do you kiss "boo boos"? - Page 4

[~PurityLake~]

Originally Posted by UptownZoo

Blech.

I figure, if kisses are adequate, I'm sticking with those!

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[georgia]

I'm fascinated and love this explanation, thank you for sharing, UptownZoo

[Adsullata]

Originally Posted by rootzdawta

We don't call them boo-boos here either but I definitely kiss them when they get hurt. I believe in healing energy of touch as well as intention. If it's a cut that needs some first aid, I'll dress it first then kiss or otherwise touch it. If not, I hold and kiss away. As long as my babies like it and it helps them recover, why not?

Makes sense to me I never thought about kissing dd's owies, but just sorta started doing it, maybe because it made me feel so much better when I was a kid? She also prefers it when I "blow" kisses on her owie- make her start to smile and giggle a lot faster.

Uptown Zoo, I love your explanation/lecture- also makes perfect sense! I think between the healing power of the comforting touch plus the biological side, it certainly can't hurt.

On another tangent, do you think there's any harm in telling the floor or whatever other offending surface dd landed on that was *bad* for hurting her? I started doing this a couple of times- you know, "bad floor for getting dd"- just to be silly and it totally cracks dd up immediately and she forgets the hurt.

[rootzdawta]

Originally Posted by Adsullata

On another tangent, do you think there's any harm in telling the floor or whatever other offending surface dd landed on that was *bad* for hurting her? I started doing this a couple of times- you know, "bad floor for getting dd"- just to be silly and it totally cracks dd up immediately and she forgets the hurt.

I may not say the floor is bad because I'm trying to keep away from that kind of characterization based on what something/someone has done but I do regularly and sternly talk to inanimate as well as imaginary objects/animals/beings and flying insects to inform them that hurting my LO or scaring him or otherwise bothering him will simply not be tolerated. My baby boy usually chimes in with a hearty, "Yeah! You got that?!?" It helps.

[*Aimee*]

my son HATES being touched when he's in pain. Both my boys do actually. But when it's feeling better Ru will come to me and say "maybe if you kiss this it'll make it feel ALLLLLLL better!". Then I do and a get a big "thank you mama". But he picked that up from seeing one of his friends do it and so when he's done crying he asks

Originally Posted by Adsullata

On another tangent, do you think there's any harm in telling the floor or whatever other offending surface dd landed on that was *bad* for hurting her? I started doing this a couple of times- you know, "bad floor for getting dd"- just to be silly and it totally cracks dd up immediately and she forgets the hurt.

Sometimes I've been known to chastise a chair or something for hurting DS. He comes and tells me it's not okay. So I go to the chair or whatever and say "that was NOT okay, it is not okay to hurt Rune. Please don't do it again". It works to distract

[ShadowMoon]

I never, ever thought I would but all of a sudden there I was, kissing away! It works for ds...some kind of voodoo mamma magic I guess.

[kirstenb]

I kiss boo boos here- DS always comes up to me rubbing whatever part of him is hurt and crying. A kiss always dries his tears and sends him on his way. I don't even remember when we started doing it but it works for now so I'll keep doing it.

[One_Girl]

I kiss boo-boos because I think it does help. My mom used to kiss mine and I remember it helped me to feel like things would be okay. My dd loves it when I kiss hers. Love and connection go a long ways towards helping the healing process with boo-boos and with illness.

[Snuzzmom]

Absolultey! And honestly asking... why wouldn't you?

What I like about it is that it seems to have taught DS about sympathy. If I (or someone else) is hurting, he'll come over and ask if I'm okay and give me a kiss or hug. And that certainly helps me!

[JennTheMomma]

I kiss boo boos.

[savvybabygrace]

Originally Posted by mamazee

I kiss boo boos. I also allow use of band-aids for boo boos that don't really need them.

same here!

My mom always kissed boo-boos and it might not have helped with the physical pain of the injury it sure made me feel great knowing she was there to love me through it.

[Super Glue Mommy]

great insight uptown zoo! love it!

[ChampagneBlossom]

Originally Posted by Biscuits & Gravy

I do. I don't automatically do it at this point, but he'll come up and ask me to kiss it. How can I say "No"? If a kiss from mommy makes it better, then I have infinite kisses to give.

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[Llyra]

They're not boo-boos here, they're "owies," but yeah, I kiss them. Actually, my DD's both seem to have some physical boundaries about cuddles and kisses, especially when they're upset, so I usually ask, "do you think it needs a kiss?" or "will a kiss help?" and let them decide. Sometimes they'd rather NOT have the kiss, and sometimes they bring it to me asking for the kiss.

With DS, I don't ask, because I already know-- he wants the kiss.

I do restrict band-aids to owies that really need them, because we're a little fanatic about waste around here. DD1 would plaster her whole body with band-aids, given the chance.

[cotopaxi]

Yes, she loves me and Daddy to kiss her owies. Except recently she's hurt the inside of her mouth a couple of times (biting down too hard on her fork) and wanted me to kiss that... I'm like, uh, that's not going to work, lol.

[Snuzzmom]

Originally Posted by Adsullata

Makes sense to me On another tangent, do you think there's any harm in telling the floor or whatever other offending surface dd landed on that was *bad* for hurting her? I started doing this a couple of times- you know, "bad floor for getting dd"- just to be silly and it totally cracks dd up immediately and she forgets the hurt.

Good question. I don't think I would, because I'd be scared DS would get some weird complex about the floor. BUT! I think doing it in a silly/ funny way that gets them laughing is totally different. If your child has a sense of humor (by that I mean, won't take it too literally) and laughs, I think you're fine.