I'm starting to hate facebook - Page 2

[MacKinnon]

I try for the ignore the CIO, offer helpful advice or just sympathy. Although I know of at least two cases where I did not succeed. I also see alot of stupid car seat pictures that annoy me.

[limabean]

Originally Posted by Mary-Beth

That's not really a facebook issue though. It's more of an issue about what your friends are saying/doing...

True, but I've learned stuff about my friends from Facebook that I never would have guessed about them based on our conversations -- it's funny how people are different online, even if they're people you know IRL.

I unfriended one woman I thought I knew fairly well because the one and only cause she chose to align herself with was "Protect Marriage: One Man, One Woman." :

[herins]

I love joining groups in Facebook just to make a statement! There are pro-breastfeeding, pro-babywearing, pro-midwifery, etc. groups. You can look at the other end of the spectrum and realize that it's also a good way to discover friends who are more like you than you imagined. I posted something about Hypnobabies and a friend I hadn't seen in a decade commented on it and we soon began setting up playdates.

[dubfam]

Originally Posted by baltic_ballet

My kids have now caught the Twitter bug which I don't understand, who cares what your up to right now

heehee my friend *jokingly* updated her Facebook status to say that she was currently eating sloppy joes, while sitting on the toilet! It was her way of poking fun at the constant status updates of FaceBook AND Twitter.

My oldest kid is 6. I am TERRIFIED of dealing with internet issues and a teen. OMG! the internet is so....narcissistic. And so are teens. IMO

[journeymom]

I joined only a month ago. I found three long lost friends, people I hadn't seen in 26 years ( can't believe it's been that long!). So while I think some of the applications for sending things back and forth (pokes, gifts, quizzes, etc.) are really awkward, I'm really happy to have reconnected with these people.

[~pi]

BTDT with some friends. My DH had a harder time with it than I did. (Typical comment from him: "You're sad listening to your baby cry? Go pick him up, then!!!")

FWIW, if you hover over someone's status off to the right, you will see a little X. Click that and you will no longer see their status updates in your feed. (You can put them back in later.)

[2xy]

I got into a "Facebook argument" a couple of weeks ago. It was in regards to that woman in the news who was pulled over for BF at the wheel.

Of course, the friend of mine who posted a link and initial comments made it about BFing, rather than child safety. Then people chimed in with the whole, "babies who can walk and talk shouldn't be BF."

So yeah, I threw in my $0.02. After several rounds of back-and-forth banter between me and two others, she removed the note with all the conversation in it.

I know not everyone agrees with me, but I feel like when you broadcast your opinion on a public forum, you're inviting discussion. If you aren't up to people possibly disagreeing with you, then maybe it shouldn't be posted. It amazes me sometimes that people think their friends will agree with them about everything.

[dubfam]

Originally Posted by 2xy

I got into a "Facebook argument" a couple of weeks ago. It was in regards to that woman in the news who was pulled over for BF at the wheel.

Of course, the friend of mine who posted a link and initial comments made it about BFing, rather than child safety. Then people chimed in with the whole, "babies who can walk and talk shouldn't be BF."

So yeah, I threw in my $0.02. After several rounds of back-and-forth banter between me and two others, she removed the note with all the conversation in it.

I know not everyone agrees with me, but I feel like when you broadcast your opinion on a public forum, you're inviting discussion. If you aren't up to people possibly disagreeing with you, then maybe it shouldn't be posted. It amazes me sometimes that people think their friends will agree with them about everything.

Good for you!!!! I couldn't agree more!

[lilyka]

weather or not you go back to facebook aside, in situations like that I find it helpful to go with "we had the same problem!! (even if it stretches the truth a little) This book (insert book here) saved my sanity! It saved my life!! its probably at your library. If you have any questions feel free to message me . . . " ignore everyone else.

[HarperRose]

I reconnected w/ a childhood friend that I haven't seen in over 10 yrs and before that it had been another 10. (We worked together for about a month at 17 yrs old then lost touch again.) Turns out, he & his fiance are cloth diapering, baby wearing, co-sleeping, bfing, selective vaxing, tech-geeks just like us!!! : (Except we don't vax at all.) They're also into fitness & he is vegetarian (we're not vegetarian, but I'm interested in it). I was SO EXCITED to catch up w/ him again and I really like his fiance! She sews & knits & watches Heroes, too! :

So FB has been good for me. I also keep in touch w/ extended family.

[2cutiekitties]

imo, FB is only good for Wordscraper. I dont have time to have "fun" with it.

[yasinsmama]

Originally Posted by limabean

True, but I've learned stuff about my friends from Facebook that I never would have guessed about them based on our conversations -- it's funny how people are different online, even if they're people you know IRL.

I unfriended one woman I thought I knew fairly well because the one and only cause she chose to align herself with was "Protect Marriage: One Man, One Woman." :

Exactly!

[megviolet]

Originally Posted by 2cutiekitties

imo, FB is only good for Wordscraper. I dont have time to have "fun" with it.

I'm the opposite, i don't have time for the games, or any of the apps like throwing things at ppl or hugging them etc etc.

I do like FB as a way to keep in touch with people, since i otherwise easily go months without calling or sending a note to many family and friends; but with FB i can take a half hour once a week and check in with people, check their photos and comment on what's happening in their lives.

As for upsetting comments and statuses and stuff... well that's no different than real life, nothing to do with it being facebook, or MDC, or the grocery store. KWIM? I chose my battles, most often there is a friendly way to make your point, and if no one agrees that's ok- at least you know that you've planted the seed... it's not up to you to make it grow.

[Breeder]

I love FB, it helps me keep up with ppl I love but never have the oppertunity to actually see (like friends from other cities or COUNTRIES!) anymore.

I don't have to pay to call them I can IM them.

Although, I don't have friends who do CIO or Ezzo or spank etc etc. I have been known to Un-Friend people who's lifestyle's really clash with mine (like my old high school friend who joined a "President Bush we will miss you" group... barf).

[Theoretica]

I have defriended a HS acquaintance because of the neverending status updates about how her husband is 'an azzhole' and her kids that 'need their butss whooped'. One time she posted that she wanted advice on how to stop screaming at them, so I made a gentle book suggestion. She retorted with 'the only thing they listen to is my hand on their @sses". A few weeks later she was ranting about her husband on FB, saying "why doesn't he get it...I get it ALL and he gets NOTHING so hand it over bustah".

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Couldn't take that anymore, so I deleted her. I could just feel the negative energy every time she showed up on the news feed.

We weren't exactly friends 'back then' anyways. oh well!

[jaidymama]

So it sounds like you're more bothered by knowing more about someone's parenting style than you had wanted? If you're close with the person, send them a note asking how things are going, or better yet Call them. If you're not close enough to offer friendly advice, then I think there's a way to view less about "friend" Then you won't have to read about their differing parenting practices, or rather the suggestions of others. And really, if you're just suggesting something and letting it go at that, where's the argument? Of course if you go in, flaming the other suggestions, yeah, that could be a problem.