First-time mamas - wanna chat? - Page 13

[fiddlefern]

Hey, ladies.

I'm in my third trimester and want to tell all of you in the first and second that I really wouldn't worry about weight gain as long as you're eating high-nutrient foods and eating the amount you feel like whenever you're hungry.

My mw was also worried about my lack of weight gain for the first half of my pregnancy. Now I've gained over 25 lbs, and still 2 months to go.

I haven't changed anything, except that the first trimester I had to eat WAY more often but the choice of foods that I actually FELT like eating was much less. It's been nice being able to expand my diet as the pregnancy has progressed: first trimester I only wanted simple carbs (rice, potatoes, and cream of wheat were my friends), since 2nd trimester I like plenty of protein, fruits and veggies.

I have a friend that went through pregnancy in Europe- her mw hardly mentioned weight.

We should give ourselves a break and listen to our bodies.

cheers and happy eating,

fiddlefern

[naturegirl]

Thanks ladies for your support and advice on the weight gain. The last week or so I have been getting a bigger belly by the day so this little bean is definately growing. I am starting to be able to eat better and keep things down. I am sure in about 3 months I will be wondering what I was worrying about as I have a huge belly in front of me!

Cheryl

[dharmama]

Has anyone else been having "OMG We're having a baby!!" moments???

I'm just starting into my third trimester this week and it's really hitting me. We're TOTALLY thrilled and excited (of course) but I've started having these little mini panic attacks thinking about how my life is going to change.

Plus we're doing our Bradley class (which we BTW) and we're practicing labor/contractions/relaxation etc. It's just all becoming so real!!

~Erin

[PattyCakes]

yep dharmama. Right there with ya. We started our classes as well and at our first class - about 5 minutes in - a mom came into the birth center in labour. Talk about a reality check. We were all thinking - "that'll be us in a few weeks". YIKES!!! but it's fun too. heehee.

[adventuregirl]

A few paces behind, I'm experiencing, OMG, I am actually getting bigger and soon I will be a LOT bigger! I am not prepared for this growing out of my clothes thing...

[JenInMpls]

I've gotten my brain around how huge this whole thing is exactly one time. My colleague Dana advised me not to think about it because the feeling of "what on earth am I doing?" never wears off.

jen

[naturegirl]

I am happy to hear that I am ot the only one. :LOL. Everyone says how we (dh and I) will make such GREAT parents. I wish I had that much confidence in myself.

Nice to hear from you all again BTW

Cheryl

[KristaF]

Getting used to growing out of clothing

Adventuregirl.... I am with you- to think that my little body will not longer (or no longer in some cases) fit into my clothing is a bit much for a first time mom. I freak out thinking about it. When I am laying with out clothes on looking at the belly starting to grow- I am excited. When I think about putting something on that does not fit me anymore, I get a little worked up. I have never been a bigger girl and the thought of losing the "fitness" look is a bit scary to me. I think it will take some time getting used to.

I have a wonderful husband that thinks I am gorgeous geting a big belly. He loves pregnant beliies- so that helps. He will get me used to it and help me learn to love it I am sure.

Hope all is well with the new mommies to be- it is here. Still having sickness and I have no energy and I am in my 20th week- half way there.

August can't come soon enough!

Take care,

Krista

[naturegirl]

Congrats Krista! I am half way too. I think our due dates are really close...

I have finally gained 10 lbs! I think the weight is finally starting to show. I was getting a little worried for awhile that I wouldn't put on enought weight. My mw seemed a little concerned at my last appointment. Not overly, just a little.

How are all the first time mamas? It's been awhile.

Cheryl

[adventuregirl]

Cheryl, good job on the 10 pounds! You are catching up just fine, your body knows just what to do.

I am doing great, 17 weeks tomorrow and just started to feel little movements this week, yippee!!!! Had a great mw appt yesterday, babe is growing right on schedule. I only gained a half pound in the last month, but I am definitely growing and eating well and in quantity, so I'm not worried, mw did not seemed concerned at all.

I'm starting to get all the advice/comments/questions from friends and family that come with pregnancy. I am learning about filtering things out without getting worried/upset/annoyed, its so funny what comes out of people's mouths when they hear you are pregnant! Its actually the assumptions that blow me away, but I guess that goes with me not being mainstream to begin with...

Hope everyone is doing great!

[naturegirl]

I hear you on the unwanted "advice" adventuregirl. I am getting tired of people asking me "who's your doctor?" That usually starts the whole line of me having a midwife, homebirth, non-medicated (at least planned that way), not knowing the sex because I am not doing an u/s, etc. etc. I get the "oh, you will see." or "so and so planned an unmedicated birth to but that didn't work." : I do realize that I MAY not be able to have an unmedicated home birth in the end but I really wish people would stop trying to put so much doubt in my head. At least I know better than to listen and have much support in places like these boards and a few people irl.

