Trying to shrug off the stupid things people say.... - Page 2

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by RasJane

My favorite re my adopted kids, that also applies to big families is "where did they come from?" My response is always, "heaven"
My MIL used to always say of her 4 kids in 5 years, that she checked them out at the library.
My friend had a baby this Oct, and she always told people that she ate watermelon seeds over the summer. That always cracked me up!

Hehe.

I actually got the "do you know what caused it? *snicker snicker*" thing from an ex-customer this week, and replied "not pulling out fast enough" out of annoyance. Certainly NOT the most couth and classy response, but it totally cracked up my sister. I think it just annoys me when people try to be all sly and cutesy while referencing my sex life.

[Quate]

I haven't gotten many rude comments, not nearly enough to bother me anyway. But I do think it's funny how people have switched from "really, you're pregnant, I couldn't tell" to "wow, you must be having that baby any day now" over the course of the past month or so. Of course, I still have two months to go, so I have to gently tell them that I'd better not be having that baby any day now.

The strangest conversation I've had recently was where a lady I had just met was telling me that my baby would probably be part Asian. Given that my DH is Asian, that baby had better be part Asian! I finally figured out that she meant the baby would probably look Asian.

[trauerweidchen]

I don't go out in public much these days (not hiding, just no reason to), so most of the comments I get are from well meaning family members. My FIL still thinks I might be having twins, since I don't have an u/s picture to prove otherwise, and even my mother (who also got huge during pregnancy) asked about that again last night. I've finally decided that if by some incredible turn of events I do end up with surprise twins, NO ONE other than my dh and my midwife is going to find out before the birth.

I've wanted to try the "what do you mean, when am I due; I'm not pregnant!" line this whole pregnancy, but I don't think I can bring myself to do that to a well-meaning stranger! I'd like to, though.

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by Quate

The strangest conversation I've had recently was where a lady I had just met was telling me that my baby would probably be part Asian. Given that my DH is Asian, that baby had better be part Asian!

ROTFL

I probably would have just burst out laughing. "Really? That's an astonishing prediction!!!"

[major_mama11]

My grandma walked in the room yesterday and said, "Wow, you get fatter every time I see you!"

Thanks grandma, love ya too. (She was mad at me over something else and that was her way of taking it out on me).

[kriket]

Originally Posted by RasJane

Maybe I get rude comments, but after being a mom to 2 black kids for so long, I've gotten pretty deaf. But I can come back with some good ones when challenged.

You're my hero. Raising black babies in the church I wish we lived in the same ward, I would start going to church again just to hang out with your family.

[RasJane]

Originally Posted by kriket

You're my hero. Raising black babies in the church I wish we lived in the same ward, I would start going to church again just to hang out with your family.

Hey, I've got a house just down the street from me you could buy!



Anyone?



Anyone????

[RasJane]

Originally Posted by major_mama11

My grandma walked in the room yesterday and said, "Wow, you get fatter every time I see you!"

Thanks grandma, love ya too. (She was mad at me over something else and that was her way of taking it out on me).

Wow, what a sweetie.

[Full Heart]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101

Hehe.

I actually got the "do you know what caused it? *snicker snicker*" thing from an ex-customer this week, and replied "not pulling out fast enough" out of annoyance. Certainly NOT the most couth and classy response, but it totally cracked up my sister. I think it just annoys me when people try to be all sly and cutesy while referencing my sex life.

I tell them "Yes, so you better not get too close." Or "Yea, but I learned my lesson, I wash dhs clothes separate now."

We go out a lot with the whole famiy. We got tons of stares and lots of comments. Some are quite rude but usually people just say things cause they WANT to say something and don't know what else to say. But when they say stuff like "you have too many kids" or "Wow, you are huge." They just want to be rude.

I love it when people try to convince me that I must be further along. Then I tell them No actually this is my 8th, I always get this big and actually I always go late. They seem kinda annoyed that they could be wrong lol.

[ChaoticMum]

Sorry - I had to jump in - I'm in the Sept club and I was remembering my previous pg's reading these stories.

I was always the opposite - because I DIDN'T show, I constantly got "Are you sure that baby is okay???? Have you had your u/s? Is S/He growing the way they're supposed to?? Wow - you'd better make sure you have lots of tiny clothes on hand! That is a little one for sure! and the last - the best - "Wow, considering how big you and your hubby are you'd think you'd have bigger babes!!" Uh please?? I'm only 5'10" and 150lb not pregnant - DH is only 6' and 175lb......yah - We're HUGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My babes were 7lb15, 7lb14 and the most hilarious of all - my last was 10lb5oz!!! THEN II got asked where I was hiding them!!

[OceansEve]

Originally Posted by Full Heart

I tell them "Yes, so you better not get too close." Or "Yea, but I learned my lesson, I wash dhs clothes separate now."

I will have to use that, my current response is "Well duh I know how and obviously I like it, a lot"

I'm only on my third and people keep asking "you're done right?" Like even having three is absurd, when I reply "for now" they seem disgusted.

No hero here, it was a one time thing cause I didn't really want to be there. Course I was in a really bad mood most of the time w/ DD2. I wish I could call on that anger sometimes these days.

RasJane - that has always annoyed me when people ask about a multiracial family. "where'd they come from?" Like they were a special order from a dept store... where can they get one.. it annoys me, whats wrong with just assuming they are their kids like anyone else's kids.

major_mama - yeah I've got a gma like that, but she doesn't even know who I am now days, oh well.

chaoticmum - if people think you're big nonpreg, then I'd hate to see what they'd call me 5' 7" and 180-200 (Maybe lower if I could be unpregnant long enough )

quate - Our FP actually sounded like he thought DD2 wasn't DH's because we are both average height and DD2 is meauring WAY ahead. I wanted to hit him. So if yours doesn't look like daddy be prepared for stupid people.

