YD was Bash the breastfeeding mom/baby day (I have to vent).. - Page 2

[pageta]

I think size and developmental pace (when they sit, crawl, etc.) has very little to do with how they are fed. My ebf ds hit six months yesterday - he is 20 lb 13 oz (7 lb 6 oz at birth) and still can't sit but is crawling backwards all over the house. Just because they're breastfed doesn't mean they won't be fat and do things early! Babies will do things when they're ready to do things, and they each have their own schedule. I intend to ebf as long as possible. I've gotten comments from people who are shocked that I'm not having to supplement since he's so big. I just tell them he certainly doesn't look like he's going hungry, and that pretty much shuts them up. If ds was at the opposite end of the scale, I'd still have a good answer for the naysayers - I just haven't had to think of one since that's not the question we get.

[Geofizz]

Originally posted by urklemama
I have a giant (EBM) baby, so what I get all the time is "you must have really good milk!" So if I had a small baby, it would be because my milk was bad? Stupid people.

Well, that's my FIL.

My nephew is 51 weeks younger than my DD and they weighed the about same at Christmas, so he probably outweighs my daughter by now. He's EBF, and my DD didn't really start solids until she was 11 months.

My FIL said that my SIL's milk was probably just better because it was her third kid.

Sigh.

[NotAMama]

Just says that by doing so, I am sacrificing out of Love for my child to give them THE VERY BEST -and NOT compromising or giving up!!! whatever "Issues" lie in the way!!

Sorry, I do fully believe that what you said (what I have quoted above) does very much give the impression that you think mothers who formula feed don't love their children as much as you love yours, and that you are a far superior mother. Your post is absolutely saturated with the superiority you feel for yourself and disdain you feel for FFing mother.

I love how you put the word issues in quotes, as if no issues could ever possibly exist to prevent breastfeeding.

Two separate friends -- one discovered a lump in her breast at the age of 27, 2 months after her son was born. She had to go on chemoptherapy and stop breastfeeding. Yeah, i guess she could have sacrificed HER LIFE to continue breastfeeding her child for another couple of months . . . but I do believe that when her child is an adult, he will be far more relieved to know he was a formula fed baby with a living mother instead of a breast fed baby with a dead one. But, I guess that "issue" isn't good enough and she should have just sucked it up and DIED to give her son THE VERY BEST, even if it meant depriving him of his mother for the rest of his life.

Another friend ignored her continuing ill health because she didn't want to go to the doctor and risk being put on antibiotics. She ended up passing out in her home one day. Thank God her mother was there, so she didn't have to lay there passed out all day with a 9 month old in the house. My friend had a raging bacterial infection. She was in the hospital for a week on IVs and in and out of consciousness. Her child ended up being on formula and babyfood from that point out because even after she got out of the hospital, she was on pretty hefty antibiotics. But I guess she didn't really try hard enough to prevent her daughter being weaned. She only compromised her health and risked her life . . . she should have tried harder.

I am a very infrequent poster, and I normally only post on the Circ board, but that particular quote just really pushed my buttons -- especially considering my friend is still recovering from her bacterial infection and may have suffered permanent damage due to the high fevers she had for days at a time. To see someone say that she compromised and didn't sacrifice enough for her child just really pushed my buttons.

[Sustainer]

I think you're reading more into it than was intended, and projecting your own emotions.

If someone were to ask me why I'm a SAHM, why I breastfeed, cloth diaper, bedshare, gentle discipline, etc., I might answer that it's because I love my daughter so much and want what's best for her and will do whatever it takes. Saying that, though, would not mean that I think people who don't do these things don't love their children. Other people have other philosophies about how to raise their children. People have to make their own decisions about what is right for their children. People express their love in different ways. It would be ridiculous for anyone to say that someone with different parenting methods must simply not love their children.

Having said that, it is also true that most of the women who either don't try to breastfeed or quit breastfeeding prematurely *DON'T* have a true medical indication for doing so. They feel guilty when they know that children need breastmilk, so they try their best to convince themselves as well as others that they physically cannot breastfeed. Notice, though, that I said "most." There definitely are women who truly physically cannot breastfeed for real medical reasons. But they are a small minority. No one is saying that EVERY woman MUST breastfeed and practice child-led weaning even if it *kills* her.

