Originally Posted by heamae
When dh got home this morning we argued about it again. He has no reason for wanting except that he is a man with a penis and thats what he wants.
My husband didn't think too much about it, just assumed it was something that was done. Since I felt so strongly about our son not being mutilated, he was willing to go along with my feelings. I didn't think that was enough and made sure he had plenty of access to information about circumcision, parental attachment, etc. And *on his own*, he realized that he never wanted to inflict something like this on his child. I wanted him to realize how barbaric and horrible it is and to not just "go along", but to wholeheartedly agree with our decision to leave our son as nature intended.
My husband is a creature of logic, often to a fault, but it worked out in my son's favor.
Anyhow, if he'd been ruled by emotion, instead, I'd have just told him that the mere presence of his penis didn't necessarily qualify him to make this decision. After all, he has no prepuce. As an intact female, I DO have a prepuce. It's functional and I shudder at the thought of *not* having it. Therefore, I know what an intact prepuce can be and my experience holds more weight and there would be no amputation of a tiny newborn's genitalia.
I suppose it helps that I'm the crazy passionate one in our relationship. He's not emotionless, he's just not ruled by his heart quite as much. He prefers that I not be a harridan and I try not to steamroll him too often. I would *never* let him strip my child of his genital integrity, however. Fortunately, it became a non-issue.
There used to be information in this forum that was VERY useful and informative and that information made a HUGE difference in his feelings regarding circumcision. Sadly, I think those threads are now gone.
I haven't been able to find them in awhile.