Who's still hanging out - Page 2

[mom2tatum]

Still here...I'll probably be the last, too. Due the 30th with absolutely no signs of anything, and actually baby got out of comfortable wonderful birthing position LOA and switches now from ROA to posterior. Ugh. No offense to anyone here, but in a way I wish I joined the April DDC originally because I may end up being almost totally alone in the last days. I know all of you are basically due now or overdue a tad, but you will be having your babies all very very soon! I am just 38 w 3 d. so I just feel more anxious getting online and reading around here!

but overall things are ok. Time is still going pretty fast in my world, so I guess that's good. I just wish I hadn't expected an early baby due to my ds being a 36 wker...:

[liliaceae]

Originally Posted by UhOhWhatNow

Due any day and sick of this- so scared of birth that I can hardly think. I want it in my past. Tired of living with the dread and cloud of my head of knowing something so awful lies ahead of me.

It's the scariest, hardest, most depressing thing I've ever lived through, knowing I have to give birth. I'm terribly afraid of pain and even more so of needles and being touched. SO this whole thing sucks to me.

Luckily I've had an easy pregnancy and have a great midwife and don't have to get any needles.

Hope he comes soon!!! Want it over!!! Nothing yet.

Oh no, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Have you tried to do anything to work through your fear of birth? It really isn't all that bad! Your body was meant to do this, and if you just listen to your body and try to relax, everything will be okay! Please don't hesitate to post here asking for help with your feelings; MDC is a wonderful, supportive place and a lot of us have already gone through labor and birth, so maybe we can help!

[UhOhWhatNow]

Originally Posted by liliaceae

Oh no, I'm so sorry you feel this way. Have you tried to do anything to work through your fear of birth? It really isn't all that bad! Your body was meant to do this, and if you just listen to your body and try to relax, everything will be okay! Please don't hesitate to post here asking for help with your feelings; MDC is a wonderful, supportive place and a lot of us have already gone through labor and birth, so maybe we can help!

Thanks. I feel so helpless. My poor DH is freaked out too, scared to be a parent, and everything else I guess. So I try to mostly put on a brave face, but I am SO scared. As I come to realize I probably won't die in birth (I'm afraid of that, too!) it hits me I'll have a baby... and I'm just feeling like such a scared idiot. I have no baby experience, and I just... am overwhelmed. Yikes. Birth is such a horror to me though that I can't even really think about the baby. I'm just scared to death for myself- terrible, I know.

[xiola]

My due date is Monday, and honestly I think I am going to make it after that. I have no signs of anything happening. I am ok with that. My daughter was a couple of days late, and my son was right on time. So I am just hanging out and trying to enjoy my youngest while she is the youngest. My son is with his grandparents and our daughter is with her mom they are both anxious and eager. Poor Parker doesn't know what is coming, but is excited about the baby. I hope it doesn't change her. I am so worried about how much this will affect her personality and behavior. Is that silly?

[Goniopal]

Still here, too. EDD 3-31-09, so I'll be here a while, I think! I am still working, and feeling good, getting focused on Spring, baby, and looking forward to the homebirth.
Strangely, I've been carrying sooo low, and getting my pubic bone split open, and today, he moved UP. A Lot! My belly is a completely different shape- belly button was a swimming pool and now I can't see it! Weird- maybe I need some directional signals in there!
jenn

[UhOhWhatNow]

It's so weird when your belly changes shape! lol

Sometimes I have an outie belly button, and other times it's almost normal.

[liliaceae]

Originally Posted by UhOhWhatNow

Thanks. I feel so helpless. My poor DH is freaked out too, scared to be a parent, and everything else I guess. So I try to mostly put on a brave face, but I am SO scared. As I come to realize I probably won't die in birth (I'm afraid of that, too!) it hits me I'll have a baby... and I'm just feeling like such a scared idiot. I have no baby experience, and I just... am overwhelmed. Yikes. Birth is such a horror to me though that I can't even really think about the baby. I'm just scared to death for myself- terrible, I know.

Have you done research on what happens in birth, read birth books, stuff like that? I know it's a little late to start now, but I'd recommend you at least try to read a lot of positive birth stories. Maternal death is very very rare, it's really not something you should worry about at all.

I didn't have any experience with babies before my son was born; you really don't need it. I know it's scary now, but truly you will know what to do. Taking care of an infant is easy; just listen to them. The baby will let you know when she's hungry, tired, needs to be changed or held. Her needs are simple and you as her mother will know what to do to meet them.

About fearing birth, I'm sure you've head about the fear/tension/pain cycle--if you are fearful, you tense up, if you tense up, you experience pain, etc. Unfortunately being afraid of it being painful makes it more likely to be painful. When you have contractions, try to relax as much as possible. Remember that tensing up will make it hurt more.

Are you giving birth in a hospital or at home? Who will be there to support you? Have you discussed your fears with them?

Lastly, I strongly suggest you post about your fears in the Birth and Beyond forum; there may be some women who have gone through the same thing who can give you advice. Try to learn as much about normal birth as you can, and read as many positive birth stories as you can.

Sorry for all of the unsolicited advice, I just hate to think of you birthing in fear.

[AngieWin]

Still here too. I am due 3-31(by my dates, 4-2 by obs), but both of my boys were 3 1/2 weeks early so I have been lurking here mostly in the past couple of months. I was 38 weeks yesterday and while I am very excited to have gone past my previous dates, I am feeling overdue now.

My past issues (high bp, pre-e, swelling) I had with my first 2 have not shown up and it is looking more and more favorable for a vbac. Been having very uncomfortable braxton hicks for several weeks, but as of last monday they havent done much (cervix is starting to thin, no dialation). Trying to remind myself that everyday I am pg is a blessing (this is our last) and each contraction is getting me one baby step closer.

And count me in for the everchanging belly button! In the morning it is as flat as it can get and throughout the day it pops out more and more!

[Double E]

I'm still here....hanging out (literally)!
My due date is tomorrow and I'm not showing any signs of going soon. She seems to be nice and cozy in here! I'm just so anxious and excited to meet her!
Not to mention my parents are now in town (to watch our son and meet their new granddaughter). And my friends/family keep asking (bugging) me if she's here yet.

Physically I feel really good (besides being SO huge and swollen) but I'm ready!
I swear this feels like the longest stretch....I just need to remind myself to be a little more patient.

[bethannek]

I'm still here. Waiting. Even with the extreme discomfort I am emotionally and physically patient about when the baby will come. Unfortunately, I am stuck with a hospital birth so at 40w3d they are starting the induction talk (by 42 weeks they will induce). I'm dealing with Midwives under OB control so the Midwives are willing to schedule things as far out as 42 weeks and hope things happen naturally before. I have an appointment at 41 weeks exactly for my first internal exam and then the NST is a few days later.

We'll be trying everything under the sun this weekend to encourage this little one to make it's grand entrance. Here's to hoping things work out. I've learned a lot in the last few months about our provider choices that I wish I'd known earlier. I keep saying to DH that no matter what happens with this birth the next one will be very different.