[TiredX2]

As I have read other posts from ChemFreeKids (and she has been kicked off the board) I am willing to assume things she said were offensive

I *did* feel the need to respond to this, though, just in case someone takes the wrong message from it:

Another friend ignored her continuing ill health because she didn't want to go to the doctor and risk being put on antibiotics.

You can still bfeed while on most antibiotics. IF a doctor says you shouldn't, look for another doctor or call a LLL leader and ask them to look up the medication in Hales.

Kay

[jeca]

Well DD is 10 months(tomarrow) and eats solids. NOt really a jar of anything just tastes of what ever we are eating as I have a baby grinder. I think I may give her something for breakfast and dinner. BUt it doesn't add up to one of those jars.
Anyway my point is that even this is not good enough. I am still starving her according to strangers and family. I let them know that she is tasting food but I don't feel it's nescary for her to breakfast, luch, dinner and snacks of solids. But she does eat solids at least twice and day and I am still starving her. You can't please people if you do things differant. Tehy are always going to find fault no matter what. And don't even get me started on the whole"your still nursing her but she nas seven teeth" thing I always here.
Good standing your ground. And don't feel the need to be quite when someone is obviously getting to you.

[german_mama2J]

WOW...I did not think that my post about my bad day would cause so much ......

"rackes" and have ppl argue over stuff. I don't remember the post from Chemfree but It must have been agains the rules of the board of it would not have been removed.

Sorry again if anyone was hurt by anyones replies even if they weren't my own.

[Viola]

Originally posted by NotAMama
Two separate friends -- one discovered a lump in her breast at the age of 27, 2 months after her son was born. She had to go on chemoptherapy and stop breastfeeding.

Why are you listing only the extreme cases, though? Don't you have friends who like their jobs and want to return to work and have no desire to breastfeed, not even the colostrum? I do. I don't doubt that they love their children as much as a mom who had to have chemotherapy.

[german_mama2J]

Originally posted by NotAMama
Just says that by doing so, I am sacrificing out of Love for my child to give them THE VERY BEST -and NOT compromising or giving up!!! whatever "Issues" lie in the way!!

Sorry, I do fully believe that what you said (what I have quoted above) does very much give the impression that you think mothers who formula feed don't love their children as much as you love yours, and that you are a far superior mother. Your post is absolutely saturated with the superiority you feel for yourself and disdain you feel for FFing mother.

I love how you put the word issues in quotes, as if no issues could ever possibly exist to prevent breastfeeding.

Two separate friends -- one discovered a lump in her breast at the age of 27, 2 months after her son was born. She had to go on chemoptherapy and stop breastfeeding. Yeah, i guess she could have sacrificed HER LIFE to continue breastfeeding her child for another couple of months . . . but I do believe that when her child is an adult, he will be far more relieved to know he was a formula fed baby with a living mother instead of a breast fed baby with a dead one. But, I guess that "issue" isn't good enough and she should have just sucked it up and DIED to give her son THE VERY BEST, even if it meant depriving him of his mother for the rest of his life.

I have to say something about this....since I am the one who posted the OP and since my OP was NOT one of bashing anyone, rather venting.

It seems to me that my OP was turned into a BF/Bottlefeeding bashing of sorts. I never bashed anyone but I do have to say something about the message you posted.
I have BF DS and also supplemented and then bottlefed him. With DD I am different about it.....I only BF but I still have tons of friends who do either of the two..........and you know excactly that the extreme of someone having a medical issue that forces her to stop BF is not very commen.

But I also have friends who had medical issues that forced them not to BF.......I also had a friend who was diagnoses with Breastcancer WHILE pregnant.......6 weeks after the birth of her baby she had a masectomy. And she did decide to nurse for a short period........because she always dreamt of being a BF mom and the docs told her they give her 6 weeks and it would not endanger her life to do that.
ANother friend has severely inverted nipples and she tried for 1 week to nurse and went to a Lactation consultant and she tried nipples shields and all but it did not work. She was so hopeful to nurse that she even sewed her own nursing dresses for church before the baby was born. So to me.......she is just as dedicated to her child as a mom who BF.......because she at least gave it a try and not just with one.....she then tried once more with the next baby but the lactation consultant again said that her inverted nipples are the problem.


NOt if you consider who many babies are being born and how many are actually BF even if it was just for the colestrum or for the first 6 weeks of life. Most moms I know who are in playgroup or in church give me excuses that are those of ppl who are either not being educated about BF or give excuses of what to me seems to be that of lazyness....yes ....plain ol lazyness....why not admit...........HECK....I bottlefeed because It does not take as much comittment from me as breastfeeding would. I could live with that answer.........but instead most ppl hide behind stupid excuses.

