How are you managing to still DTD or are you not?

[mom2tatum]

Not. Which I also didn't expect. We've tried unsuccessfully and given up in frustration three times in the past two weeks. Then we both end up feeling defeated and not wanting to even try again. Sucks. But we can't find a comfortable position for both of us. Its like every way we think of ends up causing a problem in one area or another...plus another problem is that my ds is now going to sleep in our bed right from the get go, which he used to at least start off in his room but won't anymore...So, we are dealing with either a single bed (so not enough room) the floor (yeah right) or the couch (also pretty limiting and I'm so not into).

What are your problems DTD and how are you handling it all? Not only do I want to do it, but I also would love to put those prostaglandins to good use in these last weeks. I'm bummed about this. Plus I feel huge. being almost fifty pounds more than I'm used to doesn't exactly feel cute or sexy anymore.

[YayJennie]

I definitely am not feeling sexy with this huge bump, but we have managed to DTD twice this week! The most comfortable way we've found is with him standing by the edge of the bed with me propped against pillows laying on the bed. That way we can still be facing each other, but the bump isn't too much in the way (I really don't like positions where we aren't facing each other, and this is the only position left we can manage!) I'm also very into DTD still, so I'm glad we've been able to manage. But with no other kids, it makes it A LOT easier I'm sure. Good luck!

[MossbackMeadow]

I'm dying for some together time with my husband -might make this baby come faster! Strangely, he's the one who has lost interest and I'm the one feeling rejected. He does have a lot on his mind this winter - a stressful business slowdown is one thing....

When we do manage it, doggy or kind of like spoons, with my top leg over his - works pretty well.

41 weeks tomorrow.....

[Altair]

reverse cowgirl, on the bed or couch. That's the ONLY way it's worked at all! Very comfortable on my cervix.

[Murph12334]

towards the very end with dd1 i pretty much was doing it more to help her come. Not really very romantic, but hey i figured he help get baby in there and he can help get baby out.

I would uhm help it along a bit with my hand first them we'd only actually dtd at the very end so it'd help ripen my cervix more.

[mom2tatum]

Originally Posted by Altair

reverse cowgirl, on the bed or couch. That's the ONLY way it's worked at all! Very comfortable on my cervix.

ok, i had to google that.
however, now that i watched a demo on it, I realized this one would be impossible for my legs! Dang, girl, good for you being that strong at this point...I just can't imagine doing that for more than a minute, if that!

[Altair]

hmm... no... I have NO leg strength left, so I'm managing to figure it out without getting tired... PM me if you want details, probably TMI for a due date club!

[joyfulgrrrl]

Originally Posted by mom2tatum

ok, i had to google that.
however, now that i watched a demo on it, I realized this one would be impossible for my legs! Dang, girl, good for you being that strong at this point...I just can't imagine doing that for more than a minute, if that!

LMAO I didn't know you could watch demos of these things....but this is the position we use as well, works on the bed or on the couch. We also DTD two night ago with DH on the couch, kind of slouching backwards, and me on top, with him slouching the belly wasn't in play, but he could still do some of the work. Lots of doggy style too, and spooning if I'm feeling lazy. We're only DTD 2-3x/week, action has picked up lately though as I get closer to my EDD.

[GoGoGirl]

OMG guys, this is a riot! I didn't know they had demos either! What, like on Wikipedia?

And about reverse cowgirl, I was thinking "whoa, she must have stronger legs than I do too!" I can barely manage that one when I'm NOT pregnant!

We're DTD again, for pretty much the first time all pregnancy. I've just soooo not been into it. But now I'm bored of waiting for the baby, sick of being stuck in the house, and trying to get her out--all of which means DH is getting some again!

We've been doing it from behind, on the bed, with me kind of flopped over four pillows stacked on top of each other. That way I don't have to hold myself up. It's nice because when I look over in the mirror, the pillows hide my stomach, so I feel a little more like my non-pregnant sexy self. And DH giggles the whole time because he gets a great view of my now much bigger butt (some of the 60 pounds must have gone there, right??)

It is kind of sweet that we're trying to get the baby out the same way we got her in (ie: while watching porn on the laptop!)

[Multimomma]

:glad I'm not alone!

Originally Posted by Murph12334

towards the very end with dd1 i pretty much was doing it more to help her come. Not really very romantic, but hey i figured he help get baby in there and he can help get baby out.

I would uhm help it along a bit with my hand first them we'd only actually dtd at the very end so it'd help ripen my cervix more.

[mom2tatum]

Ok, I am so glad I posted about this now because I was inspired to try again last night and IT WORKED. Me on top and then from the back. It worked fairly well I'd say. But, I did move my sleeping ds to his room, then had to deal with him waking up there at 3 am and stayed awake till 530, he was so thrown off...next time note to self, move him back into our bed immediately after DTD!
Now I won't be nervous about trying again next time!

Oh, and the demo was an interview with a porn star lady on you tube I think...and she mentioned reverse cowgirl being a favorite of hers and the dude was like, oh whats that? So she says, I'll show you. So, that was enough demo for me to get the idea.

[Altair]

haha-- yea, I'm sure a porn demo is using a lot more leg strength than we all have right now. You actually don't really need to use your leg muscles at all if you just lean forward and kind of rock more than go up and down.

[GoddessJ]

Still going strong here...off course it helps that teaching sex is my profession and my partner is used to trying lots of new things!

As a side note, ingesting seman orally can be just as effective as intercourse for helping the cervix to soften, you are still getting the prostoglandins.

I do have some short videos on you tube if it helps at all...
http://www.youtube.com/user/LiberatorVideos

And of course orgasms and nipple stim are awesome and don't require intercourse...try vaginal massage, clitoral stimulation and other things that feel really good. It all helps and bathes the baby in feel good hormones!