It's so great to see you are at 17 weeks! You are almost half way too! I hope you are enjoying your pregnancy now that you have gotten over the "scary" time. Have you felt any movement yet? I felt my first movement at the end of 17 weeks. It is so cool.

TTYL
Cheryl

[TurboClaudia]

I have pretty much avoided the "unwanted advice" thus far through the pregnancy. The only questions most people (other than my closest friends) ask are when is your baby due (answer: late May/ early June) and do you know what your having, boy or girl (answer: no, and we're not planning on finding out until baby's birthday). I don't even bother going into the explanation of we chose not to have an ultrasound because our midwives don't offer them since they are homebirth midwives. That would just invite all sorts of questions that people don't really need to know the answers to. And as for people saying, "We'll see..." about planning an unmedicated, low-intervention birth, I will be happy to talk to them after our baby is born so we really can see. I believe in the incredibly strong mind-body connection, and I know with my heart and mind that planning a home birth is the best thing for me and our baby.

warmly,
claudia
mama-to-be in late spring 2004!

[naturegirl]

Lucky you Claudia. I can't seem to get completely away from it although it hasn't been too bad I guess. Most are very supportive.

Cheryl

[fiddlefern]

Hey all you fellow first-timers!

I'm at 33 weeks, and suddenly everybody and their mother wants to visit me/ have me over. It's kinda ironic, because now is when I'm wanting to just hang out around the house. I'm still working 50 hrs a wk or so, and have visitors/ visits every single weekend this month. I'm starting to have to say no, thanks- I'll have to see you in 3 or 4 months after baby is born and we're settled in.

I won't complain too loudly, though. My dad is coming down this weekend and he wants to take me shopping for baby stuff. I think I can even convince him to walk with me to the local mom-owned organic baby place (though I'm sure he'd rather do BabiesRUs).

Enjoy those little growing ones, everyone!

[JenInMpls]

BabiesRUs blew my mind when I went into it.

Spring has sprung, my body is trying to adjust, and I can't believe how HOT I feel even now and it's only hit 70 degrees. Oh, this summer is going to be unpleasant, I fear...

j

[adventuregirl]

You know how in vampire movies people make a cross with their fingers to ward off the evil creatures? That's how I feel about Babies R Us, noooooo, noooooo!!!!! Keep it away from me! I won't even go near there. Someone mentioned to me that I had to register there and I was like, no flippin way! No offense to anyone who likes it, I just have this major aversion.

[blessed2bamommie]

Hey yall! I'm sooooooo thankful that yall,Cheryl and adventure are doing well. Having m/ced I'm always a bit sensitive to those who haven't had an easy road.

I hear ya about BRU. Where my church is there isn't one, just TRU, Target, and Wally, neither of which appeal to me. Dh says don't bother to register b/c of the limited funds of folks. I just don't want the typical bags of sposies and bottles. : All I can find organic is the WAHMS online. I might post in FYT though, just in case.

[JenInMpls]

We created a registry at babybungalow.com because they have the co-sleeper we want at the most decent price, plus they had a very inclusive registry which always makes us happy! Mostly it serves as a list of what we want that won't end up lost like every other slip of paper around here!

Letia, I have found that it is possible to create a wishlist that won't strap people's budgets... I made one for my school that included a warm welcome of meals and visits... when the wife of a teacher at our school had a baby, they were fed every evening, dishes washed and house cleaned, for about a MONTH. People felt like they could really contribute that, and it didn't put anyone out financially. Maybe that's a possibility for you?

Wishing you all well,

jen

[naturegirl]

I hear you all about BRU too. A very good friend of mine asks every time I see here when we are going to go and register there.: I really don't want to go but she is so excited about it. I tried to compromise and register for a few things there just to make her happy but I did it over the internet. Just walking in there is stressful for me. Too busy, bright lights, noise, lots of noise. It starts to really scare me about what I am getting into.

I have, however, registered at www.organicbebe.com They have cloth diapers, car seats, co-sleepers, clothes, toys, etc. And all pretty cool stuff. I have also heard good things about babybungalow so I will be checking that out too.

How do you tell people where you are registered? Do you send it in invitations or is that just tacky? I don't want anyone to feel obligated to buy me anything I just want to have a celebration with friends and family. And if they want to buy me something that I really will use than bonus!

So what is a good way to let people know?

Cheryl

[blessed2bamommie]

seems you *can put them in *shower invites. I think the faux pa would be in a *wedding invitation. I'm sure there's a site that can help us out!