Originally Posted by rhiOrion
We didn't have internet, but even if we had I wouldn't have posted it online.
The internet makes things so much easier these days.
I am so glad it wasn't around when I was young. In fact, I was around 30 when the internet started getting popular. I can't imagine how tough it is as a kid in this day and time having people gossip about you or put your personal stuff online for others to see.
Originally Posted by Calee
Calm down guys. I didn't say I thought sex before marriage was wrong. I said that my husband didn't do it. I never said what I did or did not do.
I DO think that sexual exploration at a very young age CAN be detrimental. I think that 12 is very, very young.
I don't have to be a holy roller to not want my pre-pubescent being sexually active. Sorry you guys have a hard time with that. And I can let my children know what I would like.
Obviously, they could make other choices. I hope not, because I am not just out to ruin their fun. I have reasons for feeling the way that I do. If they do make choices that aren't my favorite, I will still love and care for them. But I am not going to just "expect" that they will do things that I think that are inappropriate for their age, and not let them know that they don't HAVE to, and not EVERYONE is doing it!
I see nothing wrong with your feelings on this. I feel much the same way regarding my own children. I know what I did back then and how easy it was to get in to that peer group where all the girls were talking about making out and eventually sex and how I just kind of got caught up in it all. Then meeting my first boyfriend at 14 and being allowed to date him (my parents were terrible parents) meant that I ended up being pressured in to sex by age 15.
I will try as hard as I can to make sure my kids don't end up going the same route I did. First I plan to talk to them about relationships and that following the pack doesn't always have to happen and that they can be their own person. Then I plan to be there for them when they have questions about things so they aren't scared to come to me if they choose to. I was forbidden to even hint around about kissing or making out in my home, let alone sex.
Then my parents divorced, dad didn't pay attention to me and I craved a male influence and having a mother that thought the subject of sex and relationships was taboo made it all the more tough. I was also a latch key kid, had too many hours of friend-time each day and no parental control, etc-etc. Soooo many things can push a young child to do things they shouldn't be doing.