i agree with everything you said, dragonfly, except that imo, intact IS default. you can *pretend* you're just 'going with the flow' to circ, but no way does anyone let someone cut off a piece of their baby without thinking about it- it's just what they're thinking is wrong, wrong, wrong. definately not researching enough, definately making choices in error, but it's no longer the days when people are circ'd without parental consent- er, *intentionally*- it's a choice, all right.
btw, this is in no way meant to hurt or offend anyone who mistakenly and without good info has circ'd their boy(s) and is filled with regrets- who could make you feel any worse even if they wanted to? ((((((hugs))))
debi, you go, girl. more people ought to be willing to piss people off when it comes to assaulting little children. someday she may bless you for caring enough to try.