Originally Posted by Krystal323
DIY uncontested divorce here (tho uncontested on paper, we definitely had our fair share of out-of-court SCREAMING matches before we could come to an amicable agreement!).
Ex and I have two kids and we owned a house together + a lot of debt. He bought official paperwork off some website for like $90, but it turned out it wasn't exactly what was needed. I ended up having to fumble thru and write a good portion of the paperwork myself using a law library and a lot of luck.
We were seperated since May, didn't file til Dec ($250-ish filing fee), and it took 4 failed attempts of re-writing the paperwork before the judge would sign it off. Div was final in July, over a year after we had seperated, but it only cost about $400 total.
i posted earlier about having a DIY divorce, but left off the details. the above post is pretty much how i handled it as well. bought my papers on the internet for under $100, edited them myself to fit our situation; after getting preliminary agreement from STBX, took the papers to my brother who is an attorney (not a divorce specialist), who advised me to put in some dates for closure, etc., otherwise the papers looked good. signed and notorized the papers with my STBX, paid the $200ish filing fee, awaited my court date (STBX didn't go), got sent home from the court once to correct something or another on the paperwork, then got it all finalized on the second try. waited several months before i got our final divorce papers in the mail, gave now Ex his copy.
OP, you said your situation is amicable. i really urge you to do all you can to keep it this way, and if it is at all possible to avoid *negotiating* through lawyers, this is one of the best ways to keep the peace.
no offense to any divorce lawyers, but sorry, that is how they make their money. they just *love it* when spouses fight, some people even say the two opposing lawyers get together and devise strategy on how to handle the divorcing couple.
someone may have a good experience with a lawyer, or their situation with their STBX is so godawful that you had to hire a shark for a lawyer, and i don't begrudge you that option or opportunity.
however if there's any way possible to work out all of the details yourselves, and just use the lawyers to make sure all of the legal mumbojumbo is in place, you can save yourselves a ton of money and heartache, and might even have the chance to part ways and still be friends, as i am now, 10 years later, with my Ex.
best of luck to you!