Post here if you're from the Midwest (or other high circ area) and have an intact son! - Page 3

[chaoticzenmom]

Originally Posted by BlessedMommy2006

Just wanted to know that I'm not alone. I'm in Michigan and have an intact baby son, 5 1/2 weeks old, born on February 27th!

Our sons share a birthday! 6 weeks on Friday

[BlessedMommy2006]

Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom

Our sons share a birthday! 6 weeks on Friday

How cool is that! My son was born at 3:39 PM by the way.

[DanelleB]

Two beautiful intact boys here in MO. I don't know of any other little boys around here that aren't circ'ed.

[In Exile]

I'm in New England and unless you seek out similiar minded people all babies and toddlers seem to be mutilated. Unless you are actively surrounding yourself with like minded people you will always see that horrific sight.

It get's to the point that I really fear for some kids as soon as I hear if a certain couple has a boy.

It always blows my mind how people that are actively trying to do things there own way- even home birth, drag their sleeping babies into some office to have their genitals mutilated. One friend in particular blew my mind. She was so prepared, so ready to go, begged me to show her my slings and wraps, read every book on my shelf- and than wham, circed. I nearly fainted, I didn't know. The baby was only a couple of days old and according to the Doc it was healing "just fine". JUST FINE?? That was such a sick sight.

I really resent a lof of people because I KNOW they do that to their children. Especially when I know they circed their first- I hear they are pregnant again- I feel awful for the kid. Everytime I hear, "it's a girl", I am relieved.

I will be so glad to be in Europe one day where you don't have to worry as much whether a sweet newborn boy had been just mutilated and who's "welcome gift" from his parents was being skinned alive.

Yes, circ also happens in Europe but not in the form of RIC.

[Sunflower223]

Alabama here. My son is the only male I know that is not circ (My step dad was not circ until very recently, and I didn't even know that until I found out he was getting it done).

Dh was totally against the idea of leaving him intact in the beginning but with the help of this forum I changed his mind. He is quicker than me to defend our choices now, a total turn around.

I've had a few people from my distant family make unintelligible comments about it being "gross", they are members I really don't care for anyway. Most others haven't really commented about it.

[mtchen79]

I live in Lexington, KY. I don't have any sons but my most recent birth was almost 1 month ago and we didn't know the gender ahead of time. If we had had a boy, he would've been the only intact boy I personally know in this area except for the son of a lady at work and her son is about 10 yrs old (and I've never met this kid). While DH and I and the kids were visiting DH's family in Southern IN about 1 week ago, we were talking about circ with his parents, his older brother and older brother's girlfriend. DH's brother is one of those guys who has always been cool with a lot of friends and athletic and likes to pick on people and tease so he and DH don't actually get along that well. Anyway, DH and I were trying to explain why not to circ and his brother's girlfriend was horrified when she heard anesthesia is seldom used and that babies go into shock from the trauma. DH's brother, although he listened, of course said that intact boys will get teased in the locker room, blah blah blah and the he bore no ill will towards his and DH's mom for having himself circ'd even though DH tried to tell him that being intact increases sensitivity during sex, also some other comment about how weird Dennis Rodman looks naked (I guess he is intact?). Anyway, I have a feeling that if they get married and have boys, those boys will probably be circ'd since they are mainstream like that. DH's mom mentioned the cleanliness and lower STD transmission rate and that she can see both sides of the argument... that comment always gets to me - both sides of the argument? :

[desertpenguin]

Originally Posted by Treece

I live in Tulsa, OK. I ~know~ it's generally put into the Southern stats, but honestly I don't see how. I don't know anyone my kids ages that is intact (except my MW's ds).

i'm in OKC and we've met some people who are anti-RIC but not anyone we hang out with. my midwives, some people from the homebirth support group...

i'm tired of hearing dh's aunt joke about how she kept her ds's plastibell and is gunna show it to him when he's older and talk about how small his penis was. :Puke and she knows our boys are intact. uhm, HELLO!

[AGierald]

Im in chicago with an intact boy, but circ'd hubby.

Is it horrible of me if i PRAY that people have girls when I know they will circ?

[mrs_mandolini]

Central IN. I know one other little non-circed boy besides my own. There may be one or two others but I don't know for sure (people raised in other cultures.)

[Tinijocaro]

When ds #1 was born, we lived in Bloomington, IL and we decided no tohave him circ'd against a tide of pressure to have him circ'd. We had no internet at this time-1995. It was a scary decision, but I knew it was the right one. We went on to have another son in 1999 in Buffalo, NY and he's intact too. So are both of our daughters.

