~JW Mamas Support thread~

[LeighB]

Hey all!
I started a new thread because the last one was super long and old. The purpose of this thread is for support.
Take care! :

[NishaG]

Marking.....

[amis2girls]

present and accounted for

[thefragile7393]

[Pyrodjm]

[FLDoula]

Here we go....yeah.....Thanks.

[Shianne]

[zebrachick83]

hi! i'm back after soooooo long!

[Shianne]

How is every one doing?
I'm still just here...
My car broke down so we are a non mobile family. But we've pretty much been doing the phone patch since my mom died so I am glad that is an option.
I'm looking at the Memorial looming closer and closer and wondering how I'm going to be able to go...

[Tuesday]

Sorry to hear about your car, Shianne. Perhaps someone from your congregation can drive you to the Memorial? I hope things come together before Thursday.

I am just saying "hi" to everyone. Doing a study as I think I said in another thread on this sub-forum. I am sorry - I am a broken record but I'll say it again - I'd love to chat with all you mamas but I feel like this forum on this board on this Mothering.com website is too public. It creeps me out how many views there are and how few posts. There is a Private JW group on babycenter.com if you want to check it out.

I am just letting you all know this since I see you all posting but no one is really saying anything. Perhaps I'm reading too much into it ... sorry if I am!

I'd love to chat by PM with anyone if you are ever interested.

[Tuesday]

Oh - if anyone sees this - I have a silly question. My study partner gave me an invite for the Memorial. I think either my DH or one of children threw it into a recycling bin (or lost it). Do I need the actual invite to get "in" or can I just come to the location without it. And if I ask my partner for another one - is it any trouble? I am going to see her on Monday but I didn't know if I should wait until then or let her know ahead of time that I lost the invite.

I hope that makes sense. PLMK.

[FLDoula]

Originally Posted by Tuesday

Oh - if anyone sees this - I have a silly question. My study partner gave me an invite for the Memorial. I think either my DH or one of children threw it into a recycling bin (or lost it). Do I need the actual invite to get "in" or can I just come to the location without it. And if I ask my partner for another one - is it any trouble? I am going to see her on Monday but I didn't know if I should wait until then or let her know ahead of time that I lost the invite.

I hope that makes sense. PLMK.

No, you don't need the invite to get in. You can just go.

[Tuesday]

Thanks! DH has decided (even though he works Sundays) that he doesn't want me taking kids to KH. But I said for sure I'm going to the Memorial on my own. I was hoping it wasn't like a rock concert - you don't have a ticket - you can't get in! Haha. No seriously, I am looking forward to it. Hoping DH comes to change his mind too.

[FLDoula]

Originally Posted by Tuesday

Thanks! DH has decided (even though he works Sundays) that he doesn't want me taking kids to KH. But I said for sure I'm going to the Memorial on my own. I was hoping it wasn't like a rock concert - you don't have a ticket - you can't get in! Haha. No seriously, I am looking forward to it. Hoping DH comes to change his mind too.

I am so sorry that your husband has decided this. Keep praying about it. It is so important to get there yourself. Is there some reason he does not want you to take them? My dad did not want us going, but he was home when my mom had meetings so there was not a childcare issue. When we got older he sent us to Sunday School and church and my mom studied with us when he was not home. My brother and I then made our own choice to get baptized as JWs when we were older. Jehovah will make a way out for you if you want to go but you have to be diligent in prayer.

Hugs

[FLDoula]

Originally Posted by Shianne

How is every one doing?
I'm still just here...
My car broke down so we are a non mobile family. But we've pretty much been doing the phone patch since my mom died so I am glad that is an option.
I'm looking at the Memorial looming closer and closer and wondering how I'm going to be able to go...

I know you will find a solution to your car issue. Did you find someone to get you to the Memorial?

[Shianne]

So far I haven't found anyone. I live on the opposite side of town than others in my cong. so its hard to find someone who can come to this side and then drive back. I hate being a bother...
I was also invited to go to the Japanese group's very first Memorial. But it is the same time as my cong. and a lot further away.
I really miss having a car.

[Tuesday]

Shianne - I'm sorry the car issue hasn't been resolved. That's too bad. My study partner lives on the other side of town and she actually drives about 30 minutes just to come study with me. And she has offered to drive to my house and go with me back to KH just to make me comfortable. Even in my area - the KH was changed and became an ASL congregation so all the congregations have been moved to another KH. I asked how would people get to the KH since a lot of people can't always access a car and I was told the KH was organizing car pools. I am sorry I sound like a broken record - wondering if you could approach someone as it seems important.

My DH is Catholic and wants the boys raised Catholic so that is why he is objecting to me taking them to the KH. The other issue is that at times we both find the criticisms of JW faith a little disconcerting. Me - I know JWs but he doesn't so he is afraid they are being involved in a cult to put it bluntly.

I'm just trying to move in baby steps and hope that the truth reveals itself to the family as a unit!

[Shianne]

the KH was changed and became an ASL congregation so all the congregations have been moved to another KH.

Wow! Did they get enough to do multiple meetings at one KH? Our hall has Spanish, Russian and English. They just added another Spanish cong at our hall and they are meeting on Saturday. Ours is a dual KH and presently there are 9 congregations at our hall.

It seems so sad that they made the others move to another Hall. Is it a permanent move?
Ours needs to split soon I think. But I don't know where the new group will go. I think that may be one reason they are holding off, not to mention not enough elders.


I'm sorry your dh isn't allowing the children to go. Since he wants them to learn Catholicism, is it possible to compromise and they learn both? My mother used to say that it wasn't fair that we learn only his religion. I don't think he would have minded if she had stayed Shinto, but become one of THOSE witnesses...
It helped that at the time he was a truck driver and was on the road a lot. At that time he thought it was good that she was a witness. He knew that she wasn't fooling around on him while he was gone, though it didn't stop him.
Since he wasn't there to object, she took us to the meetings.
But because of him I learned about the Catholic and Baptist religions. When I was old enough, I made my choice where I wanted to be.

[Carson]

I just wanted to post saying that I am contributing to the views of this thread and I find it very encouraging. So I hope you keep posting.

I was raised JW with an agnostic father. Went away to college, figured I could balance everything, and found out that wasn't so much true, had a real hard time with DF family members. At this point, I'm inactive. It definitely is still what I believe but I am having a hard time going back to meetings. Anyway, that's me and why I'm here.

Going to memorial with my mom tomorrow. I thought about going where I live, but it worked out well enough to go with her, and I know she'll be happy to have me there.

Shianne - I hope you find someone to take you!

[Shianne]

Thanks everyone...
The boys and I have a ride. We are going to the Japanese group's Memorial. They are having it at a hotel in a different room than the English cong. that meets at the same hall. The Japanese group is small, not yet a congregation. But its better than before, they weren't even considered a group since they did not have an elder. They had one from Japan, but he had to go back after his son was in a car accident.
Since my 11 year old doesn't speak or understand Japanese, he will be attending the English section. He want to be able to understand what they are saying without having to ask me especially since I have trouble understanding some of it anyway. Its funny. I can read fluently, but still have problems with vocabulary.
This is the first time in 33 years that I have had trouble getting to a Memorial. And I have only missed one District Convention in the same amount of years.

Carson, I am glad you will be going.
I know its hard to go back to the meetings. It does get easier though once you make a routine of it. Just small steps.