BUT for the norm i get excuses like today at church:
*She did not sleep thru the night yet (MOm was refering to a 3 week old)
*He seemed to nurse more than usual and the BM did not satisfy him anymore (talking about a 6 week old boy......who probably was nursing more because a growthspurt......but someone forgot to mention that to the mom)
*He grew so quick after he was born (On BM that is) that we had to give him some formula. I just could not keep up with his hunger.
*The older kids have so many activities to go to that it is much easier to Bottlefeed (Hmmmmmmmmmmm.......that is the biggest quackes i hear all the time)
*I have to go back to work (I only know of one IRL friend who W&Ps, most ppl take the easy way out and bottlefeed instead of dedicating themself to give them what GOD wanted the babies to get)
*I want to go shopping and want to leave the baby with my mom or with dad (I replied to her: I had not intended to BF DD til she was a teen.........sountil she weans (even partially weaning would give someone a few hrs of being able to go somewhere without baby/toddler) I just take her with me when I go shopping and leave DS instead at home. She is no bother anyway....I put her in the sling and off we go.....if she gets hungry.......I open the shirt.............and if she is done.....I close it)

I guess what I am trying to say is, we all love our kids...............bottlefeeding or breastfeeding (I consider anyone to give their child BM as only source of liquid food for their baby a breastfeeding mom, even if she w&p or pumps at home).
There is a lil difference tho of the way BF moms dedicate themselves to their children. I am not the judge of who is a more dedicated parent........that I leave up to the man "above". And I think noone can deny that there is a big difference on how dedicated one parent is compared to another.

Another friend ignored her continuing ill health because she didn't want to go to the doctor and risk being put on antibiotics. She ended up passing out in her home one day. Thank God her mother was there, so she didn't have to lay there passed out all day with a 9 month old in the house. My friend had a raging bacterial infection. She was in the hospital for a week on IVs and in and out of consciousness. Her child ended up being on formula and babyfood from that point out because even after she got out of the hospital, she was on pretty hefty antibiotics. But I guess she didn't really try hard enough to prevent her daughter being weaned. She only compromised her health and risked her life . . . she should have tried harder.


I am a very infrequent poster, and I normally only post on the Circ board, but that particular quote just really pushed my buttons -- especially considering my friend is still recovering from her bacterial infection and may have suffered permanent damage due to the high fevers she had for days at a time. To see someone say that she compromised and didn't sacrifice enough for her child just really pushed my buttons.

Ever heard of commen sense? Common sense should have told her that she needs to get better for her childs sake and that if she was worried about certain meds.......that she can do RESEARCH on them online......so many websites are out there that will tell you if the meds are OK while BF. Antibiotics for excample ARE. So to me she caused her hospital stay herself by not taking care of herself when she got sick in the beginning.

[NotAMama]

Why are you listing only the extreme cases, though?

I chose the extreme cases because of the way the post I originally quoted put the word issues in quotation marks, as if to insinuate that there were no true issues out there that would cause a mother to stop breastfeeding, that there were no other reasons besides selfishness or convenience for the mother to not breastfeed.. I chose extreme cases to prove my point that there are honest and true issues which prevent breastfeeding even in the most loving and nurturing mothers. Of course I know friends and realtives who stopped breastfeeding so they could go to work or sleep through the night or whatever . . . but the extreme cases I cited do show that there are real issues out there.

If I was forced to stop breastfeeding my child due to chemotherapy or severely inverted nipples (a condition I actually have and will have to deal with when the day comes that I start breastfeeding), and I was feeding my child a bottle and some nursing woman came up to me, got in my face and shouted "Look how much I love my child!", thereby insinuating that I do not love my child, I would be devastated and I would not admire that nursing mother, but rather I would probably find my opinion of nursing mothers to be affected very badly by that one woman. Not fair? Perhaps, but that is the way I am.

