Originally Posted by Sadie Lake
We weaned around Thanksgiving time, dd was about 31 months.
In the last month, she has become absolutely obsessed with ears; touching, pinching, pulling, sliding them between her fingers.
Mind you, she is unvaccinated and shows absolutely no other signs of autism or any other kind of medical issue.
But this recent development is driving dh and I crazy! It takes me an hour almost every day to get her down for naps because she can't NOT do it, and I get so irritated by it that we end up getting in a fight about it! EVERY TIME I pick her up (which is a lot, she's a very attached child still) her hands go straight for my ears.
It seems logical that it might have something to do with being weaned before it was HER decision (I'm pregnant), but that doesn't explain why it didn't manifest for 3 or so months.
It could be just normal behavior for this age (obsessing about something) but it is just so annoying that I'm going to go crazy trying to wait for it to pass!
Anybody else experience this? any tips or sugguestions?
Haha, do not worry a thing about it. As a matter of fact, and this may shock you, such actions at an early age is a sign of early maturity and high intellegence.
First off, let me just assure you that in no way will allowing your child to continue touching earlobes harm her in any physical or mental way. It is simply a form of comfort. Like some children, who bite their nails or suck their thumbs, this is just a less spoken of way to cope.
However, unfortuantely, there is a small chance of this habit going away.
When I was a toddler, I had numerous babysitters. When either a parent or gaurdian would try to put me to sleep, I'd always reach over and mess with their earlobes. I found it relaxing, nevertheless, it wasn't only a way of comfort. It was normally because I wasn't tired, or I was too excited or anxious about something, and because I was being forced to rest I had no choice but to release some of my energy by-well, rubbing earlobes.
I need you to check if your child is also making sucking motions inside her mouth to see if we're on the same page. If she is, that is just more proof that it's a psychologic state. However, this is a sign of stress. When hearing this, most parents make the mistake of going straight out and asking their child what is wrong. Do NOT do that. This will only alert him/her. If the child had avoided discussing the problem in the first place, and sought to this habit, then don't pry. Simply show more affection.
Still, even affection cannot berid of a habit once it has started. Being warm towards your child is only to prevent future psychologic damage. The habit itself, however, is different. It will not go away. But as your child grows more aware of her surrounding's feelings, she will start to withdrawl from others' ears, and instead on her own. She may even start to pinch and scratch at it. As long as she doesn't go overboard, there is no trouble.
Keep in mind, that I am fourteen, and I still play with my earlobe. As a child, my mother too has also been furious at my little nasty habit. She questioned therapists and doctors. I had never seen this as anything bad, and I still haven't. I am an indigo child, and if you're not familiar with this term, it is another story.
I hope this helped! Have faith in your daughter/son. They will grow up to be beautiful children, earlobe obsession or no obsession.