We were supposed to spend the day after xmas with DS' godfather and "aunt" (his wife) (my DH's cousins), but while driving to their home it became more and more evident that DH and DS were coming down with something - DH the flu; DS bronchitis.
I already received advanced warning that their home is not childproofed and that they are very nervous about having my ds running around in it, and I assured them that I always keep a very close watch on ds esp. when at other people's homes, and not to worry.
Well, when we arrived the GF and Aunt did not act like they trusted me to watch my son, and when DS moved in the direction of objects or rooms that they did not want him in, they would yell and grab or yank him away; it was very negative and nervewracking. At one point his aunt grabbed a ball out of his hand bc she was afraid that he would throw it (he hadn't, yet) and of course he was very upset about this. She didn't let me handle it (I was on my way to retrieve the ball from him, nicely - we don't grab or yank things from each other in my family) but she got to him first and said "I'd rather see him cry then break something" and I said "but when we yank something out of his hand it is upsetting to him, and we could have asked him to give us the ball instead"
After 30 minutes or so my DH was so ill by this time that he had to go lie down, and DS was now coughing at regular intervals. Then the GF was really annoyed bc we had brought the plague to his house (and they were to leave for a long planned Galapagos trip in a week after our visit, and didn't want to be sick for it). I can appreciate not wanting to be sick on your vacation, but we had driven over two hours to come visit them, and as willing as I was to get in the car and go home right away, my husband was passed out in a bed.
So it was just me and my DS with the GF and Aunt, who proceeded to ignore us and watch CNN and when DS tried to interact in his cute sweet way, GF would have nothing to do with him. And with all of the negative energy in the "no" environment, my DS was very stressed and kept fussing and crying and having fits, and nursed much more often than usual (which I think made our hosts uncomfortable, too).
I've made this message long as it is, so I won't go into further detail, but just to say that I was so offended by how we were treated that I don't want to ever visit their home again, and don't look forward to seeing them anytime soon.
Thanks for the opportunity to vent.
I already received advanced warning that their home is not childproofed and that they are very nervous about having my ds running around in it, and I assured them that I always keep a very close watch on ds esp. when at other people's homes, and not to worry.
Well, when we arrived the GF and Aunt did not act like they trusted me to watch my son, and when DS moved in the direction of objects or rooms that they did not want him in, they would yell and grab or yank him away; it was very negative and nervewracking. At one point his aunt grabbed a ball out of his hand bc she was afraid that he would throw it (he hadn't, yet) and of course he was very upset about this. She didn't let me handle it (I was on my way to retrieve the ball from him, nicely - we don't grab or yank things from each other in my family) but she got to him first and said "I'd rather see him cry then break something" and I said "but when we yank something out of his hand it is upsetting to him, and we could have asked him to give us the ball instead"
After 30 minutes or so my DH was so ill by this time that he had to go lie down, and DS was now coughing at regular intervals. Then the GF was really annoyed bc we had brought the plague to his house (and they were to leave for a long planned Galapagos trip in a week after our visit, and didn't want to be sick for it). I can appreciate not wanting to be sick on your vacation, but we had driven over two hours to come visit them, and as willing as I was to get in the car and go home right away, my husband was passed out in a bed.
So it was just me and my DS with the GF and Aunt, who proceeded to ignore us and watch CNN and when DS tried to interact in his cute sweet way, GF would have nothing to do with him. And with all of the negative energy in the "no" environment, my DS was very stressed and kept fussing and crying and having fits, and nursed much more often than usual (which I think made our hosts uncomfortable, too).
I've made this message long as it is, so I won't go into further detail, but just to say that I was so offended by how we were treated that I don't want to ever visit their home again, and don't look forward to seeing them anytime soon.
Thanks for the opportunity to vent.
It's hard to be treated badly by family members. I'm so sorry that happened to you all! I hope your DH and DS are feeling better.
