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post #21 of 113
Extremely healthy. He's rarely even had a cold or other common bug, and when he was 1 year old *I* got rotavirus instead of him! He has no chronic health problems or allergies.

Not unusually artistic. He was on the late side with representational drawing, but he sang recognizable tunes very early.

Within normal range on all developmental milestones and way ahead on some. He was able to use his hands purposefully from birth and had good neck control by 2 weeks old. He's got great balance and spatial sense. He has a huge vocabulary and amazing capacity for memorizing songs and poems.

His attention span always has been impressive for his age. As a baby, his usual waking state was simultaneously very calm and very attentive.

I have no regrets and would do it again--with the same limits on frequency and quantity of consumption. I cut way back when I started trying to get pregnant, and then I quit entirely for about 6 weeks when it smelled bad to me, which I figured was a sign that it was something I should not put into my body then. It was NOT an effective pregnancy-nausea treatment for me but just made me dizzy.
post #22 of 113
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See she said it perfect its the smoke that I dont like...I would not be offended to see a preg mother eat some pot brownies,might give her heartburn though.....
I think the goal is to not be offended by any of the choices that another family may make.

I am saddened when I see a pregnant woman smoking cigarettes and I may have tears if I see someone 'spank' a child but I am absolutely not offended by it (unless it's directed toward me, why would I be?).

I wish we could all understand the fact that we are just here, for a short time, trying to survive and make some sense of our existence. I'd rather not spend my moments arguing personal beliefs or letting myself be offended by someone else's parenting.. I'm busy enough trying to create happiness in my own life, I can't let everyone elses judgements seep through.

just sayin.. (since this thread seems to be turning into a discussion )
post #23 of 113
Yeah offended was kinda a bad word but I would be hurt and I would want to cry inside if I seen a mother smoking anything ......

I know that there are people who need it pot for medical and I know that it is probbly way better then most pills a dr would give and I see nothing wrong about that......


This is compleatly off topic but salted tosted hemp seeds are yummie....
post #24 of 113
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Yeah offended was kinda a bad word but I would be hurt and I would want to cry inside if I seen a mother smoking anything ......

I know that there are people who need it pot for medical and I know that it is probbly way better then most pills a dr would give and I see nothing wrong about that......


This is compleatly off topic but salted tosted hemp seeds are yummie....
I'm sorry- I didn't even mean my comment to be directed at you, I was just picking on the word

I think that some people really are offended by what others do -within their lives- and take it way to personally (not to imply that you do, by any means!).

So, sorry again if my post came across as jumping on you..

eta: we !love!love!love! salted hemp seeds.. and granola/milk/butter/waffles/powders/clothes!
post #25 of 113
"Every time I see threads like this.. I get very upset on a almost visceral level."

That's exactly how I feel when I see a thread encouraging a woman to take Zoloft/Paxil/Wellbutrin/etc. and continue nursing her newborn.

But in reality, you do what you have to to survive. If I had hyperemesis, I would use THC to control it because everything else is way scarier to me. If I had PPD that required drugs, I personally would switch to formula rather than expose my newborn's fragile brain chemistry to SSRIs, but I see no point in lambasting other women who make the choice not to. It's not like formula is risk-free!

It seems to me that, in a situation where every choice has a potential bad effect, we tend to decide the the choice which results in the most suffering for the mama is the safest choice. Or, crazily enough, that the choice endorsed by the pharmaceutical industry is the safest choice. I just don't see the logic in it.
post #26 of 113
One of my good friends smoked the whole time she was pregnant with her 1st dd. The dd is now a freshman in college who graduated from high school with a 4.0. She's super-smart and just a great kid. I hope my kids make it through their teen years as seamlessly as she did. Not sure if she smoked any with her 2nd dd...

I smoked before I found out I was pg with dd. I also drank heavily twice during that time. Smoked cigs too. The day I found out she was in my belly, I stopped. I told my mw about it, and she said that it wasn't any big deal, just not to continue. I didn't have nausea too bad (or any other medical conditions that I needed the pot for), so I didn't smoke at all during the rest of the pregnancy. Pot and alcohol smelled really bad to me during pregnancy. I haven't had a cigarette since then, and that was 8 years ago!