There is a lil difference tho of the way BF moms dedicate themselves to their children. I am not the judge of who is a more dedicated parent........that I leave up to the man "above". And I think noone can deny that there is a big difference on how dedicated one parent is compared to another

I call bullshit. Sorry. There is no way my mother was a less dedicated mother to me than she was to my brother. I understand you want it to be true, you need to prove your point and the best way to do it is make people believe that breastfeeding mothers are the epitome of dedication while bottlefeeding mothers are little better than lazy and neglectful fools. That is not true in my case and it is not true in the several friends I know who chose for one reason or another not to breastfeed. And, I am sorry, but you ARE absolutely judging parents who bottlefeed. If I was a bottle feeding mother for any reason whatsoever -- including inability due to illness or physical impossibility then these words "I think noone can deny that there is a big difference on how dedicated one parent is compared to another" would be absolutely infuriating, offensive and devastating.

The funny thing is, I am totally for breastfeeding. Everytime a woman in my family or circle of friends turns up pregnant, I am the one trumpeting the joys and benefits of breastfeeding and buying them books to prove it. But attitudes like bottlefeeding mothers are not dedicated mothers or 'blame the victim" attitudes like saying my friend caused her own illness and inability to breastfeed any longer, only hinder the cause you are trying to promote.

[Sustainer]

Originally posted by NotAMama
If I was forced to stop breastfeeding my child due to chemotherapy or severely inverted nipples (a condition I actually have and will have to deal with when the day comes that I start breastfeeding), and I was feeding my child a bottle and some nursing woman came up to me, got in my face and shouted "Look how much I love my child!", thereby insinuating that I do not love my child, I would be devastated and I would not admire that nursing mother, but rather I would probably find my opinion of nursing mothers to be affected very badly by that one woman.

No one is advocating such behavior, and I can't imagine a breastfeeding mother acting like that. We are trying to convey an attitude of pride, not one of antagonism.

Originally posted by NotAMama
If I was a bottle feeding mother for any reason whatsoever -- including inability due to illness or physical impossibility then these words "I think noone can deny that there is a big difference on how dedicated one parent is compared to another" would be absolutely infuriating, offensive and devastating.

I think the reference was to mothers who *choose* to bottlefeed even though they are fully capable of breastfeeding. I think it's been made clear that no one is questioning the dedication of mothers who want/try to breastfeed but truly cannot because of serious problems.

[Ms.Doula]

EXACTLT Devrock! ---Errrr. SBFmommy! :LOL



And for the record **I** was the one who made the following comments :



Ms.Doula quote:
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"Hey world -- LOOK HOW MUCH I LOVE MY CHILD!"
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That was someones quote -not sure whos now, since this thread apears to have been severely eddited..... But I quoted it, and then made the following post regarding that quote:

I said it w/ ya momma!!
And FWIW- I DONT think it says anything to moms who dont/didnt BF. Just says that by doing so, I am sacrificing out of Love for my child to give them THE VERY BEST -and NOT compromising or giving up!!! whatever "Issues" lie in the way!

NotAMama- What part of this post do you NOT UNDERSTAND??? I think you are WAY reading into what I said!!

I said "I DONT think it says anything to moms who dont/didnt BF." -Meaning I felt it was not derogative against a non breastfeeding mom, but WAS aplauding the sacrificing out of Love for the baby!

By-NotAMama- "I chose the extreme cases because of the way the post I originally quoted put the word issues in quotation marks, as if to insinuate that there were no true issues out there that would cause a mother to stop breastfeeding, that there were no other reasons besides selfishness or convenience for the mother to not breastfeed"..

FYI- I just used the word "issues" Like I did beacuse I couldn't think of a better word/way to CLUMP it all together. You ASSume way to much in my words... Why are you so anxious to debate my intentions...? How dare you put words in mouth! you say I was insinuating something that I DID NOT say!



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Originally posted by NotAMama
If I was a bottle feeding mother for any reason whatsoever -- including inability due to illness or physical impossibility then these words "I think noone can deny that there is a big difference on how dedicated one parent is compared to another" would be absolutely infuriating, offensive and devastating.
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Yeah, Well NOONE was EVER EVER EVER referring to a momma who TRUELY WANTED TO BREASTFEED and COULDN'T!!
I am currently DONATING my breastmilk to a momma who had a double masectomy!! So don't tell me I dont think there arent any true "ISSUES" out there. We were all referring to the casual FF who dont know/care about the benifits of NOT using Artificial Infant Formula!!!!

You say you are SOOOO Pro breastfeeding.... why then don't you BACK OFF all the breastfeeding mommas here who were origionally TYRYING to support a momma who felt alone in a FF Society! (obviously you haven't felt this alienation)
And speak back up when you have some experience on the topic!!

