Really trying hard to understand a situation **May be triggering** - Page 3

[jessica_lizette]

My stepmom went into premature labor with my half-brother at 21 weeks. They kept her on bedrest in the hospital and did everything they could to keep my brother alive and strong enough to live when he was delivered. He was born at 23 weeks, slightly over 1lb.

There is NO WAY that just two weeks before that, he was a mass of tissue that would pass down the toilet.

I also have a friend who recently went with someone to have a late abortion at 20 weeks. The first day, they gave her something to dilate her cervix and some pills (probably to kill the baby/placenta)? I'm not sure exactly how it works. But she had to go back in the next day for it to be removed, and she is still recovering.

This lady's story does not sound right AT ALL, whether the baby was viable or not. I hope your friend is okay.

[A_Random_Phrase]

Originally Posted by tayndrewsmama

So, what would you gals do at this point? I have explained to him what the problems are with this story, very carefully as not to upset him greatly. I guess at this point, I am going to leave him with the info and hope that time will allow things to settle into his mind on this. I don't know what else to do. There really isn't much, except to keep making sure he knows we are here for him anytime.

This sounds like the best thing you can do.

[Maggi315]

I agree it sounds unlikely, but I've seen doctors do things that are just plain dumb!

but here in Pa, any baby over 20 weeks is considered a baby and a birth/death certificate needs to be filled out. So, to send someone home to deliver would be not just unethical (which it really is, it's going to look like a baby and a placenta and the chances of complications are certainly going to be pretty high), but illegal.

I've known doctors to say the baby is only 18 weeks so they can get away with it. It's sad, I've had to attend to some of these stillborns and help the parents, who have been told to just throw the baby away! these moms (and dads) are left to deal with this loss with no help, no guidance, nothing. And that's negligent imo, and unacceptable.