Well, the fact that lots of my "AP" ideas are what's "NORMAL" in DH's culture. (he says babies raised in what we would call the "mainstream" way don't "feel the love they need" like babies who sleep with their parents, are breastfed, etc.) We agree that those are NEEDS of our babies. (When I asked him about EC one day, describing it, he said that's what they do there, that's just "normal" and no, he does not know how they know how to do it,
That's my next big adventure, I think, I would like to learn.) non-throwaway diapers are "normal' too.
We enjoy each other's cooking/foods. (I introduced DH to the concept of slapping peanut butter on bread and eating it, he introduced me to peanut butter as an ingredient in foods other than cookies--his eggplant dish, salad he makes, soup....sounds nasty, tastes great
Respect for family/elders. My mother lives with us, and I don't know that DH would've married me if I WASN'T this type of person. I'm her only child, it's what you do. We're also both very family-oriented, as in when he is not at work, (or sleeping due to his weird hours), we are together. We both have our friends and our interests, but they have their place and time--secondary to our time as a family.
Also, the vast majority of meals in our house are eaten at our table as a family. This is the "norm" to him. Even on a road trip, he will stop and eat in the fast food place or whatever, it is not in his makeup to eat in a moving vehicle. Or eat a meal in front of a TV.
Having a stay-at-home mom is "normal" to him and he agrees this is what our children need, not a daycare.
I think his influence has been extremely good for all of us. back to the meals example, I was raised mainly eating in front of a TV or while reading a book, separate, alone. The table was a place you ate at the relatives' or on holidays....I am very happy that our children are not growing up with that 'norm'.