Anyway, dd doesn't have any negative affects from those few weeks of exposure to the pot. She reads well above level, and is generally a smart and creative kid.
post #27 of 113
My ex-husband's mother smoked and drank while pregnant with him. He has a lot of problems: short term memory loss, poor impulse control, struggled in school, dyslexia. He was very low birthweight too. Of course it's hard to say if those problems were caused by the booze, the pot, a combination of both, or just a coincidence.
post #28 of 113
i used thc during my pregnancies due to very severe hyperemesis during my four pregnancies-however i did not smoke it.

i have three girls, and one child that died in utero due to the hyperemesis.

my three children are all very smart, bright, healthy and funny. one of my children is very spirited, and has high highs and low lows, but i do not think it has anything to do with ingesting thc during my pregnancy with her.

i was advised to ingest thc by several hyperemesis specialists.
post #29 of 113
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Originally Posted by vegemamato View Post
I think the goal is to not be offended by any of the choices that another family may make.

I am saddened when I see a pregnant woman smoking cigarettes and I may have tears if I see someone 'spank' a child but I am absolutely not offended by it (unless it's directed toward me, why would I be?).

I wish we could all understand the fact that we are just here, for a short time, trying to survive and make some sense of our existence. I'd rather not spend my moments arguing personal beliefs or letting myself be offended by someone else's parenting.. I'm busy enough trying to create happiness in my own life, I can't let everyone elses judgements seep through.

just sayin.. (since this thread seems to be turning into a discussion )
I totally agree for the most part...although certain actions are absolutely offensive to me b/c of the high social cost (mostly continuing to drink alcohol while pregnant).
post #30 of 113
I was smoking pot daily before I found out I was pregnant. I honestly doubt it's harmful...but because of the lack of studies I decided to quit. My DD is perfectly normal and healthy thus far. I also know some adults whose mother's smoked when they were pregnant and they've turned out fine and healthy.
post #31 of 113
No experience with it - I was completely fed up with pot by the time I got pregnant with ds1. It doesn't bother me when other women smoke it when they're pregnant, and the women I've known who did so have perfectly normal kids. The couple that have children with serious problems are fairly negligent, in general.

Aside from things like really, really extreme drinking on a regular basis, or smoking crack or meth, I'm not really bothered by what other women do when they're pregnant. The societal tyranny of "OMG - you're pregnant - you can't do that!" turns my stomach. I've also had the experience of needing an emergency c-section after doing everything "right" and watching other people have relatively easy births to perfectly normal, healthy kids after doing everything "wrong", and I just don't think it's so easy to say what's okay and what isn't.
post #32 of 113
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I was smoking pot daily before I found out I was pregnant. I honestly doubt it's harmful...but because of the lack of studies I decided to quit. My DD is perfectly normal and healthy thus far. I also know some adults whose mother's smoked when they were pregnant and they've turned out fine and healthy.
That reminds me... my MIL was mentioning that someone in town who allegedly smokes pot had babies with clef palates and she went off on this entire rant about how weed causes that. Not sure if she knew or not at the time that we were huge pot heads (we were in college, and definitely into the weed at that time), but she was ranting and ranting about it. I've never met anyone that I actually KNOW smokes pot and had a baby with clef palate, but I do have a friend who I'm pretty sure DOESN'T and had a son with a clef lip. She's sure she did everything right and was heartbroken when her son had a birth defect of this nature. I feel bad that people like my mother-in-law probably assume that she was smoking up all that time (whether or not that's wrong) and it caused that. *sigh* Like somehow it's HER FAULT. Bleh.
post #33 of 113
I know a girl who was born with a cleft palate and she said it was because her mom smoked cigarettes like crazy. I would think you would have to smoke an awful lot of pot to do that. I am not even sure it's physically possible to smoke that much.
post #34 of 113
My mom did massive amounts of drugs while preg with me...not so much pot, but barbitutes, lots of acid, etc. She has a (kind of) funny story about the Dr. giving her laughing gas during labor, she turned to my dad & said: "This stuff is a joke! Go get me some real drugs!" I was full term, almost 8 pounds, ahead of the developmental curve...but, I also deal with sensory issues, severe depression, anxiety disorders, super strong reactions to pot & acid, immune issues, and so on. Definately creative! Visual arts & crafts.

Brother #1, She did less drugs (but still some), improved her diet, etc. He was full-term, just over 7 pounds, very, very smart...but, probably would have been diagnosed with ADHD if growing up now, & has a severe, unidentifiable seizure disorder. Also creative, although not artistic.

