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post #41 of 47
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Originally Posted by ishyfishie View Post
I do understand where you're coming from, OP. I often find myself thinking, "Well, this this and that would be solved by turning her, wouldn't it be so much easier, etc etc" but then I make myself watch the crash test videos and I look at her slender little neck and body and realize there's no way I could turn her unless absolutely necessary....

I know it very often feels cut and dried here on MDC (RF is safer, that's that), but I do agree that sometimes there have to be other considerations (though what those considerations are and how important they are to a given family vary widely, obviously!).
I just wanted to thank you for this statement. It's so easy for things to look black and white in print, and you miss the nuances of real life. I'm a CPST Instructor and live and breathe this stuff all the time, but in real life, with a dirt driveway and a muddy, dirty little boy... Well, I'm ready to turn him around, frankly. And then I teach another class, or talk to another parent, or meet someone whose life was impacted by a crash, and I leave him RFing for another week, another month... But don't think that I don't shake my head sometimes and wish I didn't know better, wish I could justify turning him now...
post #42 of 47
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Originally Posted by ilovemyavery View Post
But don't think that I don't shake my head sometimes and wish I didn't know better, wish I could justify turning him now...
Yes, exactly! Knowledge is a blessing but also a burden sometimes. My husband is on board with everything, but occasionally says, "Man, I wish we didn't know so much!" (About many things, not just RF/FF.) We're thankful that we do know those things to keep our dd as safe as possible, obviously, but at the same time...I sometimes can't stop thinking about that "ignorance is bliss" thing!
post #43 of 47
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Originally Posted by TheGirls View Post
A "normal size" (ie 50th percentile) child won't hit 35lb until age 3.5. Even my large size (80th percentile) child may make it to 3. So most kids really should be RF still at 2.5....
My ds2 will probably fit in his radian by height at 2.5, but he's only 3 lbs below the weight limit and he's only 20 months. I REALLY doubt he'll make it to 2.5. My ds1 outgrew by height before weight in his Marathon. It really depends on the child and torso size.
post #44 of 47
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Originally Posted by ishyfishie View Post
then I make myself watch the crash test videos and I look at her slender little neck and body and realize there's no way I could turn her unless absolutely necessary.

This is exactly why my tiny 32lb 42" 5 yr old is still rf. Also, as far as I know...no matter what...rf is always safer in frontal crashes...no matter what age. And there are statically more frontal crashes than rear....which is why rf is safer.
post #45 of 47
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Originally Posted by AliveMama View Post
But for most kids there is an end in site. At 2.5 she's ~23/24 lbs. I can't really imagine (although I'm sure it will happen eventually) a time when she's 33lbs.

That 10lbs might take her another 2 or 3 years to gain given how she's grown so far. Maybe longer! My DH is short, so height won't be an issue. (She sat in my friends SafeSeat last week and she still fit the shell...)

Ultimately it is very likely that we will turn her around before she hits the limit of her seat. Probably because at some point it will become important to her.

But it's something I want to think about for along time before we do it so that we have an idea of the requirements for her, and the circumstances we would consider before turning the seat.
DD did not hit 24 lb till age 3. Now at 3.5, she is about 26 lb. I figure at this rate, she could easily be 4.5-5 before she is close to the RF limits of her car seat. If she is still RF at 5, she may still be able to ride RF in kindergarten!
post #46 of 47
My DD was 16lbs at a year, 22lbs at 2 years, 30lbs at 3 years and then 35lbs at 3.5. Growth patterns can and often do change.
post #47 of 47
"My sister has 3 carseats and a booster in her van. But they are all FFing. So everytime it would be nice to go somewhere all together I have to decide whether or not to hold firm and take 2 cars (or not go if I don't have the car) or bend and let DD ride FFing. If I'm OK with it for short trips (which I am now) then why not all the time?"

My almost-3-year-old is FFing in her Radian, and I don't lose any sleep over it. She HATED being RFing, deeply deeply loathed it. I was very lucky that the shape of the Radian got her off her intensive campaign to get out of harness entirely (which I'm pretty sure is not even legal, let alone safe).

That said, I think that it's totally consistent to maintain "best practices" in your own car, where the vast majority of the traveling takes place, but be willing to do a "good enough" solution for occasional trips so that a family can carpool. I have never made the grandparents buy the super-duper carseats that I buy. I do not pitch a hissy because my mother's old car doesn't have LATCH. For the amount of time they spend in those cars, good enough is good enough.

I feel like whatever you are doing in your family car should make you feel good when you think about it. If it doesn't (either because it's not safe enough for your tastes or because it's a huge hassle that makes car travel a misery), then something should be changed.
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