Originally Posted by meemee
here is how i see it. if i grew up with my dad poking me, i would think htat normal. why in the world would i think that is unnatural. its a natural state of being. the only time she would think that is odd is if and when someone told her any differently. or tried to. but by that time she would have a great relationship established with her dad and would never doubt his intentions.
i am so sick to my stomach to see all this 'head trip' around sexualism here. (not pointing fingers at anyone here - just what we have become in society in general). this is a cultural part of me. i come from a more free nudist culture.
being naked is ok. being poked is ok. its natural. i wish we could be a little more open. i think we hide ourselves behind clothes and hurt ourselves so much more. my dd is 6 1/2 and still sees her daddy naked. i am so grateful for that. i have grown up seeing my mom naked. my dad sometimes. and i enjoyed that they felt comfortable enough to do that.
just wanted to say.. I grew up in a pretty open environment too, and I remember seeing my parents nude many times
I really was ok with nudity too until I was violated (raped). looking back though, I don't like the memories (we co-slept, showered together, et cetera.. nothing bad, jsut uncomfortable to me now for whatever reason). unfortunetely, as you pointed out, we live in a society where women are objectified and dismissed so often that a lot of us have learned to protect ourselves, even when there is no threat. So, while I'm not saying that those of us who haven't been traumatized should be ok with nudity, I do think that past experiences can def justify being uncomfortable, or even having symtoms of ptsd when in these situations. I do feel like it is my responsibilty to teach my girls modesty in our world though, however unfortunate..
btw, I am a big fan of nekkid time- with the whole family- I draw the line though at 'poking' in bed, however unintentional.