I'm starting to hate facebook

[yasinsmama]

I have a couple of friends who have just had babies. Sometimes their status will say soemthing regarding the new baby, like, "why won't this baby sleep", or "When will this child ever sleep in his crib". The comments left by their friends really irk me. Stuff like CIO, give formula and cereal at night, etc. I don't want to comment b/c I don't want to get into a Facebook argument. :

[ChetMC]

Hating Facebook

I hate Facebook too. I believe that swearing it off has improved our quality of life. People think we're weird for not considering the most useful utility on earth, but I'm used to people thinking I'm weird.

[Shelsi]

I don't get the hype and I'm totally addicted to internet forums and such. However I *just* created a facebook account last week so I could search for old friends. I have a myspace but I can't remember my login and couldn't really figure it out....everyone's wall paper was so busy, it hurt my eyes.

[nextcommercial]

LOL @ the facebook argument.

I think I would casually give ideas, but nothing that would make everybody else think you are one of "those People".

[Amys1st]

I've had an acct for about 3 mos. You will go thru a reunion of sorts with all the hs people who have accts, old work people, old school friends etc and then it will get old really quick. I also am able to keep up w local friends but I see them anyhow so dont get how much of a tool this is.

The other night, we were at the neighbors' for dinner and her Bberry kept dinging. She said it was someone updating their FB acct. GMAB!!!

[Materfamilias]

Yeah, I just joined to see what the fuss is about, and apart from being contacted by a few old friends and finding a few others, I still don't see the attraction.

[lrlittle]

I un-friended one old friend because of her repeated CIO status updates. :

There's another who mentioned possibly trying out Ferber, so she's probably about to go, too.

[terese17]

I dunno, I really like facebook, its the only way to stay in touch with most of my friends. My causes and groups are all about no-circing and breastfeeding and legalizing midwives and all that, I dont think I've ever had a negative commment.

[orangefoot]

Originally Posted by lrlittle

I un-friended one old friend because of her repeated CIO status updates. :

There's another who mentioned possibly trying out Ferber, so she's probably about to go, too.

Dh has done that too as his suggestion that babies cry for a reason and like to be snuggled was dismissed out of hand by her and her 'friends'.

[vivalamama]

apparently my old college roommate is very very very very pro-vax... so far just ignoring, but can see how she might make it an issue- so far I've ignored the "please tell me you vax your kids!" note from her

[nalo]

well, i'm a facebook lover but i totally hear you about the update/comment thing. i have had to really "bite my tongue" a number of times. it does show me who i really want to be parent-friends with and who i don't.

[Mary-Beth]

That's not really a facebook issue though. It's more of an issue about what your friends are saying/doing...
I guess facebook is fun for me but I never see any posts like your describing.


I'd post something friendly as a response though--- like, I know it isn't easy when your tired. Babies grow so fast though. Before you know it these night wakings will be just a memory.

[Storm Bride]

I use facebook, but I think I don't really use it. I don't have a status line. I don't use any of the apps. I never write on anyone's wall. I basically just use it as a streamlined email/semi-instant messenger.

[sunnymw]

I kill with kindness. If someone give ezzo advice, I kindly give them the ezzo.info link for "great info about it!" (w/o saying it's anti-ezzo).

I'm gentle, but blunt. If a mom is getting horrible advice and she's on the fence, I have no problem stepping in as the only voice of reason.

That being said, geez, there's so much drama! My mom's boyfriend's son just had a baby who's almost a year and he posted a status about how easy parenting is--all you have to do is put the kid in the exersaucer, push play on baby einstein, and take a nap. Yeah--that's not Parenting, bud.

[baltic_ballet]

My kids have now caught the Twitter bug which I don't understand, who cares what your up to right now

[Dahlea]

Sometimes I say why won't my baby sleep b/c he only gets 7-8 hours a night and refuses to nap at all...and it gets really frustrating.

[labdogs42]

You can stop getting posts from people that you don't like to hear from. Just hover over one of their updates and click the X in the corner.

I love Facebook, but I'm not a huge fan of the recent changes. I'm getting WAY too many updates about stupid stuff now. I just had to figure out how to stop some of it from showing up!

[prettymatty]

I really like FB and although what some people write irritates me, I just ignore the stuff I don't like and unless the child is in danger, it isn't my place to tell someone what they are doing is wrong. I didn't use crying it out with my 5 year old daughter when she was a baby because I didn't need to. She like to sleep & was good at entertaining herself from a young age. I don't do it with my baby who is 7 1/2 months either on a regular basis but there are sometimes when she is so overtired and distraught that nothing helps, even mommy holding & snuggling her. I can put her in her crib and she squaks a bit and by the time I get to the bottom step she's out.
IMO I think that different methods work for different people and to judge someone for listening to what "well meaning" family & friends are saying is not very fair. If you read my FB wall 1/2 the time people are saying stuff on there that is ridiculous. I just take what I need from what people say and ignore the rest. There are alot of women out there that don't feel empowered enough to make their own choices when it comes to their kids so they follow advice of their family or friends. Often that advice isn't always smart. I wish I could find a group of friends who accepted what I did with my kids, even if it is different then their own ways. Life is about people being different and having different beliefs, etc. I don't necessarily think it hurts kids to be around other kids whose parents have different punishment methods (time-outs). As long as your kids know that YOU will be the one to deal with them and know HOW you will, then you are looking out for your kids.

[ananas]

Originally Posted by sunnymw

I'm gentle, but blunt. If a mom is getting horrible advice and she's on the fence, I have no problem stepping in as the only voice of reason.

If I feel I need to say something, for the safety or well-being of baby, I have nooo problem doing it.

[ainh]

I just make remarks that I will find funny. If someones asks when their kid will sleep through the night, then I comment "never. at least not if you have kids like mine."