It's funny. I think I'm forgetting just how much ds1 has grown and matured in the last 3 or so years (he's 16 tomorrow). We controlled his media consumption a lot more strictly at 13 than we do now.
That said...I wish more of his friends had had parents like you. He watched some stuff I would never have let him watch at a couple of his friend's homes, and they were moms I liked, and had no idea they'd let him watch stuff like that. I will admit that I don't check with parents, anymore, though. I did until a year or two ago, if I had any doubts at all. What I really don't get is how often I was greeted with an expression and/or tone of voice that suggested I was nuts for checking in. Even if it was something that ds1 was totally allowed to watch, I'd understand why a parent was checking with me, yk?
I can't get over how many people don't check. Dsd watched something extremely inappropriate at a friend's house a few years ago and I was livid. She had a lot of trouble separating reality from fantasy at the time and it was not helpful at all. : I always check, just in case, because we've had a few friends who get offended if someone says butt, which means their kids can watch G rated movies only.
How they became friends with us is beyond me. I'm constantly having to edit out @$$.
There are also a lot of children who have nightmares from stuff I might consider relatively mild. Dsd couldn't watch things at 9 Ds watched at 7. I'd like to know those things before I traumatize someone else's kid, not after.
Lately I've noticed every movie that has a romance has characters jumping in and out of bed at the drop of a hat, which seems to give kids the impression that's how relationships work. There's no getting to know you period at all, and that is not the message I want my kids to be getting, yk?