[ChaoticMum]

Originally Posted by OceansEve

:
I'm only on my third and people keep asking "you're done right?" Like even having three is absurd, when I reply "for now" they seem disgusted.



chaoticmum - if people think you're big nonpreg, then I'd hate to see what they'd call me 5' 7" and 180-200 (Maybe lower if I could be unpregnant long enough )

I hear you on that unpregnant thing! LOL I'm actually upset that I didn't get pg with this one a year ago (it was a surprise) when I was at my slimmest - 140#! I've never been pg slim! LOL I was 180lb when I got pg with #1, 175# with 2 and 3! LOL

And as for the 'done' aspect - I'm waiting to hear what soooo many people will say - ie my parents and Brother - when they find out we're expecting #4!!!

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by OceansEve

I'm only on my third and people keep asking "you're done right?" Like even having three is absurd, when I reply "for now" they seem disgusted.

I'd have to bite my tongue to keep from saying "We'll stop when we outnumber the idiots."

[OceansEve]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101

I'd have to bite my tongue to keep from saying "We'll stop when we outnumber the idiots."

I LOVE THAT!

[catters]

Originally Posted by lotus.blossom

Ouch! I feel lucky now that no one has made any comments like that! I guess I don't see many people though. That always helps!

Same here. I've heard a few "Wow, any day now, huh?" and I'm measuring small even. People are nuts.

But some of you have gotten some real zingers! I don't know what I'd do. I'd probably cry because I am just that crazy hormonal right now. Well, I'd either cry or throw something at them. You never can tell these days.

[j_p_i]

Originally Posted by catters

Same here. I've heard a few "Wow, any day now, huh?" and I'm measuring small even. People are nuts.

But some of you have gotten some real zingers! I don't know what I'd do. I'd probably cry because I am just that crazy hormonal right now. Well, I'd either cry or throw something at them. You never can tell these days.

I get this all the time too! "Must be soon, right?" and when I say she'll be here in May, they look amazed like May is 6 months away! I've measured 31 weeks at my past 2 mw appointments (I think the babe is starting to drop, which might explain that) and I'm between 33-35ish weeks. Sigh.

[layla983]

I had a fun expierence a couple weeks ago.

A kid, around 13, saw the top of my maternity jeans, so he so the stretchy fabic. He then, as he stood 3 feet away from me, POINTED and LAUGHED at "look at that fat lady! She can't wear regular pants she's so FAT! Her pants are like spandex in the top, she's THAT fat!" He was saying this to his mother in a totally normal voice like I wasn't right there, who told him to "shh...stop" but he told her no & kept going, so she just hung her head & looked at the floor to avoid my death glare I was giving her. I then sent him one & he stopped a minute or two later...only to move about 3 more feet & go into the same laughing "look at that fat lady!" crap with his older sister, who also laughed with him.

I didn't know if I should feel sad for myself or sad for society & the children some people raise.

[JD5351]

Originally Posted by layla983

I had a fun expierence a couple weeks ago.

A kid, around 13, saw the top of my maternity jeans, so he so the stretchy fabic. He then, as he stood 3 feet away from me, POINTED and LAUGHED at "look at that fat lady! She can't wear regular pants she's so FAT! Her pants are like spandex in the top, she's THAT fat!" He was saying this to his mother in a totally normal voice like I wasn't right there, who told him to "shh...stop" but he told her no & kept going, so she just hung her head & looked at the floor to avoid my death glare I was giving her. I then sent him one & he stopped a minute or two later...only to move about 3 more feet & go into the same laughing "look at that fat lady!" crap with his older sister, who also laughed with him.

I didn't know if I should feel sad for myself or sad for society & the children some people raise.

Feel sad for society and the fact that too many children aren't taught to respect other people. Whats even worse, is he was probably only saying those things to upset his mom. It makes him feel bigger to put down other people, and seeing her embarassed was icing on the cake.

[j_p_i]

Originally Posted by layla983

I had a fun expierence a couple weeks ago.

A kid, around 13, saw the top of my maternity jeans, so he so the stretchy fabic. He then, as he stood 3 feet away from me, POINTED and LAUGHED at "look at that fat lady! She can't wear regular pants she's so FAT! Her pants are like spandex in the top, she's THAT fat!" He was saying this to his mother in a totally normal voice like I wasn't right there, who told him to "shh...stop" but he told her no & kept going, so she just hung her head & looked at the floor to avoid my death glare I was giving her. I then sent him one & he stopped a minute or two later...only to move about 3 more feet & go into the same laughing "look at that fat lady!" crap with his older sister, who also laughed with him.

I didn't know if I should feel sad for myself or sad for society & the children some people raise.

Society. Before I even read the end of your post, my thought was, "What an awful example of how sad our society is these days!" I don't remember things like that even crossing my mind at 13, because it's certainly old enough to know how hurtful things we say can be. Sigh.

[Quate]

Originally Posted by j_p_i

Society. Before I even read the end of your post, my thought was, "What an awful example of how sad our society is these days!" I don't remember things like that even crossing my mind at 13, because it's certainly old enough to know how hurtful things we say can be. Sigh.

As I recall, 13 is about the age where people delight in saying hurtful things to each other. Jr high = not fun, for me anyway. But still, I can't believe his mother allows such things--and that she didn't explain to him that you were pregnant.