No need to argue!

[smeep]

So far, at least. (Now) exdp and I found out we're pregnant (he left me 2 1/2 weeks ago before we found out we were pg, story's in Single Parents). Things are on a positive note atm, so I'm hoping it'll stay that way.

When we first met it didn't take long before he knew my stand on RIC (and he was circ'd as a baby). Well, when I found out I was pg we were arguing and he kept saying crap about things we won't agree on. I said the only things I wouldn't budge on were out-of-hospital birth unless medically necessary otherwise to which he agreed, exclusive bf and full-term bf unless medically necessary otherwise to which he agreed, and no RIC (which is never medically necessary) and...HE AGREED! He said he's done research on it "since" (I suppose "since" means since I told him we were pg). He's never argued my thoughts and reasons for being against RIC (only risks and losses, most importantly his body his choice) just said he likes his the way it is to which I always said that's fine, I just refuse to make that decision for my children. So yayyy!!! And I kinda doubt he'll change his mind. Wouldn't matter in the end as I'll never consent, but still I sooo don't want it to be an argument. Though I am hoping for a girl either way.

Just thought I'd share!

[stealthmode]

Yay mama! Sorry, I don't mean to steal your thunder, but I just came to this board to post a very similar bit of good news! I'm not pg yet, but I have been secretly dreading the circ discussion with my DH, mostly because he's circed and has no problem with being that way.

Tonight I brought up the subject, prefacing it by saying I expected us to disagree, and he responded by saying, "well, he can always get it done later in life if he wants." I tried not to overreact, but I was : on the inside. It makes the decision so much easier! I now feel 100% confident that not circing is the right choice.

Anyway I just wanted to add to the good news and say that it's not always as hard to come to an agreement as people might think. Sometimes even your own partner (or ex partner, whatever the case may be) can surprise you.

[njeb]

I think a lot of men are more reasonable than we give them credit for. Our circ. conversation went something like this:
Me: If this baby's a boy, I do NOT want him to be circumcised.
Dh: OK.

No fuss, no drama. :

One thing to realize--this is a public forum, so those who are having trouble with their husbands/partners need to post to find suggestions from other people about how to change his mind and/or stand strong in the face of opposition. Thus, we get a lot of threads about "how do I change his mind?" This has the unfortunate side effect of giving the impression that most men are rabidly pro-circ., which may not be the case at all.

Those who are having no trouble with their partners don't have to post. We have it easy.

[Yulia_R]

Great news! Congrats on your pregnancy!