[Ms.Doula]

I'LL JUST CALL THIS LIKE I SEE IT.....

I think your fears about your own breast/nipple issues are allowing you to manifest the fear that you may not successfully Breastfeed, and you are defending that possibility.

Why else would someone make such defensive, combative comments regarding a breastfeeding mom, when she herself HASN'T had the experience of breastfeeding!!??

Hmmmmm.... food for thought ehh??

[NotAMama]

Ms. Doula,

Maybe you are right. Maybe I am bracing myself for that day when breastfeeding may fail for me, and I lose the dream of being able to do so and I am sitting in the mall bottlefeeding my child and some stranger who knows absolutely nothing about me or my situation says something like any of the above statements -- telling me I haven't sacrificed enough or I am not dedicated enough or I don't love my child enough.

Don't tell me it doesn't happen -- it does. It happened to a friend who was bottlefeeding her daughter in Target (she's a very modest and shy young lady and was, ironically enough, feeding her child a bottle of EBM). She was sitting in a chair in the patio section and a lady with a child of the same age came up to her and told her she was a terrible mother who deserved to have her child taken away from her for feeding her that poison. For days, my friend was absolutely devastated.

So, yeah, when I see comments like some of the ones in this thread (such as BFing mothers being more dedicated) I tend to get defensive . . . because the fact is that for the most part, YOU (general you) DON'T KNOW the situation. You (again, general you) don't know what that bottlefeeding woman in Target has gone through or what she has done or why she is bottlefeeding, and you (general you) immediately judge that she is a less dedicated mother who doesn't care to sacrifice for her child. No matter how dedicated she may be, BFing may have been impossible for her, and even though that mother knows the truth of her own situation, or even though she may be bottlefeeding EBM, hearing comments like that are still painful.

ETA: I apologize for upsetting this thread, and I am sorry I apparently cannot form my words well enough for you to look past my screenname and see the point I am trying to get across. I only hope that someday, if I am, in the end, unable to breastfeed and I am holding my child and bottlefeeding that some “well meaning” nursing mother does not come up to me and say anything about my level of dedication or love for my child. I don’t think I could be held responsible for my own tongue at that point. I will now bow out of this thread since it is apparent my screenname and viewpoint are unwelcome.

[german_mama2J]

Originally posted by NotAMama
Ms. Doula,

Maybe you are right. Maybe I am bracing myself for that day when breastfeeding may fail for me, and I lose the dream of being able to do so and I am sitting in the mall bottlefeeding my child and some stranger who knows absolutely nothing about me or my situation says something like any of the above statements -- telling me I haven't sacrificed enough or I am not dedicated enough or I don't love my child enough.

Why paint the clouds already dark and worry that the worst will happen? I think ONCE you have been in our shoes instead of just talking about something that may never ever happen to you.........try to think positive and don't start trowing rocks.......after all.....maybe one day you will be excactly where we are now. IMO that is how i did end up not doing good at all with BF my first......I was sooo worried....so scared about what others were thinking and saying and then supplemented with formula.......started giving cereal at 3.5 month and topped nursing at 6 month. I wish I would have never worried about all of it......and with DD i did not worry and things worked out a ton better. We are going on month 7 BF.

Don't tell me it doesn't happen -- it does. It happened to a friend who was bottlefeeding her daughter in Target (she's a very modest and shy young lady and was, ironically enough, feeding her child a bottle of EBM). She was sitting in a chair in the patio section and a lady with a child of the same age came up to her and told her she was a terrible mother who deserved to have her child taken away from her for feeding her that poison. For days, my friend was absolutely devastated.

*How do you think I felt when someone i know thru anothe friend told me at the mall that SHE can afford to Bottlefed her baby (making me think that she thinks only poor ppl nurse....which BTW is not true).
* How do you think I felt when I was told by one gentlemen at a parents conference that THIS IS NASTY and absolutly inapropriate. That he felt absolutly shocked when he realized what I was doing UNDER my sling. (he did noteven see a thing....and even worse....i was not the only one he saidthis to)
*How do you think I feel when someone tells you to take your baby to the restroom to "EAT" (they wanted me to go to the restroom to nurse her because they felt it was innapropriate to nurse her in this store. And I usually nurse very discretely in her sling). I usually just comment: IF you eat your lunch in the restroom......I will nurse my baby in there too.
*How do you feel when you are told you cannot come to a certain function because you are not allowed to bring your nursling with you.......because they are afraid it would offend the other ppl at the get together.

