the exact same age as yours (bday is July 14), and also still wets the bed. I've been wondering too when to talk to a doctor about it. DD is also talking about sleepovers with friends, but they haven't actually happened yet, and I'm a bit hesitant about them. Because wearing a pull up at night is such a normal part of her life, I don't think she's aware that most 6 year old don't still use pull-ups, and I don't want her to find out at a sleepover and get teased for it.

[singin'intherain]

I have four kids, ages 10, 7, 6, and 4, and all but the seven year old wet the bed every single night. I wet the bed until I was nine or so, and I've heard that genetics can be a factor. My 10 year old has had lots of sleepovers, but we're homeschoolers so honestly the fear of teasing isn't nearly as intense. She isn't ashamed of it at all. My mom has suggested that maybe a little shaming is what she needs- but I just can't buy that. Like another poster said, she can't help it. As a five year old I spent a whole gruesome summer being shamed and spanked by my stepmom every time I wet the bed. It had absolutely no effect on my bedwetting. Rewards might work better, but I doubt it.

I have a bedwetting alarm, but I leave it up to the kids if they want to use it. My oldest has tried it, but she wets the bed three or four times a night. By the third time being woken up by the alarm, she is absolutely crying with exhaustion and doesn't want to use it anymore. I have to admit that as she gets older I seriously wonder if this is going to go away by itself. I have yet to talk to a doctor about it, so I'm considering doing that.

[SAHDS]

Originally Posted by singin'intherain

My mom has suggested that maybe a little shaming is what she needs- but I just can't buy that.

That is unbelievably sad. The fact that someone would punish a child for something that is not their fault, something they have absolutely no control over, makes me ill. Thank goodness you know what's best.