should i do it now???? - Page 2

[hippiemommaof4]

omg please dont do it

[ChristaN]

Originally Posted by eepster

It is highly likely that what took a week to recover from wasn't the "infection" but was actually the "treatment."

I hope that we didn't chase you off! I just wanted to second what eepster said and send you a .

Different issue, but much the same process mentally for me: when dd#1 was born I, too, was not married to her dad and, while not as young as you, youngish. Dd was 2 weeks "overdue" although the u/s showed that her fluid levels were fine and nothing looked off. None the less, my midwives felt that we "had to" induce and proceeded with a horrific three day induction that I'll spare you the details of. Both dd and I were lucky to come through the birth alive and okay long-term. I lost huge amounts of blood. Dh (boyfriend at the time) reports that they were holding a bucket under me and blood was just gushing out after the delivery. There was tons of meconium in my water which dd inhaled and she had to be intubated to suction her lungs. At the time I recall thinking, much like you have re the ER docs, that I was so fortunate that the medical professionals were there. I was told and thought that, in another day and age, dd and I both would have died had it not been for modern medicine.

I only later found out that the problems we experienced were more likely caused by the medical professionals. Three days of the maximum dosage of pitocin along with cytotec could have ruptured my uterus and stressed dd enough that, lo and behold, she had a bowel movement in utero and wound up with the meconium staining.

It is in no way your fault if the ER doc retracted your little boy, tore his foreskin away from his glan prematurely hurting him and causing him to cry and need a week to heal, and washed out normal skin cells that had sloughed off (smegma -- it's present in the folds of females, too, just gets washed out more easily in our early years, so doesn't build up as much as it does in non-retractable little guys). I work as an educator at a hospital now, so I am not anti-medicine or anti-doctor. However, it is not uncommon for medical professionals to be ignorant of normal intact penises b/c they haven't seen a lot and they probably don't have one themselves.

Please come back and let us know where you are in the process. I hope that your son is doing better.

[savannah&aidansmum]

Hi, no you ladies didnt run me off.. I just found out on Mon that I am getting my own place so have been busy getting things in order.
We have decided not to do it.. I know its a really tough thing and I dont think that I'd personally be able to put him though it.. unless I absolutely have to..
At the ER they did retract the skin... just ever so slightly.. not far at all.. They didnt get any puss out until the 4th doctor that looked at him.. it wasn't the regular looking stuff(cant remember the name, at his check up on monday our fam. doctor said he had some of that discharge but that it was normal) it was greenish.. the colour you'd expect with an infection.. all they told me at the ER was that he had an infection and that the cream and antibiotics would get rid of it.. which eventually it did... The swelling and redniss(sp) was very bad.. and why we took him him,, he was having a hard time peeing before and during his infection(peeing a lot less then he usually would, which is a lot)
thanks ladies for the imput.. I dont know a lot about circ.. I havent done any research.. just talking with a few family and friends thats all.. I am a young mom and it seems that a lot of dr just puch me aside and think of me as a stat. but im not.. im not in the US tho.. Im in Canada
Thanks again and sorry if my post got some of you ladies in trouble

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I am so glad you are not planning to do it.

Even a little bit of retraction though is a big : so dont let any Dr. do that ever again OK?

Sometimes smegma will be greenish because it has been under the foreskin so long. The way seperation happens the foreskin releases from the glans in spots allowing build up of dead skin cells which is what smegma is.

It is possible he had an infection but is is also possible he was just going through the normal seperation process. I hope you get a chance to read through the links provided so that in the future you will know what to do if something comes up without having to rely on medical people who dont know anything about the intact penis.

[Fellow Traveler]

Hey there, I hope you'll stick around and learn some more. Hey It couldn't hurt could it.

[savannah&aidansmum]

Thanks.. I am lookin now at all the links.. so much to go through in so little time.. lol..
im not sure if it wasnt an infection or not I do know that the antibiotics cleared it up.. I do believe that he was starting to retract on his own though.. he loves playing with his penis, and when they were pulling it back( a milliometer at the most) it was very easy to do..
again thanks for all the info.. it makes for good reading and makes me happy that i didnt get it done

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by savannah&aidansmum

Thanks.. I am lookin now at all the links.. so much to go through in so little time.. lol..
im not sure if it wasnt an infection or not I do know that the antibiotics cleared it up..

Honestly, if it took a week, it doesn't sound like the antibiotics cleared it up to me. Every infection I've ever had that responded to antibiotics cleared up much faster than that...

I do believe that he was starting to retract on his own though.. he loves playing with his penis, and when they were pulling it back( a milliometer at the most) it was very easy to do..
again thanks for all the info.. it makes for good reading and makes me happy that i didnt get it done

Are you sure it was only a millimeter? That doesn't sound like it would cause tearing...

Glad to see you're still reading.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Within 24 hours if there is a infection it will be much improved. I know btdt with ds his poor penis swelled to easily 5x's the normal size I showed a picture to one of the members here who can back me up on that. Within 24 hours of starting the oral and topical abx the swelling was all but gone and he was totally better in less than 3 days.

[weliveintheforest]

Originally Posted by savannah&aidansmum

hey got a lot of puss out, along with lots of tears, they sent us home with a prescription for antibiotics and some cream..

I took this to mean tears as in crying, not tears as in torn - is that what you meant?

I'm so glad you decided not to do it, and sorry he had to suffer for a week

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by weliveintheforest

I took this to mean tears as in crying, not tears as in torn - is that what you meant?

Oh! Right - that's probably what she meant. I read it as tearing of the foreskin. I'm glad you pointed that out...I feel better now.

[savannah&aidansmum]

yes.. i meant tears as in crying.. sorry for the confusion...

[treetop]

Hi Momma,
It sounds like everybody who posted has a lot of great advise. I don't have much to add except welcome to MDC and hugs to you! It is so hard to see our little ones in so much pain! Good job on doing your research before making such a huge decision!