Originally Posted by ChristaN
My mother just has limitations to how much she can love at least me. She has never had much of a connection with me and has always been enamored of whomever my brother's girlfriend (or in this case, wife) is. The fact that she flew 3000 miles to help out SIL with this baby for two weeks (I think that's how long she's there) when SIL is a SAHM with a housekeeper and never came to help with my two girls when they were born (I was a grad student and single mom at the time) speaks to who she is closer to.
Since you have mentioned your mom narcistic tendancies, I would attirbute this more to that.
She get to sit on the airplane being waited on and telling everyone what a great MIL she is. When she gets there, there isn't all that much work to do, but there are a whole bunch of people to admire every little thing she does.
If she had come to help you, there would have been actual work involved, and you would have been too busy and to worn out to stand around telling her how great she was.
In some way it's the lack of true closeness to SIL that makes it more fun. Since you really know
her, you don't buy into the facade.