|I also would say that in my opinion, there are MANY legitimate dialects of English and I think it is important to recognize all of them. Diminishing your husband's language is really not fair to your future child.
This exactly. I think the mentality that your dh is just using "bad grammar" or not speaking English "correctly" is the more harmful thing, to be honest.
Variation is not inherently wrong. Nonstandard is not substandard. There are SO many ways to speak English and they are all legitimate and they all have value. Is American English inherently inferior to British English? Of course not. And yet it is really just a colonial dialect
However, I understand your concern that your child be proficient in standard American English, as that is the dialect which they will need to perform well in school and to be perceived as "educated speakers" (why am I having Pygmalion flashbacks
). But there is simply NO evidence that knowledge of and proficiency in one dialect will hinder or prevent proficiency in the other. In fact, MANY native speakers of English codeswitch all the time and even at an early age become very adept at it. I will say for myself that the way I speak when I teach is quite a bit different than the way I speak when I'm hanging out with my friends--granted, not a exactly dialectical difference, but a register difference and that is something along the same lines. In addition, I have AA students who, in class and on papers, write in perfect standard American English. I have seen them with their friends in the hallway as they slip seemlessly into AAVE (which is quite a bit different from standard American English). They are absolutely fluent in both and to be honest it is quite fascinating to observe (at this point you might have guessed that I'm a linguist
). And BOTH English variants are legimate forms of communication.
People (even young children) are able to guage which social situation calls for which dialect or register. And speakers proficient in more than one dialect can move through multiple worlds. And that, in my opinion, is something to be envied, not prevented