Brother #2, no drugs, tons of vitamins (she was really into Adele Davis) & great dieat AND got high all. the. time. Constantly smoking pot (she lived with a house of jazz musicians.) He was full-term, huge, very, very healthy (gets sick less than any of us)...but, has learning disabilities, has also had a grand mal seizure, and gets high. Every day. He believes that he may be addicted & may have been born that way. Very, very creative - visual arts & music.

Me? I'm sober, & have been for about 10 years. Off all psych meds. Try to treat any health issues with homeopathy or very gentle herbs. My big issue is sugar--but I'm working on it Both my boys were full-term, big (8pds & 9.6!), healthy, active, super-alert, ahead of the developmental curve. DS1 is super creative (music & play), may be gifted, & has had 4 febrile seizures.

Interesting thread!

Oh! Just remembered something...my mom tells this story about my brother #2. When he was about 6 months (& she was still smoking up at least a few times a day) he got this very persistant cough. Her macrobiotic, health conscious friend told her that he was being affected by the pot my mom was smoking through her milk. She stopped-so did my little brother's cough.
post #35 of 113
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There have been a couple of articles recently about studies done on the "crack babies" of the '80s, and their development. Apparently, children born addicted to crack turn out, in the long term, pretty much like other kids. No unusually high numbers of delays or other issues. If crack doesn't harm babies in the long run, I'm guessing that a little pot wouldn't hurt anything.
Try working for social services and seeing these "crack babies" in real life and then telling me that they are "fine" in the long run. A couple of articles are not the end all be all of medical science. :
post #36 of 113
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If you wouldn't give it to your newborn, why is it OK for your baby in utero?
I wouldn't give a newborn anything but breastmilk, but I don't think living on that while I'm pregnant is really feasible
post #37 of 113
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Originally Posted by NJ*Doula View Post
There have been a couple of articles recently about studies done on the "crack babies" of the '80s, and their development. Apparently, children born addicted to crack turn out, in the long term, pretty much like other kids. No unusually high numbers of delays or other issues. If crack doesn't harm babies in the long run, I'm guessing that a little pot wouldn't hurt anything.
Oh my gosh! But have you ever had to care for a baby born addicted to crack? I have worked with them, one little girl who screamed 24/7 and pulled her own hair out until she was bald! The fostermom/aunt was so sleep deprived she had to let her go to a fosterhome. It is true that by about age one or two, the effects go away and they can be normal children. But that first year..... you cant imagine all the issues!!!

Ok, I know you werent saying since they turn out ok in the end, its ok to smoke crack during pregnancy, lol! Just had to respond in case anyone misconstrued it that way.... baby may turn out ok later on, but those first couple years are pure hell on baby and everyone else. Dont smoke crack!!

Pot, on the other hand....I had a friend (really, it wasnt me) who had hyperemesis and was losing weight and at the point where they truly thought she would lose the baby.....one day when she was so nauseated and miserable she couldnt take it anymore, she took a hit off a joint. One or two hits thats it, the nausea went away and she ate a little. So she started doing that two or three times every day. Next docs visit, she had actually gained and her doctor told her to keep doing it!

So, for that reason, yeah, I would do it. Her baby turned out fine.

Of course, its probally better not to, but I doubt its any worse than cafenated drinks and its waaaay better than cigaretts imo.
post #38 of 113
My mom smoked pot during all 3 of her pregnancies and while nursing.
All 3 of us are successful in life
I'm an RN, my sister's a cosmetologist and my brother is a talented artist and personal trainer.
Most of her friends did the same and all have normal kids too.
post #39 of 113
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My best friend smoked non stop during her second pregnancy and her son turned out extremely smart but with ADHD. She still wonders to this day if it had anything to do with the ADHD part.
Was the child vaccinated? I would link that to it before pot smoking.
post #40 of 113
i recently had a discussion about this with a friend. i don't know, for sure, a lot of women that smoked pot while pregnant, just some that i suspect did. the friend i was talking to said the only commonality she has seen across women she knows who smoked while pregnant was a lazy eye. of course, my DS has a slightly lazy eye and i didn't smoke while pregnant with him. we'll see how this one turns out

i think the judgment and "you wouldn't give it to a newborn" is kind of hilarious, frankly. i can think of a lot of things i wouldnt give a newborn that i find perfectly fine having myself. like, oh, i don't know, vitamins, spinach, and chocolate.
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