Kudos to all of you who are in similar situations and choosing not to circ.:

[mslissa]

We live near St. Louis. DS was born in November and he is intact. My OB did not circ her son and my perinatologist circ'd his older two boys, but not his younger two. Interestingly, the latest Newsweek quotes an OB from a local hospital stating that, "We whack them all."

I worked in a rural area and I was terrified about how child care would handle DS. Luckily, I quit that job and don't have to worry about that now. A nurse that was on my staff at my former job told parents of a newborn boy to make sure they retract and clean regularly. Yikes!

I credit much of our decision to what I have learned here on MDC. I thought DH would put up a fuss, but he didn't. After having a DD who spent six weeks in the NICU and has had several surgeries I think he just couldn't stomach the idea of causing DS pain for something that is so unnecessary.

I'm so happy with our decision!

[minkajane]

DS was born in Texas and we live in SW Ohio. I was nervous when he went to daycare that they would retract, so I made sure that it was in all his paperwork not to retract AND I spoke to the director of the daycare about it. She assured me that she would make sure all her teachers knew proper care of the intact penis and as far as I know, he was never retracted.

We live in an area that has a high Hispanic population, so I'm sure a good percentage of DS's friends are intact. As far as I know, none of the boys I know personally are intact. My family was shocked (but for the most part not pushy or upset) when I left DS intact, especially when I explained why.

[kriket]

Originally Posted by minkajane

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We live in an area that has a high Hispanic population,

I live right around the corner from you, I'm in Dayton. Sadly, we also live in what seems like a high concentration of the ignorant. I've actually thought about seeking out a Hispanic DCP (if I should ever need one) just so his penis is safe, AND maybe learning Spanish on the side! A French DCP would be nice too, but I don't know how many of those there are in this area.

[minkajane]

Originally Posted by kriket

Sadly, we also live in what seems like a high concentration of the ignorant.

You got that right. It's even worse in my hometown (Huntington, WV). Surprisingly, small-town West Virginia doesn't seem to get a lot of forward-thinking individuals. It's more of the "This is the way Mamaw usta do it, so it's jest fine for ma family!" attitude.

ETA: I've actually seen a lot more ignorance, misinformation, and outright lies from the military docs around here than the civilian ones. DS got some really BAD treatment and diagnoses at Wright-Patt AFB.

Side note - PM me, we should hang out!

[Treece]

Originally Posted by desertpenguin

i'm in OKC and we've met some people who are anti-RIC but not anyone we hang out with. my midwives, some people from the homebirth support group...

i'm tired of hearing dh's aunt joke about how she kept her ds's plastibell and is gunna show it to him when he's older and talk about how small his penis was. :Puke and she knows our boys are intact. uhm, HELLO!

I know a woman who had her sons circed and kept the skin in her jewelry box so she'd "have a part of them with her." THAT is gross. Why do people feel the need to rmind their poor sons that they cut off part of their genitals? If my parents came to me (I'm female) with an excised part of my body (or the surgical instrument used to do so) I think I would puke right then and there.

Hello, neighbor!!!

[mommyminer]

Ewwwwwwww!!!!!!! Kept the foreskin! Anyway....

I live in Western IL and have an intact 9.5 month old.

[tmaue]

I live in the Peoria, IL area and know quite a few people who do not circ, most from my attachment parenting community but also those seen by my midwife. I didn't even think of not doing it till I was around other people who did not. This made it much easier.

[writteninkursive]

I'm from northeastern Ohio and we just found out today that we are expecting our first BOY! And he will most definitely be intact!!! :

[Fay]

I'm in MI & I have 2 intact sons & 1 intact husband. No one in our house has been circumcised. When I told our ped we were not circ'ing, she said, "Good." My OB asked about it, too, and I told him that circ was medically unnecessary...he vehemently said, "Circumcision is barbaric!" My point is that there may be more support for leaving your child intact than it may appear at first, because the Midwest is full of free-thinking individualists with all kinds of strong opinions.

[nd_deadhead]

I live in North Dakota, and my 14-yr-old twin sons are intact.

You want to know something? They have NO IDEA if their best friends or classmates have foreskins or not. They don't look, they don't ask, they don't parade around with no pants on. So it really doesn't matter what the rest of the neighborhod does - unless you live in a nudist colony, the state of your son's penis will be no one's buisiness but his own.