Originally Posted by <[l_(crayon)_l]
I think it's perspective. My current path is far from my passion (archaeology), but it's far from boring too. How can I be bored by teaching and raising four amazing people? Do I miss curling up with the latest journal? Yes. Do I miss digging and discovering? Yes. Does that mean I have to be bored? No. I'm introducing four young people to the world that they are part of. That is intensely satisfying. Whether I'm teaching them about history, or how to make a loaf of bread and play chess, watching them finger paint, or taking them for a nature walk and looking at cloud animals, reading Harry Potter out loud, or discussing environmentalism and culture with them, I'm never bored. Exhausted and desperate for a bubble bath? Sure, but never bored. Will I be beyond delighted to get back to my career? Yes. But I'll never look back and think about how boring it was to be a SAHM.
I've thought about this posting a lot. I don't think it's a perspective thing. I do wonder if I'm more burned out than bored. It's been 3 weeks since I got any time away from the kids (except my 1.5 hours of work Wednesday mornings.) Really, since the baby was born 7.5 months ago, I've gotten 1 acupuncture treatment, 1 massage, and 1 session working on my book at a cafe and an eye doctor's appt. That's it. No other kid-free time. Yesterday I did get 2 hours during naptime. Last week I got 20 minutes during a nap. Frankly, I'm burned out.
Tonight I told my husband I need his help with this. I was just starting dinner and he offered to treat us to dinner out. It felt so good to get out of the house. I was going to get some alone time this afternoon, but the baby is sick and really clingy. I just couldn't leave her.
Like the pp said, there are so many fun things to do with kids. My son loves to bake scones. We used to spend a lot of time with the chickens. We used to do playdough and puzzles and read so much more than we do now. I'm just having trouble balancing the social needs of a 3 year old, the rambunctiousness of an active boy, and the needs of an infant. If I could just attend to one of their needs, I'd be fine, but trying to combine the two is a lot harder than I'd imagined. This combined with no down time and I'm fried.
Some of this is my own doing, I'm choosing to not use childcare. Some is the reality of our schedule. At least my husband gives them baths at night so I can get on here, do some cleaning, whatever.
I've appreciated hearing from others that they get bored too. This is about more than wanting a career. I really don't. I've done that and will get back to it. This is about basics. It's hard to sit on the bed with a baby and play pattycake with a 3 year old jumping all around. It's hard to do something in the kitchen with a 3 year old with a baby that fusses for attention. She doesn't want to crawl, she wants to stand holding onto my fingers but I can't do that 24 hours a day.
Anyways, thanks for letting me vent.