Honestly.......I have never seen or heard anyone ever say this to a bottlefeeding mother and I have been a member of a TON of motheringboards...........on here and on tons of other websites. NOONE ever said anything about being attacked over bottlefeeding but I have heard many of the breastfeeding moms being told way worse things than what your friend was told.


your friend to whom this happened to should have told that person: "Never knew that Ebm is considered a toxin. "Maybe she needs to learn to keep some come back lines handy for those situations. I know i feel terrible for a lil bit when I get stupid remarks......but you know......after a day that usually wears off.

So, yeah, when I see comments like some of the ones in this thread (such as BFing mothers being more dedicated) I tend to get defensive . . . because the fact is that for the most part, YOU (general you) DON'T KNOW the situation. You (again, general you) don't know what that bottlefeeding woman in Target has gone through or what she has done or why she is bottlefeeding, and you (general you) immediately judge that she is a less dedicated mother who doesn't care to sacrifice for her child. No matter how dedicated she may be, BFing may have been impossible for her, and even though that mother knows the truth of her own situation, or even though she may be bottlefeeding EBM, hearing comments like that are still painful.

WHen you are in the situation......and you are told, that someone who buys the formula at a store for their baby is as commited regarding the foodsupply of their child (I am excluding the mothers with medical issues etc.....that i think we have already covered) I am only refering to being commited on giving the bayb the best food they can give....and not on the commitment of the parents in general, a lot of parents are commited in a lot of other areas)

The majority of comments are agains BF moms. I know you hear a lot from your friends.....but that is hearsay. One day when you are at the receiving end....either as a BF mom or a bottlefeeding one.....THEN you may be able to form a very objective opinion from your own experiences and not from those of others.

ETA: I apologize for upsetting this thread, and I am sorry I apparently cannot form my words well enough for you to look past my screenname and see the point I am trying to get across. I only hope that someday, if I am, in the end, unable to breastfeed and I am holding my child and bottlefeeding that some “well meaning” nursing mother does not come up to me and say anything about my level of dedication or love for my child. I don’t think I could be held responsible for my own tongue at that point. I will now bow out of this thread since it is apparent my screenname and viewpoint are unwelcome.

Since I am the one who posted the OP........I will accept you appology for upsetting the post.
If you were in my playgroup and were one of those who had tried to BF but it did not work out for you.......then I would NOT be negative to you.....instead.......i would try to comfort you.....JUST LIKE I HAVE BEEN to those who in the last few years in my IRL playgroups have tried and not been able to continue BF. Unfortunatly those moms are very scarce.........only 2 of the 7 moms I know from my playgroups who have had babies the last 2 yrs have actually tried to BF and then stopped after approx 4 weeks due to various different reasons and issues (never anything medical btw). NONE of the others have even tried to BF.......and ALL are SAHM and from those none have decided to not BF because they had medical reasons but because it was more convinient to bottlefeed. (THEIR words not mine).
Just thought of one woman who goes to Bingo and who had to undergo several surgeries.....she actually pumped and dumped for several weeks and is back to BF. Her meds were too strong and not approved yet for nursing mothers. She had to give her son Formula during that time.......and of course noone would have said anything bad to her. Honestly......that is the commitment I am talking about.

[Ms.Doula]

Yes german_mama2J

[jeca]

I know that some of teh replies may seem a little harsh but if you can not be over zealous on a breastfeeding support forum about breastfeeding then there's truly no where left go it seems.

ducking for cover though but I ddin't say anything harsh about anyone.

[Mamid]

i breast fed my son and have been.. but when he got teeth at 4 months (over a year ago) and the "quit biting me" techniques weren't working, I decided to start to give him cheerios, arrowroot cookies and other baby teething foods.

I got in shit because my son had excema and this holistic helper decided it was because I was giving that to my son that he had excema, nevermind that he had it from a month before his teeth got in.

I still consider him exclusively breastfed because that wasn't what I considered food for him, that was something to dull his razor sharp teeth and keep me sane while they grew in more.

I'm upset that I had to break down and use that shortcut to deal with his new teeth - all 4 of them at 4 months, 8 at 7, 12 by age 1... - but it was either do that or stop nursing completely.

[Ms.Doula]

I think you made a splendid compromise!!!