Originally Posted by 2xy
On a tangent....
One thing I've noticed about lots of people that I work with and even my DH sometimes....they have a "it's not my job" attitude. My parents never made me do any chores. They just asked me to help and I did. I often grumbled, but I still helped.
This is interesting. DH used to worry about ds1 not getting tings done, because he didn't have chores. DH had chores, and he's pretty self-motivated, and gets things done around here. OTOH...I never had chores, and I always got things done at home, as well. My parents operated on the basis of asking for, and receiving help, not on a set list of chores.
I have given ds1 several chores, but we've assigned those more to ensure that he learns how to do them. I'm somewhat horrified at how many adults
can't clean a bathroom, scrub a toilet or vacuum, yk? DS1 has been on bathrooms on alternating weekends for about a month and a half (he's done them 3 or 4 times) and he's getting much better at seeing what needs to be done. I'm honestly more concerned that he learn that, than I am that he "does his chores".
I don't worry much about him pulling his own weight, because he's always helped out. He used to come with me to the grocery store, and he'd carry a bag all the way home, even when he was only 5 or 6. He helps out with his siblings when necessary. Last night, my bread machine beeped at me, and I was washing dishes, so I got ds1 to take the dough out, remove the paddle and re-shape the loaf. That's not a big thing, but I like knowing he'll help if I need him to.
|When I see something that needs to be done, I just do it, even if it's not my job. I wonder sometimes if my parents had it right about this one thing.
I'm mostly like that, too. There are a few things I'll dodge for a while, if I can, but it's more because I really hate doing them.
I don't tend to do ds1's trash and recycling chores, but that's mostly because I'm home with the kids, and taking them down to the dumpster 2-3 times becomes a half-day task. Normally, if I notice that the garbage needs to go out, it's when I'm in the middle of something, so I don't really have time to take the kids on errands.