Originally Posted by herins
IMy mom hasn't gotten over the difference between my first experience and this one. She is definitely a midwifery advocate now.
This is my mom too. She had "complications" with 3 of her 4 babies that probably could have been avoided if she had used a midwife and had a home birth. The 4th, she didn't get to the hospital until she was in transition. At my baby's birth, there was no yelling at my not to push, no laying on my back to push, no worried comments when it took me an hour and a half to push my first baby out, no threats of forceps, no forced room changes, and no taking my baby away from me so that I could "rest." These are all things she had to go through.
Instead, my midwives were able to help me get my baby into a better position before I went into labor to save me some of the trouble. I was able to change positions, floating in a pool as I wished. My midwife and doula made suggestions but did not give orders. When I had to push, I was greeted with encouragement. When it took a long time, my midwife assured my mom that this was normal and just gave me ideas about how to make my pushes more effective. When my baby was born, I was able to hold her as long as I wanted before I gave her to her daddy so that I could get cleaned up. He oversaw her getting weighed and got footprints. Then, they snuggled her in bed with me so that I could rest.
My mom came up to me later and said, "I wasn't against homebirth before, but now I'm really not against homebirth." She is convinced that if she had had the same kind of prenatal and perinatal care as I had, that things would have been much easier for her.