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post #21 of 44
Um, DS is still nursing once a day for about a minute a side at bed time.

He turned 5 on the weekend. I have no idea if he is getting anything or not.

It's not that comfortable but I can certainly handle it for 2 minutes a day. He comes off when I tell him to.
post #22 of 44
We weaned when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I couldn't not take the pain anymore, and it was making me cry every time he latched on. DS was 26 months at the time. I had only ever intended to go to 2, so I thought I would be okay with the decision. DS was only nursing at night, and one night I just told him mama nums nums hurt, so no nums nums tonight. He repeated me, gave my breasts a kiss, and never asked again. I cried for a week as we cuddled to sleep.
post #23 of 44
Originally Posted by angelika13 View Post
We weaned when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I couldn't not take the pain anymore, and it was making me cry every time he latched on. DS was 26 months at the time. I had only ever intended to go to 2, so I thought I would be okay with the decision. DS was only nursing at night, and one night I just told him mama nums nums hurt, so no nums nums tonight. He repeated me, gave my breasts a kiss, and never asked again. I cried for a week as we cuddled to sleep.
Oh that's so sweet and sad! Your story made me tear up! It is SO hard letting go of nursing. Have you seen this poem?

Wean Me Gently

by Cathy Cardall

I know I look so big to you,

Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have.

But no matter how big we get,

We still have needs that are important to us.

I know that our relationship is growing and changing,

But I still need you. I need your warmth and closeness,

Especially at the end of the day

When we snuggle up in bed.

Please don't get too busy for us to nurse.

I know you think I can be patient,

Or find something to take the place of a nursing;

A book, a glass of something,

But nothing can take your place when I need you.

Sometimes just cuddling with you,

Having you near me is enough.

I guess I am growing and becoming independent,

But please be there.

This bond we have is so strong and so important to me,

Please don't break it abruptly.

Wean me gently,

Because I am your mother,

And my heart is tender. ©
post #24 of 44
My DD is 3 years 3 months old and we are back down (again) to once or twice a day. My preference is one (bedtime only) but sometimes she asks in the morning also. If she asks during the day I tell her she has to wait until bedtime. She's not thrilled, but will make due with cuddles and "tummy" (she likes to touch my tummy). It almost breaks my heart to say no when she comes up and asks "can I have nursie to help me calm down?", but I know that I just can't do it. It hurts so much now. I can handle the night time nurse so much better if I don't let her nurse during the day. So, that's what we do.
I would like to get her to stop completely, but I just don't know if that is possible. I'd really rather not tandum, but I won't make her wean if it's going to be horrible for her either. Not sure what I'm going to do. I just hope DH doesn't decide to jump in with any opinions any time soon. (He's been great, but I could see why he would suggest weaning. I wouldn't blame him, but it wouldn't be well received. LOL)
post #25 of 44
I am.

DS is 5. Sometimes it feels a bit much, but other times, it still just melts my heart to see him nursing.

Its SO painful when he first latches on, though. He's old enough now, though, that he only wants to nurse for about 20-30 seconds (usually).

We've talked about weaning, but he is very clear that he is NOT ready, and I don't want push him. Some days he only nurses 2 times (once upon waking and right before bed), other times its more frequent, if he is having a challenging day, or if I am sitting a lot. I don't always say yes when it starts feeling like too much.
post #26 of 44
DS is still my nursling at 24 months.
There are times when I think "Please, no more!"
But in my heart I know neither of us are ready. I so wanted to tandem my DD and my DS before he was born, but DD weaned right after our BFP, and tried a few times, but the milk threw her off (guess I dried up pretty quick)
I thought I would never have to wean DS, that he would do it on his own...wasn't expecting to get another BFP with #3 so early.

My milk is loooong gone and it saddens me when he pulls off that he no longer has that little milk dribble in the corner of his mouth. I feel horrible thinking I want him to stop! I really hope my milk comes back soon for him. The comfort feeling is enough for both of us...even in the moments when my skin crawls!

Praying that when our July baby is here that I can tandem them both. I don't want to give up yet on my "big baby".
post #27 of 44
I've nursed non stop since my daughter was born in november 04. I nursed her trough my last pregnancy and tandemnursed after my son was born. But after I got pregnant again I weaned her. My son is 18 months and still nursing, but he no longer nurses during the night.
post #28 of 44
Ds#2 is still nursing to sleep, so nap and night time and then when he wakes up. He's 2 and 4 months. I'm going to wean him in the next month or so. I don't think painful, unhappy nursing is healthy for poor tired mamas.
I weaned ds #1 when he was 2.5 and I was pregnant. It was awful to nurse and making me crazy. It took a week after cutting back to 2-3 times a day and there were some tears but he ended up seeming to understand and wasn't too concerned.
I'm not having that this time interestingly. I did night wean him pretty much at the beginning of my pregnancy. Wow, that was nice
post #29 of 44
My son is 22 months old and I think is finally giving up. I don't offer or refuse but our last nursing session was four days agao at naptime he could get nothing and it was so painful for me. We have taken to rocking together to get him down for naps. He shares a bed with his sister so he lays between the two of us to fall asleep without nursing now.
post #30 of 44
My nursing journey with Timothy has all but ended :-( :-( He now maybe nurses about once every 3 days.... I'm pretty sure he isn't getting anything.

