Who here lost her mom? - Page 3

[Susana]

My mom died November 2008. She had colon cancer. The whole ordeal was a nightmare.
sometimes I have such vivid dreams about mom where she is talking and talking to me, and then I wake up all excited and think she is still alive and I am going to go call her! and then I remember she's not here anymore.
I still can't believe she's gone.
Theoretica, my mom's birthday was Halloween, too.

everyone who has lost their mama and/or dad~

[spring978]

My Mommy has been gone 10 years, She died of cancer the very same year, we started to develop a good relationship I miss my Mommy, I wish, I dont know what I wish maybe if I would of been older. I wish the boys remembered her.
Damm I am almost 40 and I miss my Mommy, an this thread has me bawling

[stayinghome]

My Mom died 6 days ago. She turned 56 on may 29th, died june 2nd, of colon cancer that had metastasized. I feel like i will never, ever, be happy again.

[Astrogirl]

My mom died last year of breast cancer. She was 58. My heart aches for her, she was a beautiful woman that made everyone laugh. She loved life, and was angry when she got her "death sentence". She was NOT at peace with her fate, and I will always struggle with that. The movies and tv shows always show a gracious woman with meaningful last words to everyone she loved, falling beautifully asleep. Its so misleading to those of us waiting in the chair for our moms to tell us that they always loved us and maybe give us that last bit of advice and it just never comes. My mom was too angry about dying so young that she could barely speak.

Originally Posted by xenomama

I had the same experience, and I'm finding that it really complicates my grief. I don't know what to feel sometimes. Most people don't know my history, and they make totally incorrect assumptions about my relationship with her. I don't feel like going into the whole thing, which leaves me feeling very alone and misunderstood.

Totally.

Originally Posted by HeatherE

I feel like i will never, ever, be happy again.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that feeling too. I can still feel joy, laugh and enjoy a day but there will always be a background feeling of sadness for my mom. I know she would hate that, but what can I do? Its a tribute to how much I love her.

[Cherie2]

Originally Posted by HeatherE

My Mom died 6 days ago. She turned 56 on may 29th, died june 2nd, of colon cancer that had metastasized. I feel like i will never, ever, be happy again.

I am so sorry. Please let others take care of you right now. It is so ok to feel that way… let yourself feel it. I know it hurts, but that is how it’s supposed to feel.

Originally Posted by Astrogirl

She loved life, and was angry when she got her "death sentence". She was NOT at peace with her fate, and I will always struggle with that.

I know what you mean… it was different for me in that it seemed my mom had made her peace with her fate years before, but when the time came and she was paralyzed from the stroke she fought. It breaks my heart to think of how hard she tried, how closely she followed doctors orders. I don’t think she was aware that her condition was permanent. Once she was no longer able to swallow we knew this was the end, she never wanted to be kept alive artificially. There was surely no “reflection” time or any “wise words” it was just over.

[jaydensmom0327]

Originally Posted by Mom2Princess

Mine died last january,8 weeks ago tomorrow. Its hard.

She was only 61 years old, waaaaayyy too young to die. She was diagnosed with cancer in march last year.

The irony is this; dad was diagnosed with cancer in the summer of 07, had surgery (bowel tumor), radiation, a bag, the bag came off in november and he ehaled well. February last year the cancer was back, in his liver, so he was started on chemo. He didnt get sick, nauseated or bald from it. He tolerated it extremely well. Mom asked the specialist if maybe he could do something about her 'belly ache'. She ahd tests before, and they all came back fine. She got a scan and blood works and was diagnsoed with cancer, spread throughout her abdomen. She had chemo, got horribly sick and bald, decided to stop since it was only prolonging instead of making her better.
She was never hospitalised, she stayed home the entire time, started morphine in december, and died at home in the middle of january. Dad took care of her the entire time, which was hard on him because he's seriously ill as well.

No matter how old you are, losing a parent is always hard.

i have two sets of parents , my grandparents (mawmaw and pawpaw) and my mom and dad. i lost my dad (35)when i was 9 to a really deadly disease in 1998 i didnt really know what was going on then except that daddy wasnt coming home. it was the hardest thing ever , since i was a daddy's girl and all . then this year on march 23 i lost my mawmaw (she had just turned 55)to COPD (which was basically my mom since her and my pawpaw raised me) and its true about its hard no matter how old you are. im 20 now and it still feels the same , the only difference is me being older i have come to piece with it alot faster than i did with my dad. but this year has been a really horrible year for my family and i we lost mawmaw my nephew Kaleb (born sleeping) and my aunt brenda and they were like back to back.... the hardest part about mawmaw was that she passed just for days before my sons first birthday (march 27) and it was really hard to have his party and him not be there.. im sorry for everyone elses loss.

[gumby74]

My mom passed away In july of 2002. She was 47 and succoumbed to years of depression and intense anxiety. She left behind eight children...six of which were under the age of 18....the youngest was only 6. I have my moments of anger for leaving me in the position I am in as well as times when I desperately want to run to her and give her a hug. I try to remember that eventhough I was handed the majority of the responsibility because I am the oldest, I also am blessed with the most years of memories of her. My biggest fear is that I will forget her voice or her laugh and the way it felt when she gave me a hug. My dad died in 1998 when he was only 42 and although I miss him......there is something about a mom that makes the pain feel so much more deeper.

[Eben'sMama]

My Mom passed away (from gall bladder cancer that had metastasized) on October 28, 1996, a few weeks after her 50th birthday. It was fast--5 months to the day from the diagnosis to her passing. I was 25. Sometimes I can't believe that it has been over 12 years since she died. It's very difficult--I have no one to call for parenting support or advice--MIL is very little help in that dept, and sees all expression of emotion as weakness. Now that I am a mother, I have a newfound appreciation for all that my Mom did for me and my family of origin. I better understand her struggle with depression and miss her in ways I never imagined I would.

[alicia622]

My mother passed away in January 2003. I learned she had stage 4 lung cancer in May of 02. Even though it was very difficult I really cherish those last 8 months with her. I did a lot to take care of her and the last month of her life she stayed with us and died in my house. My hospice experience was not very good due although they did give me several pointers on how to help her feel more comfort.

Some days I miss her but most of the time I am simply grateful that I was able to be there, physically, emotionally and spiritually, at that time. I feel some sadness for my younger brothers as they both avoided the situation and I know they are feeling some guilt about not spending more time with her.

She was 55 and had smoked (cigarettes and marijuana) for many, many years.

[Mom2Princess]

Originally Posted by HeatherE

My Mom died 6 days ago. She turned 56 on may 29th, died june 2nd, of colon cancer that had metastasized. I feel like i will never, ever, be happy again.

Im so sorry. It is so hard to lose your mom.

[Mom2Princess]

Originally Posted by gumby74

My dad died in 1998 when he was only 42 and although I miss him......there is something about a mom that makes the pain feel so much more deeper.

I know, I feel the same. Mom and dad were equal to me, but I was born from her body, not his.

But i will be heartbroken when dad dies, he's termianlly ill with cancer too......might have a couple of years, months, etc. depends on if it will metastisize any further. As long as it's under control.....

[Cherie2]

Originally Posted by Mom2Princess

I know, I feel the same. Mom and dad were equal to me, but I was born from her body, not his.

But i will be heartbroken when dad dies, he's termianlly ill with cancer too......might have a couple of years, months, etc. depends on if it will metastisize any further. As long as it's under control.....

[tbone]

My mom died nine years ago when I was 21 yrs old. She was brutally murdered, she was only 56 yrs.

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