Hey mama, I hope I can be straight forward here. I am proud of you for asking and considering options outside of mainstream thinking! Educating yourself is always positive! If you want to have a scheduled c-section that is totally up to you and no one's place to judge. It sounds like you don't though.
I had 2 c-sections. One planned last minute due to frank breech presentation and stuck head. It went very well b/c the doctor was wonderful, signed off on my birth plans and ensured the nurses did as we wished. I recovered very fast.
My 2nd c-section was a long labor at home, little dilation, hospital transfer and c-section (long story as usual). I had a very, very hard emotional and physical recovery from this one.
My 3rd baby was born almost 18 months ago and was my VBA2C
Here is my advice: Get away from the OB practice. If you already aren't comfortable there, your brain AND your intuition are telling you it is wrong for you! This is YOUR body, YOUR birth and YOUR baby and as long as you feel good about having a VBAC and baby is healthy, then go for it.
I personally would tell you to stay away from the hospital (obviously unless of an emergency). They WILL treat you different. I mean look how much intervention they do with moms who aren't even VBAC's, much less you being a VBA2C mama.
Yes, there are some doctors who are awesome. There is one in DFW I would go to. Only 1, but I wouldn't go to him b/c he still catches at a hospital!
My VBA2C was supposed to be a homebirth (another long story, going to cut it way short). My midwife 'dropped' me at 42 freakin' weeks! I went to a CNM twice and birthed my baby after over 50 hrs in the hospital (was only in the hospital the last few hrs, I labored at home). I wasn't prepared for an UC. The CNM was HORRIBLE and any 'complications' I had were b/c of her.
I would really try to find an amazing CNM with an awesome back up OB, not a "we'll give you a trial of labor" one OR a homebirth midwife.
You can do this. You really can. If you want it bad enough, it's yours for the taking mama!