It is bittersweet. I feel less tired than I did when we breastfed frequently and I am somehow relieved that it is done; but on the other hand I really, really miss this special time with him!
post #31 of 44
Still nursing here.. Seb will be 2 in May.
post #32 of 44
me. and i hate it. dd2 is almost 3 now and the most i can manage most nights is about 5 minutes. (we nurse once to sleep) between the pain and the whole" having to hold myself back with every molecule in my body to not turn inside out and run from the room screaming", its just not happening. its sad that it has to come to this because she still needs a little comfort but crazy-making, skin-crwaling feelings are not healthy in mama either.
post #33 of 44
I'm 24 weeks pregnant. My daughter, Noah, is almost 25m old & still nurses quite a lot. I have had NO pain with nursing her until a couple weeks ago, when my right nipple started hursting with latching-on. ?? strange. I can still express a little milk by hand so I'm guessing that my supply is still there. My middle daughter, Danica, self-weaned on the morning of her 4th birthday, 1/3/07. So, for about the first 3 mos of this pregnancy, I had 2 nurslings.

This is where I am at with tandem-nursing: I have no problem nursing an infant & a toddler/pre-schooler AS LONG as the older child DOESN"T "need to nurse constantly". When I was pg with Danica, I weaned her older sister at age 2.5. I was 3 mos pg. However, when Danica was the older nursling, it was a BATTLE. She was a very "needy/emotional" child (sorry for the labels) & she did not adjust very well, despite my efforts, to a younger sibling. With her 4th birthday came a TON of developmental milestones. I don't think Noah will be the same way. I believe she will adjust much more easily to having a new baby, than did Danica. Incidentally, Danica was 25m when Noah was born, and Noah will be 29m. I think the "age difference" will be important.
post #34 of 44
I am, but I think we're very very close to being done. DS is 22 months and we're down to once a day, first thing in the morning. I don't think there's really anything there anymore, maybe drops. I'm having a little trouble with it because it's getting uncomfortable (not painful though) and I would like to be done, but I also don't want to cut him off if he wants to continue. It's hard to tell what he wants though, because he doesn't ever ask anymore but when I offer, he will almost always at least latch on for a minute or two. Of course with not much there it's not really surprising that he doesn't stay on longer. Then every time I start to think we're really done, he'll stay on for a while and seem much more interested. Today was the first time he really refused....the first side he kinda half-latched on and then popped off, and the 2nd side (which he likes better), he ran off to play. So I dunno.
post #35 of 44
My nursling is almost 26 months. No milk for now, but mostly it is going quite well. She is usually nursing a few times through in the day, a few times at night. Some days she goes pretty well the whole day without nursing, some days she asks often.

Towards the beginning of the pregnancy it was very uncomfortable, now it is almost always fine. If her latch gets uncomfortable, I make her come off and try again. Once in a while if I want her to unlatch before she is ready, she clamps her jaw - not fun! But thankfully for the most part it it really going good now. I wasn't sure for a while there if I would be able to last until it got better again. I really would like her to continue nursing through the pregnancy and then to tandem, but I can't really control that.
post #36 of 44
Still nursing here! I weaned DD1 in Dec. because I was so worried about DD2 not getting enough milk. It was a good decision, but recently DD1 has been asking for milkies again (she's almost 4). She's the kid who needed milkies enough to nurse through my last pg, so I would not be surprised if she nurses a bit after the new baby is born. DD2 is much more into nursing for the food aspect, so thankfully I don't have to deal with the pain/frustration of endless sessions. Interestingly enough, she seems more interested now than a month ago -- my breasts also feel heavier, so I wonder if there is at least something for her to consume. She is an amazing regular food eater, which I attribute to not getting much milk. I really am wanting to keep her going until the new baby arrives, as she's only 15mo.

By the way, I know that everyone is a bit different, but I stop feeling "let-down" by 6 mo PP, and still have oodles of milk. So it's definately possible to have milk but not feel letdown...
post #37 of 44
ds (4.5) is still nursing...sorta. A couple weeks ago the colostrum came in and he thinks it's just the nastiest stuff ever, so he's been having a hard time. He'll sometimes try each side for a few seconds before giving up. He's cried about it a lot. I feel so bad for him. I'm hoping he won't forget how to nurse so he can start again when the baby's born. This has caused some animosity towards the baby.
post #38 of 44
How interesting! I've had colostrum for weeks now, and ds insists that he still loves the taste and says it is the same taste. I tasted it myself and didn't find it very appealing at all! not anything like sweet mature milk. But I am surprised that my ds could care less about the change.
post #39 of 44
I remember about halfway through my dd2's pregnancy, dd1 started saying that my milk (colostrum) tasted salty! I tasted it, and it wasn't what I would call salty, but compared to the super-sweet milk she had been drinking for 2.5 years it could be called that! Kids are so funny.
post #40 of 44
I'm still nursing my ds as well. He is about 3 months past 2 and I was originally hoping to wean him before the baby comes, but now I'm not so sure. I was never completely opposed to trying tandem nursing if ds didn't seem ready to stop, and now I found out that his weight has dropped to the 1st percentile (from a little below the 5th, so it isn't as huge a drop as it seems)! It seems to have coincided with my milk drying up. I'm hoping that when my colostrum comes in, he'll start gaining more quickly.

I guess I'm just starting to feel that in addition to just loving to nurse, my ds really still needs the nutrition too!
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