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Originally Posted by filiadeluna
 I am mourning the "just you and me", too, but with my husband, as this is our first child. I love my husband and my daughter both sooo much. They each have half of my heart. It has been incredibly difficult to not be able to give/have attention from DH as much as before. In some ways this whole experience has brought us closer, but in other ways it is distancing. The only way we are dealing is by talking through our feelings, which we are thankfully both good at. It pains me so much to hear my husband say that he feels neglected, although he says he doesn't blame me b/c he knows that the baby has to come first since she is completely dependent on me.
My husband and I always have been best friends above anything else, and it really hurts to see him hurting/lonely.  Right now he's not able to be as close to DD either, since I'm her sole food source. I have tried to explain to him not to take it personally when she cries for me, and that I know they will be close in time, but that's hard for him to see right now. I am trying my hardest to let him know every day how much he means to me, and to remind him that the reason our daughter is here is because we love each other so much and wanted to share that love with a child as well. Things are improving, but it's just tough right now.No matter how people explain to you how life changing having a child can be, you can't understand it until you have your own child. It is bittersweet. That is the best word I can think of to describe it, and I hope I don't sound like a bad mom for saying so.  Both my daughter and my husband mean absolutely everything in the world to me.  |
You hit the nail on the head..
